Virat also abusive unknowingly?

Like Virat told Sai to take his family’s behavior to make sure she doesn’t leave, that’s emotional manipulation .. is he also indirectly abusive on an emotional level? At this point is he really out to look out for Sai? He isn’t realizing he is giving huge hopes to two woman only to break each one of their hearts ..

There's a phenomenon amongst abuse survivors, to internalize the tactics of abuse they have been subjected to and expel them towards others and it's possible Virat is doing the same.

Virat his entire life, has been exposed to the Chavan level of 'normal' and he has never questioned it until Sai came along. He never questioned it until she on every occasion has been rightfully up in and arms about the regressive, oppressive and abusive nature of the Chavan household. Infact it has been through Sai's arguments that Virat himself has even begun to acknowledge the verbal abuse his own mother suffers at the hands of her own husband.

Ashwini has been the ragdoll for punches and abuse before Sai came along and seeing Ninad and his shameless nature, I'm pretty sure his verbal and emotional abuse of her has existed through their entire marriage. Even as a child, Virat would have been privy to that seeing as Ashwini has spoken back even prior to Sai's entering the home. When you've been conditioned to live a certain way, it takes a very hard external force to make you unlearn the stuff you thought was normal. Virat is doing the same unlearning, and he will continue to make mistakes in the process.

This doesn't mean I'm absolving Virat of his mistake or of his own continued fuelling of the patriarchal views that are the foundation of his family. He married Sai, knowing her dream was to be a doctor, while also KNOWING the rules of his own family. He thrust her into this hell without so much as a warning. I don't think even he realized that just because he had been the favoured son for so long, that not all of his decisions would be accepted. Until Sai, he had never taken control of his own decisions before.

So it's interesting that you bring this up because I'm inclined to agree. Virat, without knowing it, is perpetuating the abuse he's internalized as a result of his upbringing. He thinks that his family is moreso angry at him because he took the decision to marry Sai, and are just directing his anger at her. He is so brainwashed by Kaku that he thinks that if Sai calmed down just a little bit, it may make things easier on all of them. But no one deserves to be treated like a caged wild animal, and it is dehumanizing to continue to push Sai into believing that she just has to deal because the Chavans are just like that.

Ya true. Why should a woman whom he is married as a farz, whom he told to not interfere in his family matters (when she waa talking to devi tai), whom he promised that the purpose of the marriage is to ensure that she can do her studies- why should she build bonds with the family and become a good bahu. Ultimately all that is only obligatory if she is truly his "wife" but i dont think he has understood that hes basically forcing her to get attached to him and everyone else- all for what, to be in a loveless marriage with no hope of her ever being able to find a "husband" in him because of his stupid Vaada to some crazy b***ch who is a downright horrible person.

Exactly.

After watching yesterday's torturous episode I was counting on today's episode when virat will enter the scene and will bash everyone for making sai suffer like that but no.... Today's episode was like.... Khoda pahad nikla chuha😆

I was like....what! For this shitty episode I was waiting for whole day😡

Virat did speak up and stopped pakhi didi but it was nothing in compare to the torture they put sai through.

And after that virat ulta sai ko hi gyan de raha tha ki uski chakram family ki harkatein sehna seekhe...i mean what the hell😡

@vena.cava- VERY well expressed.

Not unknowingly because he's NOT BLIND.

Originally posted by: neeraja91

Ya true. Why should a woman whom he is married as a farz, whom he told to not interfere in his family matters (when she waa talking to devi tai), whom he promised that the purpose of the marriage is to ensure that she can do her studies- why should she build bonds with the family and become a good bahu. Ultimately all that is only obligatory if she is truly his "wife" but i dont think he has understood that hes basically forcing her to get attached to him and everyone else- all for what, to be in a loveless marriage with no hope of her ever being able to find a "husband" in him because of his stupid Vaada to some crazy b***ch who is a downright horrible person.

UFFF I completely forgot when he told her not to interrupt family matters re: devi tai. What a load of BS LOL. You can't have it both ways. The Chavans go no stone unturned to show how much Sai isn't the ideal bahu, while also continuing to say they don't acknowledge this marriage. Like which is it? What do you want?! Virat did the same today. Farz ki baaton mein apni hadh bhool gaya. You cannot expect anything from a woman you keep toeing the line with and haven't created clear boundaries with.

Most of the Chavans including Virat want to have it both ways.

Yeh hamaari bahu nahi hain but bahu ka farz nibhana padega!

Tum meri zimmedari ho but patni ka farz nibhana padega.

As vena.cava said Virat was the golden child & that shaped his thought process. Now thanks to the feisty Sai he’s truly seeing his family & ‘friend’. Hopefully it doesn’t take him too long to recognize the torture the poor girl is undergoing.

I am wondering if I should watch the episode today or not!

Please suggest

Its not unwatchable like yesterday but it'll likely leave you highly disappointed and feeling sour, letdown, upset . But atleast its SaiRat on screen together. 🤷