Plea for help
An awesome awesome update. Conflict between parenting and grand parenting. Wow.
Personally, I have reflected a lot on this matter a lot. What's the fine line between indulging and interfering. While grandparents and parents do have the best interests of their children at heart, styles of parenting are unique and may always not match with each other or work in today's times.
While at times parents have a bit of a problem managing an indulging grand parent like Ranjan Bhalla , it's also the other way around sometimes where grand parents feel that their children are spoiling their grand kids by spoiling them by being always permissive and turning them brats.
I have always felt that children are offered more choices by today's parents than we were ever offered by our parents when we were ourselves children. Were we heard all the time? I don't think so!! Were we given choices as to what we would like to eat or wear all the time ? I can't say that for me atleast that it was the case. But did I turn out bad with that kind of parenting that might be perceived as being overly strict in today's world? No ... I don't think so... Did they have the resources physical and financial to indulge us, give us a room, allow to shut the door oblivious to what's happening around . No. Responsibility of chores were transitioned , were seen as part of growing up process.
Sometimes as grand parents , what you say is so instinctive. It's the way they see how children should be reared. Not all times will they be correct and not all times will they be wrong .
What Mr. iyer did was a very instinctive thing having the best interests of Nivi at heart is how I would perceive Mr. iyer on this occasion atleast. While Mrs. Iyer will not agree with what Nivi said or did, she is more mindful of the sorrounding and the different needs of the different worlds that she raised II and the one that II is raising Nivi .
And sometimes as parents, when we are tired having conflicts with our teen who has started to sulk doing chores or running errands , we turn permissive too , the problem being compounded by parents clashing in their own styles like dude and II here. The fact is that II is tired and weary being hands on managing the brood day in day out. Sometimes the weariness and the fact that your spouse's dparenting style is different from your own makes the kid have more choices that may be seen as spoilt .
Dude defended his daughter, picked up his beer and made his way out. It's II now who has to balance defending her kid, her parenting style and also not offend her father at the same time.
What a beautiful chapter on Sosy anniversary
👏 👍🏼 Wow
Edited by Errantnomad - 8 years ago
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