@red be a virat chavan and break that promise😉
I really want to know ur analysis about virat asking sayi on a date😭
The LONG reply I wrote yesterday vanished because of a wrong click, I am writing again today hoping to get the same thoughts. Purely from my point of view: I do not think he meant to ask her on a date. It wasn't a proposal to go out on a date at all. To me, it came as a natural, involuntary urge to share a very special memory with a 'special' someone who he can connect with at a level that not everyone can understand. His "mere saath chalogi, nadi kinare" came as a reflex question after recollecting the happy days he spent with Samrat, perhaps the ONLY other person who can bring out his goofy side and also understand why everyone must have a child inside. Sai, after Samrat, is the only person who has the same infectious childhlike curiosity, excitement and even carefree nature. There is no denying that he feels happiest when he is with her, even when they are quarrelling and he realises it very consciously. The "tum khush hoti ho to main bhi khush ho jaata hoon" is exactly the feeling that makes him want to spend time with her -- and now, the recognition that the time should belong only to the two of them. But, the question of "saath chalogi" was followed by an instant rejoinder: wo tumne hi kaha tha ki tumhare Aaba tumhe lekar jaane wale thay... zimmedari... so on... Because the tepid and almost questioning reaction of Sai had turned his mind alert about what he just spoke involuntarily. And though he did not "intend" it as a date, Sai too, inferred it as one.
Going to digress a bit:
Dating or courtship is when you are actively having the "butterflies in your stomach" feeling. To me, Sai and Virat are still at a point where they are "Attuning" to each other. I used the word "Vicarious" the other day. Virat is in "vicarious love" phase, where everything attached to Sai is turning into his own experience -- of joy, sadness and even her dream. But it does not have romantic connotations yet. The stage of "Attuning" will eventually lead to the stage of "courtship", where the attraction will be deeper --whether expressed or not but the feeling of wanting the gentle touch, the physical presence and the attention and time of course.
'Attuning' happens when one is extremely aware about their partner's pain and joys -- tum kitni chhoti chhoti cheezon se itni khush ho jaati ho". What a burden-free relationship it is! Just candyfloss is enough to make her feel loved? And, then compare it to someone, who wouldn't find happiness even if he were to physically rip off his heart and hand it over. But then, it is the million little things in life that make it worth living, as they say -- just like the water of the flowing river, which can be touched and felt only once. The water in the river will still be there but not THAT point of water which you wanted to touch.
'Attuning' also means awareness of the fact that the partners could have two valid but extremely different views on any issue- especially that, which could bring in negative emotions. The Gadchiroli complaint against Virat-- both were overflowing with negative emotions, but there was "tolerance" for the negative views, which, in turn, forced them to turn towards each other's need and trying to understand the reasons for outbursts and reactions, no matter how hurtful those words said in the moment of heat could have been.
It also led to moments of "non-defensive" hearing between the two because of the "empathy" that attuning to each other brings. That was evident when Patralekha left the house. The interaction was almost 'normal' despite the fact that Sai had opened her mouth in presence of the family and to an extent, even compromised Virat in her zeal to tell the "Truth" behind PP leaving the house in a huff. But, when in their space, they had a "non-defensive" talk where Virat slipped up with 'dil me pyaar' and Sai couldn't help but burst out with 'aapko kisse pyaar karna hai, kijiye. Mujhe koi fark nahi padta'. But what it did was bring them closer emotionally (empathy) - Sai realising that PP does mean a lot to Virat (because he ended up confusing her more) and Virat realising that he ended up hurting Sai's excitement about her result.
Coming back to "Nadi ke kinare" wala proposal:
I didn't see it as a 'date' because it lacks blatant romantic intention and so it cannot be called a "date" loosely. BUT it definitely is this newfound feeling of wanting to be with the person who can bring out your happiest self -- someone, who you have gagged and bound in order to live up to expectations around you. Also, because this is the ONE person, who will be able to see the reason why that nadi ka kinara means so much to you "aap ki nazar se" and share the excitement that fills your heart about it. The special someone, who treasures the "sharing" you do with her/him, just like you want it to be.
But, of course, Usha Maushi is not needed in this outing 😆. Usha Maushi ke level ki 'sharing' nahi hai ye... Sai bhi na... She took his lame "Aaba ne zimmedari di hai" a bit too seriously for his own liking and said "Aaba ke plan me to Usha Maushi bhi thi" 🤣 Bechara! So thank God he picked up the cue and immediately identified himself as her "parivaar". Shukar hai Chavan saheb, you touched the river water where it should have been before it gushed past you. And you were also quick to grasp on to the "aap itne bhi bure nahi hain"... We know, Sai has been so stingy with her compliments for you that you're trying to hard to get her to open the pages of the book of her heart by throwing random questions at her. But ab kya karein, wo actually upsc candidate bhi ho sakti hai because she has better understanding of logic than you at times 😆 so she plays even the backhand strokes with so much finesse that the ball comes back to your court 😎 Chalo, first time, apne dil ki baat saaf saaf batane ke liye hrudaya pasun aabhar! Now, she can easily make the choice of going out on this "family outing" (not a date) which her Aaba had promised her.
But I must say, itne deep dialogues ke beech my most favourite one was Virat's "theek hai, theek hai" after Sai set his foot right (but ye quack-style bone setter kyun ban gayi meri aspiring doctor 😆). That typical tone of a husband conceding defeat but not ready to fully admit it. ITNA perfect "theek hai theek hai" 🤣🤣 bohat kam hi sun ne ko mila karta hai. Majja aali.
Chalo, i end my reply with a verse that would fit them well at the moment:
Kyun bekhabar, yun khincha sa chala jaa raha main...
Ye kaunse bandhano mein bandha jaa raha main...
kuch kho raha hai (vaada ), Kuch mil raha hai (sacchi mohabbat)
Ye baat kya hai, ye raaz kya hai
Koi hamein bataa de,
dil ki nazar se...
Hoping that this will go through now.
Have a lovely Sunday! 🤗
Jhanak
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