Vada vs Vachan: Pakhi senses that it is broken

Hi. I am new here. Been reading all the posts and having a hearty laugh every day. I have a thought to share, please feel free to discuss.

To begin with, am going to use the "vaada boy" tag given to Virat Chavan. No wonder, because his catchline is also "Virat Chavan jyachi pakki zabaan". Much as I am irritated by the constant flashbacks of the illogical vaada made to Pakhi --sometimes even thrice in the 22-minute show 😳😳, I have been pondering over the words - Vaada (Promise) and Vachan (Pledge or Vow).

What Virat made to Pakhi or Kamal Joshi was a "Vaada" and what Virat and Sai have given each other is "Vachan". In common conversations, the words are used interchangeably but I wasn’t quite sure if it means the same. What does making a promise mean? Is it the same as making a pledge? Which one is more binding and more personal? Why do they say that "Promises are meant to be broken". Why is it that when we are made to take an oath, it is not called a promise but a pledge.

Dictionary meaning of a promise is: a statement telling someone that you will definitely do something or that something will definitely happen in the future.

Whereas, a pledge is defined as a "serious promise or agreement". The two words are very similar but also subtly different." The difference could probably be understood by the fact that a promise is more informal and can be broken because it is also personal but a pledge is a solemn oath/a vow.

There has been much discussion about the Vaada jaap and it is annoying too but it is true that infatuation, longing and lack of clarity can be blinding in seeing the reality around. Right now, Virat seems the most delusional of all, even more than Pakhi because he thinks he will be able to give his "Promise" more importance than his "Pledge/Vow".

Pakhi, although crying buckets for who is now "another man and her brother-in-law" has sensed that the 'promise' has already been compromised. One, she is a woman -whether a lead or a vamp -women's instincts are hardly wrong. Her instinct about Virat's soon-to-be-formed soul connection with Sai is not wrong at all. Because what Virat is calling his "farz" is soon going to turn into a "jazba". He cannot see it coming --although he has already sensed it once, much long ago when he went in disguise to meet Sai just because "Pata nahi kyun, par aisa laga jaise tum disconnect ho gayi ho". Pakhi has gauged something from the tone of his voice when he speaks of Sai, apart from the obsession that she has with the 'love' that never happened.

Virat wants to live in denial about this as of now because he thinks he is only doing his "duty" as is his intention but Pakhi knows that the 'promise' will eventually be completely broken and forgotten because someone has already come into his "zindagi" - although he denies that but it is a fact that Sai is now and will be an integral part of his life and days. The promise of the "heart" will soon be broken too because when it happens, it won't just be the 'dil' where Sai will be. It will be the "wajood" (identity) that will be intertwined in such a way that Virat and Sai won't be able to find themselves without each other.

Words👏....by the way, totally agree with you😊

Yes it will be broken🤣

Woo....nice analysis!!!

So agree with you!!!

Hi Janki, welcome to the forum! Glad that you've been having a hearty chuckle. We lot are a frustrated bunch out here, lol.

Amazing analysis, by the way! I think not just Pakhi but somewhere even Virat is scared deep down that he's going to break his promise to Pakhi- that he'll only love her and also to Sai- that he will never love her. That's why he keeps reiterating it himself so that he can get a grip on his emotions.

Another thing is, we saw today how every time Virat spoke in a knowing way about Sai, we see Pakhi hurting. When Virat spoke about Sai not eating the previous night or about how she is when she is angry, there was jealousy from Pakhi's side because Pakhi is aware that though Virat claims to love her, he knows and maybe even understands Sai way more than that.

Originally posted by: I-Am-SherLOCKED

Hi Janki, welcome to the forum! Glad that you've been having a hearty chuckle. We lot are a frustrated bunch out here, lol.

Amazing analysis, by the way! I think not just Pakhi but somewhere even Virat is scared deep down that he's going to break his promise to Pakhi- that he'll only love her and also to Sai- that he will never love her. That's why he keeps reiterating it himself so that he can get a grip on his emotions.

Another thing is, we saw today how every time Virat spoke in a knowing way about Sai, we see Pakhi hurting. When Virat spoke about Sai not eating the previous night or about how she is when she is angry, there was jealousy from Pakhi's side because Pakhi is aware that though Virat claims to love her, he knows and maybe even understands Sai way more than that.

thank you for the welcome.

Frustration part, i understand. I am a bit scared about getting attached to the show as well because it is a hindi soap on Star Plus at the end of the day 😂

@red: agree completely. The 'zindagi me' part has already been broken and 'dil me' part he will have no control over. Whenever Sai learns about the details of this vaada, I am sure she will break into a laugh and say, "aap ko itna bhi nahi pata ki dil involuntary hota hai, you cannot make vaadas on behalf of the dil" 😂

Hai Janki welcome to the forum. Thoroughly enjoyed reading your post. Both 'vada' and 'vachana' have Sanskrit roots and they are connected to 'vaak' that is speech. Since vada means to say about something definitely and vachana is a 'word' the later seems to be having more value in religious context.

I think a person can fulfil all his duties even in the absence of a promise. Usually a statement is made to remind oneself of what has to be done or for an assurance to the other parties when there is something involving them all together. Hence giving a word has become an integral part of religious requirements and responsibilities to the persons or activities we are dedicated to in life like parents, job, marriage, children etc. Its not a day to day thing. In every day life we only perform our duties.

Virat's promise to Pakhi doesn't make any sense at all because neither Pakhi is his responsibility nor he is undertaking something in life involving her. Moreover that vaada will be an immoral act by both (the one who gave and the one who obtained it as well) considering the fact that such a statement can only be between two persons getting committed towards each other. Here only Samrat has the right to make it and Pakhi can extract such a promise only from Samrat. Virat is an outsider.

Originally posted by: jankiraghav

He cannot see it coming --although he has already sensed it once, much long ago when he went in disguise to meet Sai just because "Pata nahi kyun, par aisa laga jaise tum disconnect ho gayi ho". Pakhi has gauged something from the tone of his voice when he speaks of Sai, apart from the obsession that she has with the 'love' that never happened.

Virat wants to live in denial about this as of now because he thinks he is only doing his "duty" as is his intention but Pakhi knows that the 'promise' will eventually be completely broken and forgotten because someone has already come into his "zindagi" - although he denies that but it is a fact that Sai is now and will be an integral part of his life and days. The promise of the "heart" will soon be broken too because when it happens, it won't just be the 'dil' where Sai will be. It will be the "wajood" (identity) that will be intertwined in such a way that Virat and Sai won't be able to find themselves without each other.

You have explained it so beautifully. Virat thought walking out of the marriage would be easy and hence gave assurance to Sai that she could leave the relationship once she becomes a doctor. But I'm sure he's going to regret it (more than breaking Pakhi ko dia hua vaada😆) once he starts finding his identity with her like you said.

This is awesome post Hi 👏

Welcome to the forum Janaki!! Glad you had a good laugh. We vent and than we all laugh. 😆

What a fantastic post.

Agreed, Virat reiterated that there is nothing between him and Sai is more for himself than anyone else. Point is that Virat Pakhi don’t know each other at all. They fell is “Love” in two days. What in the world!! 😆
Virat knows Sai, he feels a connection with her. He can repeating whatever he wants, it’s not going to make any difference in the end.

You are correct in saying that Pakhi can feel it already and that is why she’s going to loose her sh!t and go psycho in jealousy.