A girl of 20. - Page 2

Ya virat thinks Sai is stretching him like a rubber band and he is at his breaking point but i dont think he realizes what Sai's position is. She is hanging on by a thread. All her bravado is a facade, underneath it all shes a young girl who is grappling with far too much. If he is SO affected by the conflict between Sai and his family because he is the mediator then he should imagine the plight of this girl who is cornered by all his family members. Ofcourse Virat is also dealing with a lot himself but its nowhere close to what Sai is going through. And hes blind if he cant see that his family and PP are all projecting all their displeasure and anger about HIS decision to marry on Sai. Virat is not the one getting the brickbats, Sai is. Maybe she should learn to let some things go and not always engage with them when they provoke her...but that she will learn with time. I think Sai tries her best to avoid trouble but this family is haath dhoke behind her.

Sai is impending an emotional breakdown. I'd love to see her just vent to her aaba's photo and let herself just CRY. She needs a tight hug. And virat should walk in on her breakdown just like he does when shes doing her monoacting, maybe he will finally realize that shes not angry but that she is unhappy and depressed living in this house. And he needs to reflect back on his conversations with her to realize that she DOES acknowledge everything he has done for her. She has thanked him for saving her life in GC. on the way to do the admission she thanked him for speaking up for her. After the admission she thanked him for "fighting" his family for her sake. She thanked him for paying her fees. When he rebuked PP in that corridor after the DIG incident, she thanked him for giving her the benefit of doubt. So she has always thanked him for all that he has done. She gave him a thank you note when he gifted her a pen. So she values it all. And apart from thanking him personally, he has overheard her talk to her aabaa about "virat sir acche insaan hai".

So its definitely unfair for him to count these things again and make it seem like she "owes him anything". This is a marriage. Shes not his employee that she will just follow his orders. And she is trying to apnaofy his family too- in no time, she has made a special bond with Shivani ashwini and devi.

Sai has been very thoughtful to not bring up her dad dying to save him. She had no one except her aabaa, its natural that she will always reference him. And she trusts Virat because her father trusted him. She has taken everything he said at face value. Deal shaadi, full freedom to pursue her education and dreams and she can leave after 5 years. But She didn't account for these "wife" and "bahu" responsibilities. So now that she is faced with all that, she is trying to take ownership of herself and go away to live independently in the hostel but Virat has convinced her to stay. She does care what he says and she values his opinion. She does not deliberately go pick a fight with his family. They are the ones who provoke her. Why dont they just ignore her existence if she's so badtameez.

It's like everyone is living in their own little world of chaos and wants the other to understand them w/o communicating. They have extremely high expectations of each other w/o fully understanding each other.

Just like Sai has outburts, now Virat is and soon Pakhi will. The the entire house will.

Until they just sit down and not tlk to each other at all and grab space..this issue wont resolve for some time.

i agree

i feel that virat is either totally unaware of how his family is treating his mother and what kind of people they are or he is just in that 'kaise bhi hai meri family hai' zone.

i was really disappointed to see virat not even realizing how he hurt his mom and spoke to her that way in the morning.

in fact he was saying that he was not at fault it was his mother's mistake. i mean now he thinks he is more 'MATURE' than his mother?? really?

he needs some reality check, i hope he gets one very soon..

Originally posted by: rithika2015

Sai is a girl under 20 yrs of age. No mother. Pampered by her dad. Who is given all sorts of freedom in her life.

Her abha understood her intentions behind her every word nd action.

Now...

She just lost her father. Has no one else to look after her.

Married a man becoz of force by others.

Man claims to not to expect anything from him and she is just his responsibility. Gave her choice to leave him nd this relation once she is a doctor.

Enters a family to doesnt like her. Keeps taunting her.

Her husband's ex is infront of her. Interrupting them nd taunting her whenever possible.

Is called by names by whole family fr every small mistake

Amongst all these if u really expect sai to be normal nd behav maturely its really foolishness. No one tries to understand her and her state of mind not even virat. She said clearly she vl react the same way ppl act with her. And its visible she is gud with shivani, ashwini nd devi bt bad vth bhavani pakhi nd co. Even virat knew that bt stil expects her to b sane.

I agree she might have crossed line with adults in morning. Bt in the night it was him who initiated the arguemnt. She avoided talking to him. Bt he instigated her and when she retorded back he blamed her.

Just like all he also said he did ahsaan on her by marrying her indirectly. Bt what if sayi retorded back saying u are living a life gifted by my father. If my father didnt save u that day he wudnt be there nd she wud hav been with her father studying medicine without all this non sense in her life. Amongst all how can virat forget that?

When he counted all those favours done by him i agree with the way sayi retorted saying u are no where near my abha. She can say that becoz her abha lost his life saving him.

A girl who doesnt know the real world lived under her dad's protection is facing a new world all of sudden. Instead of giving her time the whole family taunts her.

Frustrated with all these how will any girl react. Its same way sai reacting. Or else she has to keep shut and take the shit. Since sai isnt that type of girl shd wud react in the same.

