Originally posted by: bhshre95
But later when Ashwini confronted Pakhi regarding her talking to Virat, I didn't like it. Its not wrong but Virat too was at fault. Wasn't he talking too? Why blame the girl always? I liked Pakhi's reply here, that she should tell this to Virat too👏 I don't like Pakhi's character much but I am glad she is no doormat. I hope they always keep both the girls strong
It was completely wrong. A) Pakhi was just standing there & Virat approached her, so Ashwini is making a prejudiced assumption that Pakhi has her claws into her raja beta. B) Pakhi is not her DIL to scold/taunt, so she needs to bear that in mind.
I find the whole demonisation of Pakhi, including by many in this group, while absolving Virat or treating his transgressions lightly, soooo patriarchal.
1. In fact, Pakhi married Samrat but hardly forged any relationship with him, so while she has to respect the sacred institution of marriage, how can she owe any personal loyalty to Samrat? Samrat also judged her based on a single overheard conversation & acted on it unilaterally, so he has done nothing to deserve her love or loyalty.
2. Again Pakhi did not seek any vow from Virat, he offered it. It acted as a balm to her heart broken by his refusal to marry her. As a somewhat self-centred girl she found some solace in the prospect that even if she did not get him, no other girl would get him either & he would pine away for her. Warped, but not really farfetched. Don’t many wives expect that if something happens to them, the hubby should not remarry?
3. However Virat’s matter is entirely different - he owes his brother a lifetime of honesty & loyalty. He is the one making the biggest transgression of all. He is not the victim here, in fact he is trying to play God by taking stupid decisions for other people’s lives. Yet he is getting away lightly, with all the hate going to Pakhi.
Let us all pls look inward & examine our own deep seated biases & patriarchal mindset.
Edited by Bana - 4 years ago
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