Why is it mostly beta...?

May 29th episode was great - especially I love the end statement by Om Shankar Ji. Great performance by the lead actors! 👍🏼

Yes...back to the main question...when it comes to pregnancy, why is it always the same preconceived notion about expecting a baby boy? I have seen lot of ppl say that....like in this episode Om Shankar Ji instruct Kakul about raising a child with out the support of a father. He says..."kal jab tumhara beta bada hoga..aur woh apne baap ke baare main sawaal karega, toh uska tum kya jawaab dogi"? How can he say it is going to be a boy?

I dunno..this must be a silly question, but why is there lot of expectation of a baby boy than a girl. Back in India when my cousin had a baby - a lady in the lounge asked: "kya hua..?" When the father replied: "beti hui..." she goes...betiiii (with a very disgusted face) hamari bahu ko to betaa hua..(with so much pride) I dunno wht's with the gender differences?? It still exist among desis - no matter how modernized the society gets.

Well...sorry for taking so much time, but it bothers me when such predetermined thoughts come among people. That is all to say....

I noticed that too and I agree with you, it's one thing wrong with our socities' mind-set. Don't they ever think what if there were no women in the world? Then where would you guys be?! They're still stuck with the same old ideas. :|

hey - think about it this way - when the parents get old, the boy is expected to take care of them. The girl goes to her inlaw's house, and doesn't have a right over them anymore - in their eyes, the boy is more valuable because it means assurance that they will have someone in their old age.

If you think this is an old notion, it is still talked about today. My husband's uncle has mentioned many times that his daughter is just a "guest" in his house as she will leave and get married. But, his son will stay to take care of him in his old age ...

ha! htats halarious.. beta bhi kitna khyaal rakhte hain, mujhe pata hai! apne biwi ke peeche paagal hote hain aur ajj kal(no offencse) biwi'an bhi kuch kam nahi!

baad meh betiyan ke peeche mat bhagna!!

hehehe 😆 - well dekho aisi baat nahi hai. Har ek rishta bahut important hota hai...chahe beta ho ya beti. What I don't like is giving more priority to a male child than the girl. Agar jaise maante hain ke wo guest hai aur kuch saal baad chale jayegi - then why not give her the most attention. Beta kya khayega...beta kya khareede ga..beta tu jo kahe...bete ke liye ye banao...I mean c'mon! Well it is not same in every household - I can't blame everyone, but majority do that!
Aur yaa...aaj kal to bete bhi Mashallah - you really can't rely on your children anymore. Gaye wo din jab maan-baap beton se ummeed rakhte the. Ab to har koi apni life dekhta hai. Khair...don't wanna get into lot of details...in the mentioned episode when Om Shankar Ji says to kakul jab tumhara beta bada hoga to....etc. I was like...man c'mon...not the "beta" thing again...! Tht's about it!
Thanks for your participation!
- Arif

ok i must say
this is the first discussion that gets response in this section 😛

so hats off to you arif 😉 👏

Thank you Shaheen 😊 for your kind words. We must have some interesting debates - wht say?

well, I won't debate it cause I see in our families ... although they say they will be happy with whatever it is, they talk about boys coming all the time. Love is still there for the girl - especially for dad, but there is alot of old fashioned thinking that happens even her in Canada! They also have the saying that a beti can either give or take away the izzat of the family. Even here, girls are treated differently than boys - boys have the freedom to do as they please because their actions will not take away izzat from the family, and again, they take care of the parents when they are old.

My family only has two girls, and my mother always said my father wanted daughters, because only daughters would love their parents enought to take care of them. And, in the end, we know everything about our parents and inlaws and take care of them better than our husbands.

It is our societies mind-set that leads them to believe a boy will be thier support ..but i dont think it works that wayl.. i mean ya daughters go to their in laws and stuff but they still care abt thier parents, and just for their parents' reputation they go through harsh things in their in-laws places. where as guys have all the freedom and money from their parents so they take advantage of it. I mean when one of ur parents is sick how many times would the boy come to see him/her and how many times do u see a girl worrying abt it . its a different fact that she is at her inlaws and cant make it but she always has the feeling chewing her up of a sick parent!!! Its been this way for ages and i believe if the next generation doesnt do sumthing abt it (which i strongly believe they will) these is going to go on for the coming years!! i like this quote "Nothing we do can change the past, but everything we do can change the Future!!"

I got into an arguement with my mom about this topic and she said that "that is how things work." Girls leave to their sasural and the boy is supposed to take care of them. So I asked her(I have two other sisters, no boy in the family) that if they had had a son, would they have given him property and stuff and nothing leave nothing to us? and she said yes! I was shocked, you know I thought my parents didn't have the same old views, but I guess I was wrong. And like many other people have said, boys don't take care of the parents in the old age anymore! Girls probably do more, I hate it when they use that excuse.