Vulnerability, Loyalty and NPD - My takeaways - Page 5

Just want to say love the indepth character analysis done for the trio by all you impeccable writers on the forum! Keep it up! Makes me think so much more differently and of them as real people rather than reel characters on screen now. Stay blessed! 👏👏👏

Originally posted by: ..Peppermint..

He looks like he can perform under pressure unless its personal. As Janki pointed out, this is the second time his brain stopped functionning, the first was when KJ was shot. His job and KJ were both something personal to him.

Great perspective👍🏼

Third time actually.

The first time was when he realised his "true love" had blocked his number because he asked "Who's this" and was already dressed to marry his brother. His brain went into shut down and he made the big brahmachaar wala 'vaada'.

Second was KJ shot. Thankfully Sai had kept on shutting him up that time so she could do a lot of things despite being so terrified. He did a good job watching her and then went inside alone without her and made the second 'vaada' with a shut brain.

You are right, whenever his brain shuts down, he should shut his mouth as well. Like he told Sai, apni aankhon ke saath saath apna muh bhi bandh rakho... kitne logon ko vaada-induced migraine nahi hoga, Chavan saheb you have no idea. 😵

Originally posted by: jankiraghav

Third time actually.

The first time was when he realised his "true love" had blocked his number because he asked "Who's this" and was already dressed to marry his brother. His brain went into shut down and he made the big brahmachaar wala 'vaada'.

Second was KJ shot. Thankfully Sai had kept on shutting him up that time so she could do a lot of things despite being so terrified. He did a good job watching her and then went inside alone without her and made the second 'vaada' with a shut brain.

You are right, whenever his brain shuts down, he should shut his mouth as well. Like he told Sai, apni aankhon ke saath saath apna muh bhi bandh rakho... kitne logon ko vaada-induced migraine nahi hoga, Chavan saheb you have no idea. 😵

Please Janki, aap kya bol rahe ho? Hum jaise immature logo ka brain shut down hota hai. Virat Dada jaise mature logo ka brain toh sirf chutti par jaake ek-do vaade karvake aata hai.

Originally posted by: I-Am-SherLOCKED

Please Janki, aap kya bol rahe ho? Hum jaise immature logo ka brain shut down hota hai. Virat Dada jaise mature logo ka brain toh sirf chutti par jaake ek-do vaade karvake aata hai.

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Inki chutti and vaada hamare dimaag ki chutti kar dete hain

Originally posted by: jankiraghav

Third time actually.

The first time was when he realised his "true love" had blocked his number because he asked "Who's this" and was already dressed to marry his brother. His brain went into shut down and he made the big brahmachaar wala 'vaada'.

Second was KJ shot. Thankfully Sai had kept on shutting him up that time so she could do a lot of things despite being so terrified. He did a good job watching her and then went inside alone without her and made the second 'vaada' with a shut brain.

You are right, whenever his brain shuts down, he should shut his mouth as well. Like he told Sai, apni aankhon ke saath saath apna muh bhi bandh rakho... kitne logon ko vaada-induced migraine nahi hoga, Chavan saheb you have no idea. 😵

LOL, shut his mouth plus also pin his arms down to his side...pata chale his arms have their own mature mind and do teen aur vaadein nikal jaaye. Full body bind!

Originally posted by: ..Peppermint..

This is gonna be a long one, so bear with me. 😆 I’ll talk about SaiRat first, before moving on to Pakhi.

Pehle meetha khilake dawai deri ho kya? Oops, har kadwi cheez medicine nahi hoti na

If the missing Sai scene showed me something, it is that Sai is growing on him, and Virat will fall first, he will realize and then be in denial. The words he used will come to bite him later. Sai might forgive him this time, but she is not the type of person who forgets when people mess with her. I loved how she was telling Pakhi that she literally begged Virat to run away, but he didn’t.

Oh yes! He was missing her while she was actually thinking of his problem. This shows who's gonna fall first 😆 Finally, your vaadaboy can get a new name(assuming he stops serving vaadas as food🤔)

What I want Virat to remember after this episode is that ONE Sai was not the cause of his problem, she was the solution. And she was right in front of him. Like Pakhi said he was so angry that he wouldn’t be able to see the solution, even if it is right in front of him. And TWO, she said that she’d go out, even with broken legs, if she has to. She is fiercely loyal (probably got it from her father) and the type of person who’d take a bullet for you, if she needs to (again, her father). Dear Virat, if there is anything about Sai that should attract you to her, it is this.