I can totally relate to her anger and shouting. May be with elders it was little over the line bt vth virat i dont agree.

wonderful post. Many people were irked with sai in insta too..i am nearing my 40 years,now only i am becoming matured. woman are always made to live within a circle and not allowed to explore what the real world is... many parents are too protective about their daughters and fail to teach their daughters the reality of life..once she gets married,hell breaks out making the girl terrified and is helpless and clueless about how to face this society and so called in laws.. i see myself in sai character..though i am not as bold as her,but never used to do chamchagiri of wrong people and i disagreed with my parents on many issues..my pati is like virat,agar bahar vaalaey ya koi chappal saey humaey maaraen to it should be definetly mistake of his wife. for him elders elders elders..when there are no parents to support or the spouse doesnt understand you marriage life will be hell... i too stopped reacting,its not that i acceoted the defeat, but i want peace of mind..you cannot shut the people by arguing whole life..most of them are thick skinned.🤬they lack empathy.

So it will take time or years for sai to understand this..she has to face many things in her college,workplace etc..time changes a person.

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Originally posted by: deepikagupta9

Sai was d one who said I will not marry this person , still went to marry him when she had choice to run away which she had suggested to virat , she should applied this thing on herself , she had seen there was really no one her own in GC.

Infact sai was quite clear she want to focus on her dream why dint she backout .

Starplus is giving other show shaurya & anokhi where anokhi 2 had ran away from her own marriage to fulfill her dream, she 2 is of 19 or 18.

Balika Vadhu Anandi was 18 when she found out her husband jagdish cheated her coz he dint find her fit as she was from village , Anandi made her life her identity without any men help, yes her FIL helped her to study but choices were of Anandi .

Virat is always wrong sai is always bechari . Aaj 2 virat ne keh diya ki jao , what's she waiting for just leave . Chali jaye na scholarship mil jayegi just go away from d guy.

Sai is very well aware her silence will trigger him thats why she choose to stay mum. There is a voice over also.

Kamal sir reference sai isiliye laati hain coz she know virat finds himself guilty , it will break him in minutes .

Today she is breathing coz of him still I know how much she respects him but I know virat will never say this.

Virat already signed VRS of kamal sir before kamal sir went to Mumbai , replacement to kamal sir inspector pawar also joined in still it was kamal sir decision of not taking retirement not virat.

Sai ke sahi hone se virat galat nhi hota . Even virat had beared a lot d day he came back. Just virat don't show his pain , it look he is getting high class treatment . Virat bears 10 time more than sai with pressure from all d sides.

I m damn sure if virat dies also then he will only wrong coz sai 2 bechari hain.

i didn't watch anokhi and i don't know the backstory of sai and virat's marriage as i started watching after their marriage.

anandhi ke bharemin i can say that she was married at the age of 12, ussne bachpan se jo bhi saha hai that made her strong and 'mature'. she had to do many sacrifices and go through lot of difficulties and saw the real-world problems and she used to come up with the solutions also..all these she had to go through to be that matured by the age of 18. so we cant compare her to sai. as u know how sai was brought up and all.

in fact even in real life we cant expect that at specific age all woman think same or have same capabilities and maturity levels. all that depends on from which background they are coming from and what all they went through and all of that.

so we cant compare sai to other TV show characters of same age.

secondly, even i want sai to leave to the hostel.

virat has done a lot for sai, and sai also did a lot like she kept aside her ego and went to bring back pakhi, for girl like sai its a big deal, she cared for virat so she did that, no one forced her.

she loved his mother, his bua, went to great extents to prove her innocence even after knowing that sab usi pe bhadak ne waale hai.

virat should think ki why is she having problem with only adjusting with kaku and gang?? he should think if sai is really selfish and only thinks about herself then why did she went to bring back pakhi? pakhi ko tho woh pasnd bhi nay karti hai so yeh kushi waali baat hona chahiye na sai keliye? he should think why she took stand for his bua when his whole family was breaking her mentally and emotionally from inside?

i didn't like the way sai referred to her father in that fight scene. and how she asked him what all he did for her.. i don't support that. other than that i think virat should think about the about points before judging sai and saying that she don't think about others.

ok can someone please tell what that kaka sorry kaku aunty wants sai to do exactly in the precap?..ghar ka kaam? 🤪kya kaam vaisaey,they dont drink,they dont eat ,they dont sleep and dont go for even 1 or 2? they are only fighting or breathing?

sorry i forgot to add one more thing :

They also do one useless job,the job of drinking tea made by their 2 minutes love yoga guru(Dont know whether they brushed their teeth or not)🤷so what exact kaam they want to do?

To count how many time they drank the tea made by love yoga guru?

Originally posted by: chinnu_kaku

ok can someone pkease tell what that kaka aunty wants sai to do exactly..ghar ka kaam? kya kaam vaisaey,they dont drink,they dont eat ,they dont sleep and dont go for even 1 or 2? they are only fighting or breathing?

sorry i forgot add one more thing :

They also do one useless job,the job of drinking tea made by their 2 minute yoga guru🤷so what exact kaam they want to do?

