Originally posted by: ..Peppermint..
The drama quotient is so high that even Sundays are full of discussions.😆
I so agree that these type of things happen in many families. Not as dramatic as it is here, but it happens. Thing is these types of things are mostly hidden for various reasons from the eyes of the society.
The problem really with men being a referee is that a referee is expected to be unbiased, to not have any affiliations or any other factor that may cause a conflict of interest in choosing. It is only then that a proper judgement would be given. However, here on one side is the family and on the other side your wife, who is tied to that house because of you and for you. How are you to navigate in this case, because you are gonna land in hot oil no matter which side you choose. The best step would probably be try to neutral in most cases. I have to give it to Virat tho. He does do a fair job getting behind Sai since day one.
However, there is a line that he does not want her to cross. Again the reception scene comes to my mind. He seems to have no problem if she lingers close to that line (reporting scene), just that she should not cross that.
Ill be honest, I love Virat because of the person he is with Sai - be it in the way that he left his brother's wedding for her, the way he pampers her or the way he is proud of her. If as an ACP, he gets his strength from that uniform, I believe as a son of the house he is drawing a lot of his strength from her because he knows that her tareeka may be wrong, but she is not. That is precisely the reason that he lets her linger close to his tolerance line because he kind of has the confidence that she won't cross it knowingly.
She does lack a bit of tact, but that is mostly because she has probably never met namunas like these before. Her composure during her Father's injury scene if anything is proof that she knows how to navigate through difficult moments. It's just that this is all new to her. It will take time to reach the level where she'll know how to tackle them. She did display that she is on the path tho. when Pakhi came back, she let everyone cause chaos and only asked the father for tea.
You said it. In conflicts, he tries to play the role of a diffuser, trying to cut off extreme flow of current from both sides so that none is hurt. The scene where he admonished Pakhi was very telling, he let everyone go and talked to her calmly and personally to convey his disappointment.
I seriously don't buy the you can leave this marriage after you become a doctor. I don't think he meant it at all. That was only to show her that she is not going to be tied in this.
My problem with him telling her that you can stay if you want is that it will lead to expectations that they could work this out. When they got married, he told her "umeed mat rakhna" and by telling her that she can stay, he will be building up that umeed that they could be a normal husband and wife one day. (Obviously they are unknowingly working towards it)However, as long as Virat insists on keeping that Vaada, that is impossible and will lead to heartbreak. If he tells her that, by default, she'll be doing this for their normal relationship then - to stay together with her husband.
I only want him to do this once he has had a talk with himself. Even after he clears his own fog it's going to be an uphill climb to get to her, especially now that she believes he still loves Patthar-didi and can't live, eat or sleep without her existence in that house.
Oh these two munchkins have a lot to learn together.😆❤️
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