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Posted: 7 years ago
It is not just women who split apart families Nisha. I know personally of a brother and sister split up because of her husband's jealousy and desire for other people's money (namely her brother's).
I think that at the end of it all, you hope to teach your children to be fair to each other and honest, and not have to compete with each other for your affection or love. Wherever the relationships become competitive, one wants to outdo the other, the siblings split apart. In my mother's family, they just followed whatever their eldest sibling said. He divided whatever was left by their parents. They trust him to be fair, though he himself was/is under straightened circumstances and has a wife who hates most of his family (his younger siblings included).
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Posted: 7 years ago

Mother's Day

"Who so rahin hain Harit peeked into the room as he watched his wife's languid sleeping form. It was nearly 9 PM on Friday evening, his brothers talked first and then his bhabhis, his mother was "finishing up cooking harit was told

"ma aaj khaane mein kya hai?

"Pehle yeh kahen aap, ho aaye mandir?

"Jee, aapke liye dher saara prashad bhi laaye hain

"Hum kya 5 saal ke hain Lakshmi cracked up

"warna aap maanengi nagi he cackled

Lakshmi went silent, as she became offended

"Aap kisi ko kahe bagair aise nikal padte hain, bahu chhoti hain, hum aapko ya unko kabhi ghoomne se kabhi mana kare rahe, batayen? she teared up

"I am sorry Ma, I didn't mean it

"Hum to aapke aur bahu ke rookhe bartav se dukhi hain, dono mein koi prem nahi

"Ma... sab theek hai ab, hum baat kar liye... hain Harit cleared his throat hesitantly

Lakshmi was still silent

"Ma, aap theek kehtin hain who chhotin hain, aur hum kaam mein busy the baat nahi kar paaye, abhi samya hee samay hai he explained

"Bahu humko ek baar bhi phone nahi kareen hain

"Umm... umm

"Koi baat keh dee humne?

"Nahi Ma

"Alka humko keh rahin thi, unko Ma aap dupatta ke liye toka na karen

Harit squirmed

"Aap nahi bata sakte they hamey?

"Sorry Ma... unko aadat nahi, aur hamare ghar par riwaaz hai

"Aadat to kinhee bahu ko nahi thi

"Umm.. haan haan... par yeh to Dilli ki bhi hain

"Hum inko skirt, pant pahan ne se kabhi nahi rokey hain

"Who hum jaante hain

"Bache ko lekar itni chintit hain hamesha, Viadya pariwar ke niyam ko ek pal nahi socthi?

"Aisa nahi hai Ma

"Hum apne aapko badalne ki bahut koshish kare hain. Kam kaha karenge beta she teared up

"Ma, aap udaas na hon

"Nahi nahi

"Ma, Avantika aapko bahut maantin hain

Achha?

"Haan, bus khulkar nahi kehtin Harit spoke patiently

"Kam se kam wohi keh detin humko ki aap ghoomne ja rahe hain

"Unko bhi nahi pata

"Hmmm

"Ma, uh... umm.. hum chahte hain aap mein aur Avantika mein dosti ho jaise bhabhiyon se hai

Lakshmi wept softly

"Ma... I am sorry.

"Ek kho chuke hum, aapko koi khatre mein nahi dekh paayenge beta

"I know that Ma

"Aapse bade jo hain who hamari baat nahi taal te, aap mein bachpana hai

He laughed

"Agar hum UK reh jaate to aap kaise khabar rakh paati hamari?

"UK rehkar bhi aapne apni usool nahi todey, aajkal pata nahi kya kya chal raha hai

Harit cringed, turning hot with guilt

"Harit?

"Jee Ma... ummm

Bauji ab bhi gussa hain, aap koi meetha le aayen, hum mana lenge she chuckled

"Aapke liye kya laayen?

"Kuch bhi nahi

"nahi kuch to

"Bahu ko dilaayen, khoob samaan... bachi hain, bahar ke kapde bahut hain unke paas, saree dilayen, Banarsi

He laughed openly

Avantika would never wear a saree for him

"Saree pehan na seekh lein pehle

"Abhi samay hai Rishikesh mein, aap unko kahen, roj pehanengi

"Jee he gasped holding his laughter

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Posted: 7 years ago
Kala
I agree
One of my cousins, put her son through engg college, but her daughter through, med school, MD and post MD. The girl married a Doc last year, and the parents threw a blingy Bollywood wedding, which is unheard of in Iyers, wiping out almost all their retirement savings

Now in their 20s, the siblings cannot stand each other😭 because the boy thinks the parents like the daughter more

Edukku? Anavasyam daane? Why poison the kids this way?
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Posted: 7 years ago
"Abhi samay hai Rishikesh mein, aap unko kahen, roj pehanengi

"Jee he gasped holding his laughter


He knows his wife too well.
Lakshmi just mentioned that she tried to change or something like that and here she is wanting Bahu to wear saree on her honeymoon.

Harit, I guess the fact that you don't stand up for something you truly belive in is something which is the flaw you have or else you are ideal man.
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Posted: 7 years ago
Happy Mother's Day Nisha!
Thanks for the update. Lovely mother's perspective!
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Posted: 7 years ago
I want to see Avantika's reaction on what Lakshmi just said.
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Posted: 7 years ago
Yes Pritee, she cant help herself. She wants to change to earn brownie points with Avantika, but at the same time struggles to let go of her strict rules
Just like most people have double standards, she does too
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Posted: 7 years ago
Beautiful update Nisha especially for Mother's day!
I hope for everyone's sake, Harit is able to be more upfront. I hope that the Vaidyas don't think that it's because of Teeku that Harit is doing these things. He did correct his mother during their conversation but I hope they don't think that he is trying to protect her.
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Posted: 7 years ago

Originally posted by: Nisha0604

One of my Mannis/Mamis ruined the love her husband/my uncle had for his siblings. She is unapologetic, mean and selfish that cannot look past her own kids and their happiness

Such a wife is very toxic. After a point my uncle just gave in, gave up and turned towards her. Enough so my grandfather died a very heartbroken man.


I have seen both sides.

My mami is a gem of a women my grandmother died 5 years back and the sisters still visit their brother who live 60 km away. Mami is a example of simple living high thinking. The sisters ie my mom and her sisters treat her like a younger sibling. she is a pillar of support to the big brood of us cousins too in matters of tips on cooking, how to adjust in joint family ie balance mom in law and husband

But i have a cousin who is controlled by her husband. We were very close as we grew up together (spent 25 years together). But after marriage she does not keep in touch and rarely talks properly in front of her husband. i try call once in 10 days and she speaks like she speaks to a acquaintance
Sometimes i think i am just trying without hope it has been 5 years. It hurts because she is perhaps my only female friend since most of my friends have moved away after marraige and do not keep in touch regularly

But luckily my bhabhi is a rock. My brother and i are Siamese twins in the sense we are really close
when he got engaged i did try distancing myself a little because i felt she may resent it
but not all. She has taken a big place in my heart and is sister of my soul

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Posted: 7 years ago
Mother's Day Laksh'archana blessings for Harit 😊 hmmm ! The undercurrents fester ... what began as a reluctant alliance festers reluctant relations. End of the day he is central to both these women ...
Breathing space is much needed as these ladies are going to be seeing each other not for a week or two but for a long period of time!!

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