To count how many time they drank the tea made by love yoga guru?

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simple answer is that she wants sai to bear everything..all taunts..all punishments..all insults and not say a word back. just like ashwini did all these years.

even if sai bears all these kaku won't stop.. she will continue all these till she die 😆

just like ashwini did bear everything still no respect is giving to her.

so ashwini's life is basically a representation of how sai's life will be if she does all that virat told her to do, like to 'adjust' with his family members and not talk back.

so we want sai to be just the way she is. not change even a bit.

but yeah she should learn to play it smartly. make virat see kaku and gangs 'true colors'. uske baadh even virat will not force her to 'adjust' in the family and will say what she is doing is right.

Originally posted by: rithika2015

Sai is a girl under 20 yrs of age. No mother. Pampered by her dad. Who is given all sorts of freedom in her life.

Her abha understood her intentions behind her every word nd action.

Now...

She just lost her father. Has no one else to look after her.

Married a man becoz of force by others.

Man claims to not to expect anything from him and she is just his responsibility. Gave her choice to leave him nd this relation once she is a doctor.

Enters a family to doesnt like her. Keeps taunting her.

Her husband's ex is infront of her. Interrupting them nd taunting her whenever possible.

Is called by names by whole family fr every small mistake

Amongst all these if u really expect sai to be normal nd behav maturely its really foolishness. No one tries to understand her and her state of mind not even virat. She said clearly she vl react the same way ppl act with her. And its visible she is gud with shivani, ashwini nd devi bt bad vth bhavani pakhi nd co. Even virat knew that bt stil expects her to b sane.

I agree she might hav crossed line with adults in morning. Bt in the night it was him who initiated the arguemnt. She avoided talking to him. Bt he instigated her and when she retorded back he blamed her.

Just like all he also said he did ahsaan on her by marrying her indirectly. Bt what if sayi retorded back saying u are living a life gifted by my father. If my father didnt save u that day he wudnt be there nd she wud hav been with her father studying medicine without all this non sense in her life. Amongst all how can virat forget that?

When he counted all those favours done by him i agree with the way sayi retorted saying u are no where near my abha. She can say that becoz her abha lost his life saving him.

A girl who doesnt know the real world lived under her dad's protection is facing a new world all of sudden. Instead of giving her time the whole family taunts her.

Frustrated with all these how will any girl react. Its same way sai reacting. Or else she has to keep shut and take the shit. Since sai isnt that type of girl shd wud react in the same.

I can totally relate to her anger and shouting. May be with elders it was little over the line bt vth virat i dont agree.

Hey Rithika! Much needed post. You have worded the feelings of quite a few of us and how well you've done that! So, won't add much, but here are my two cents.

@ bold: Someone has to be really cold-hearted and bereft of the basic human emotions to not empathize with Sai.

Sharing a personal account for perspective. A cousin's mother was terminally ill, but hoping against hope she had made promise to God (mannat) that she'd give up on her most favourite things if God'd grant life to her mother. It has been years since her mother passed away, but the girl still doesn't even look at those things. I didn't want to narrate any personal incident here, but am doing so only to prove the point how significant parents are in our lives. We can go to any lengths for them, so imagine the plight of a daughter whose entire world was encompassed in her Abba.

Some emotionally strong people might cope very well with a parent's loss, but some just can not, and that too when the parent didn't die of natural causes, rather laid down his life in the line of duty, saving someone else. That's a sacrifice of the highest order in my opinion and Virat may choose to conveniently forget it, but Sai cannot. Still, I don't think she brought it up today, and if she didn't, that speaks volumes about her Aaba's upbringing. To do good and then boast about it, isn't a really humble or nice deed to do, and anyone who does so would lose respect rather than earn it.

Agreed, that Sai is not a very "mature" person, doesn't know the art of diplomacy and getting things done tactfully, but that doesn't absolve others of their moral crimes, and clearly doesn't give anyone the right to pounce at her at the slightest provocation. If you know someone is volatile, you, being the sensible and calm person, as Virat has claimed himself to be, try to make them understand, rather than mirroring their volatility and aggression. Sai is not absolutely right in her hostile outbursts, but Virat isn't too. Both are confused, hurt, and therefore, I guess let's leave it at that, without pitting one against the other.

P.S. Have watched only snippets of past episodes, so cannot really say much and I apologise in advance for misstating any fact, based on my limited knowledge of what actually transpired in the epsiodes.

Bang on post ..you explained it very well

Family started insult her any possible way from the time she was on doorstep of chawan niwas after marriage ..from then she got insult , regressive behavior from family, husband's ex roaming around them , taunt her anywhere everywhere but still Virat wants her to give respect to family who even doesn't care for their own family's daughter!! Come on she is 18 year old ,in the name of family no one left , married to a person who said that don't expect anything from me because he loves someone else but have to many expectations from deal wali wife!! A husband who shouts at her as loud as possible infront of whole family is not acceptable no matter what . If she is at fault still there is way to tell her.

Sai should tell him that his father saved him that's why he is here shouting, insulting her ..Kya bolta tab Virat ??