Does Virat Have a Saviour Complex?

Virat's words are so confusing. He keeps saying that Sai is just a duty for him he has to fulfil but when Sai remains resolute that she has no expectations from him, we see him getting frazzled. I wonder why this is. Obviously, it's not because he feels something for Sai. He's still madly in "love" (LOL) with his Patralekha vahini. But could it be because he feels the need to "save" Sai but Sai is not a damsel in distress, she never has been. Even when Jagtap kidnapped her, she tried her best and fought as hard as she could to escape.

Could it be Sai's refusal to be "saved" that is bothering Virat so much? That he doesn't get to play the hero because Sai, as an individual, doesn't need him. Usha Mausi, Kaka and people are the ones who think Sai needs Virat's protection but she has always maintained that she is perfectly capable of taking care of herself. Sure, financial dependence is a very big deal and Sai is financially dependent on Virat but a more important thing is emotional dependence and even after everything that life has thrown her way- losing her father, being kidnapped and nearly molested, she is not looking for protective arms. I don't know if this bothers Virat because he's a man and he likes to be in-charge or because he's Virat but Sai is so fiercely independent and I think he's not able to handle that.

Originally posted by: I-Am-SherLOCKED

Virat's words are so confusing. He keeps saying that Sai is just a duty for him he has to fulfil but when Sai remains resolute that she has no expectations from him, we see him getting unfazed. I wonder why this is. Obviously, it's not because he feels something for Sai. He's still madly in "love" (LOL) with his Patralekha vahini. But could it be because he feels the need to "save" Sai but Sai is not a damsel in distress, she never has been. Even when Jagtap kidnapped her, she tried her best and fought as hard as she could to escape.

Could it be Sai's refusal to be "saved" that is bothering Virat so much? That he doesn't get to play the hero because Sai, as in individual, doesn't need him. Usha Mausi, Kaka and people are the ones who think Sai needs Virat's protection but she has always maintained that she is perfectly capable of taking care of herself. Sure, financial dependence is a very big deal and Sai is financially dependent on Virat but a more important thing is emotional dependence and even after everything that life has thrown her way- losing her father, being kidnapped and nearly molested, she is not looking for protective arms. I don't know if this bothers Virat because he's a man and he likes to be in-charge or because he's Virat but Sai is so fiercely independent and I think he's not able to handle that.

I want to take a different perspective on to this as well. Perhaps it could be his ego, or the fact that he is taken aback that Sai truly doesn’t need him in any shape or form, not even as someone to talk to. But I believe that he is confused in his own apprehensions. Many a times I sense him to be looking out for something in Sai’s eyes, perhaps trying to find himself. He is drowning in an ocean of his own misery but only Sai is his rescue boat. He wants her to be that rescue boat but he knows she cannot be. It’s almost like he has glanced upon his future already and thus is working to stop the unstoppable from happening.

He really does have saviour complex. He needs to be in charge and doing things for everyone. That’s his strength and his downfall.

I might call him names but at the end of the day he is a guy with good intentions that’s screws up royally!!
He’s incapable of understanding that Sai doesn’t need saving. He doesn’t realize that he is the one who needs saving from himself.
Because of the saviour complex he is forever giving out promises and rescuing everyone at his own expense. Look at the stupid promise to Patraleka for instance.
She was ready to break the wedding yet he thought his Bhai needed her more. There he goes giving such a stupid promise that is ruining lives. He doesn’t think of the long term consequences.
He is a good guy, blundering about as people look up to him.

Yes. Yes.Yes.

I don't think the issue is that he can't handle her, it's more like he does not know how to deal with her. I don't think he's come across someone so strong, someone who is so clear about what she wants to do.

I felt that he was a bit taken aback when Sai promised that she won't ever come between his promise, thereby unburdening him.

I think he had this preconceived notion about Sai- that because she is so young, she's gonna be immature, childish and all kind of adjectives that you would associate with a teenager.

He possibly thought that he'd only ever feel responsible for her. But, she's gonna evoke different emotions in him...

It is this about her would attract him.

I may have a same yet different take on this!!!

I feel it's not like he wants to save the damsel in distress, but it's like he can't see the damsel in distress!!! And just to clear this point he himself at times is putting the damsel in distress!!! (And here I talk about both Pakhi n sai)!!

After Pakhi n virat came to know each other in haldi, Pakhi was ready to quit!! I agree he dint want his brother to be hurt because of himself n everything, but then he shouldn't have asked Pakhi to marry samrat anyways, that should have been Pakhi's individual decision!! (Though later on it is shown that she married Samrat to be near virat, but at that time it was virat who said marry my brother and in return I will give u a stupid vaada)!!

In case of sai, well here the matter is different!!! More than completing her vaada, he married sai in pressure!!! Initially he had said that he will take her responsibility n take her to Nagpur hostel, that way vaada could have been completed!!! But marriage is out of pure pressure!!! He could have avoided this marriage as well!!!

So I feel that to save the damsel In distress, he is in a way taking the damsel towards distress!!

But said everything above, that is what virata character is, full of flaws and confusion!! His character needs growth and Sai's love and Pakhi's jealousy will help virat chavan to grow!! That's wht I feel!!!

He is just looking for a chance to give out promises to anyone 😜😃 and screwing up everything

Virat definitely has a saviour complex. But I don't blame him considering the situations he found himself in.

Virat, most of all, wants everyone to be safe & happy, bcoz he's a good person & had a good heart.

But in doing something good, Virat doesn't consider anyone else's point of view.

1) He asked Pakhi to marry Samrat, without considering how Samrat or Pakhi will feel about it.

2) He promised Pakhi to never love/marry someone else without considering how his mom or his family will feel about it.

3) He married Sai without informing his family about such a big decision, not at all considering their feelings on this matter.

Virat just does whatever HE thinks is right, without consulting anyone or considering their point of view. This is his biggest problem, not his vaade.

Anyway, Virat feeling bad when Sai tells him that she doesn't want him or will leave him, just hurts his male ego. He's not in love with her yet. But he's a man, so Sai's rejection & indifference definitely bothers him.

This is actually good. Virat isn't a saint, but a human with flaws.

I like his characterization.

Btw, Sai is no damsel in distress but she definitely needs Virat's protection, which is proved by her kidnapping & now with Vithal again harassing her in the wedding, in front of EVERYONE.

Also Sai IS immature. He constant anger at every small thing & her judgemental attitude towards Virat, shows how immature she is.

But Sai has one thing that makes her a pretty strong character, which is her SELF RESPECT. Sai's strong sense of self makes her a better person than both Virat & Pakhi.

Don't know about saviour complex but I think he's too sympathetic and feels very sad especially when someone seems helpless to him. Out of this weakness he keeps taking decisions, responsibilities in the form of promises.

I think 'what Pakhi will think about me/ how she will react seeing this' is what bothers Virat a lot (due to the vaada he made) but not some love/crush.