THREE, stop calling himself as mature and the one who solved it all without making a fuss out of it as immature😈

It seems to me that Sai is emotionally the strongest between the two. Despite the hurt and her bubbling anger, she saw the problem and the solution straightaway, while Virat was too lost in despair and a fear of what will happen next.

Yes,even I felt the same. He's too much of an emotional person. Being emotional is her strength and the same is his weakness. With her, I'm sure he'll learn how to balance them

Please note that this is not a post to demean Pakhi’s character. I just want to point out some observations that I made about her. Pakhi may have Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) and is in dire need of therapy. I’ll walk you through some of the toxic signs she has displayed so far.

Half of my posts are just to understand her and thanks to u for pointing this out!

1) When narcissists behave in a manner that generates shame (EMA), they often use projection. (Projection is a primitive defense because it distorts or ignores reality in order for us to function and preserve our ego. When we project, we are defending ourselves against unconscious impulses or traits, either positive or negative, that we’ve denied in ourselves. Instead, we attribute them to others.) Projection is a way to cope with the discomfort that shame generates. Shame is a feeling that narcissists detests. Instead of dealing with their own shame, they try to project their own behavior on others and they do it frequently. She called Virat a cheater (without listening to him) and today, she seemed to suggest that Sai was off to a secret rendez-vous. So basically she knows what she wants from Virat, and this has generated a sense of shame, which she is offloading on others.

That she is! It's so common here, atleast I've seen it so closely. One of my uncle is not in a good position and we all know that he compares himself with all his siblings/cousins. But with his talks, it feels like he's feeling bad for so and so person. once u analyse his words and try to understand, u realize that he feels bad for himself and make others believe that some xyz is not earning much(and hence the troubles)

2) There is the feeling that ‘’She hates me”, when I actually hate her. Remember when she said that I’m on your side Sai on the first day. She immediately assumed that Sai disliked her, that is because she herself dislikes Sai and pitted Sai as being against herself.

True! Often heard my colleagues saying, I think she dont like her. When i ask why, it's like, I don't know. Anyway, even i don't like her Now I understand the reason

3) She has this inflated self-image of herself, that unrealistic sense of superiority. It was interesting how she said she wanted to eat cornflakes today when Bhavani asked her. Almost like showing Karishma that she is not to be messed with, because she has the support of Bhavani. In a way she was belittling her (another characteristic of a NPD. Ok, I know Karishma bullied her as well, but since she is displaying other characteristics, I wanted to point this out). Bhavani is actually fanning that dysfunctional behavior.

I observed it too. She pointed out more to show it off and she did the same with Aswini too😣 Well, she tried to do the same with Sai in today's precap and this makes me think, does Sai's reply a hint that it's Sai who's gonna help her get off this so called self image? 🤨🤔

4) Lacking empathy – Pakhi has displayed this before, by asking about her position in her life, and through her outburst because of the lipstick. She does not stop and think, but immediately bursts in a way that makes you guilty. Moreover, she does not think twice about her actions, that’s why she really does not get it when Sai tries to establish a healthy boundary. When Sai has to handle Pakhi, she’ll have to do this in a gentle manner; in a way which shows Pakhi respect, because the last thing a narcissist wants is you disrespecting them

But knowing what all Sai has been through, isnt it too much to expect her to show any kind of respect to Pakhi, especially after her barging into their room and in between pati-patni talks/fights? How can a person with no empathy fall in love? It's clear that she never tried to see or understand his situation. This reminds me of Janki's post about sense of belonging. I guess she needs it in Virat's life and so she's trying everything to get that position(which is not vacant though 🙊)

5) Frequently demeans and bullies. Pakhi clearly feels threatened by Sai. Interestingly, her own marriage does not seem to be a hurdle for her. It’s not only Sai’s dynamics with Virat that she envies, it’s the love between Sai and Ashwini, and her ability to stand up for what she considers right (remember Pakhi was not allowed to leave the house, Sai tried today and nobody could stop her!), it’s the tact with which she handles Bhavani-Ninad.

Yes, I wanted to make a post on this! One should see her when Aswini supports Sai or cares for her. She surely wants that. Somehow she knows it by now that Samrat may never question her. But with Sai, she knows that Sai understands her intentions. Especially the pre reception scene and so she tries to demean her, so that Sai doesn't get a chance to give it back to her

So yes, Virat, you can take her to a therapist if you so wish. I will not flip, I swear😆

Man, I will!! As long as he's on his vaada spree, I can't see him do that. Well he can ask his kaku to accompany her, as she is in need of a therapist too

Let me hear your views.

I remember reading your post and thinking of replying later. Our forum has become so active that I had to struggle to search for this post of yours, as soon as I got some time :)