Seven Vows Part 2- Chapter 154Page 148 - Page 87

@jaya this part was not actually planned. After Sudhir's explanation wala part, I had planned straight to go to Maya and her plans opening up the new track.

@ Shruthi, I am sorry fro all the pain you have to undergo because of your stubborn brother and stupid cousin. Onething I just can't understand, (may be people call me old fashioned and doesn't understand the current generation etc, but how can a person who just came just few years back can push your mother away and make them stone hearted towards their mother?

Despite telling all this, I have a nagging fear that a day may come when I might have to go through this betrayal but as of now, my daughter assures no such things will happen and if at all she finds some one as special to her, she will introduce that person to us and if we find him suitable in all respects (family & culture & nature), the we can proceed with marriage however chances are very bleak. But Shruthi, when I sent her to Manipal at an young age of 17, all my people opposed that it is wrong to send her to hostel life that too in Manipal. Everyone were telling we might loose her in the sense she might get into someone's company and might end up leaving us for her life with some boy etc. Believe me, I was skeptical and so was my husband, we had insecurities but still I had to remember the words my father and grand father had told me when I joined Engineering and that too as single girl in the class of 40 boys. They had said if you are the custodian of your mind and no one else can manipulate it unless you wish to. We trust you and hope you live up to that trust. I had told my daughter the same. She said, yes, when you two are sending your only daughter away from you only thinking of my future by spending your hard earned money, I will not misuse my freedom and waste your efforts. I will come back unaffected.

Yes there was a time when she was in 2nd year BTech and I suspected her behavior and just called her for a one to one talk and all I just asked is are you finding that boy special? She was shocked but opened up and said " I am not sure but yes he did helped me to come out of my loneliness when ever I was feeling homesick and he used to encourage me to concentrate on my studies as he knows what faith you people have on me". By then I had composed myself and told her Its ok to feel secure with some one but it is not good to relay on someone completely when you are still an teenager. I am not saying you should not fall in love with some one and will not instruct you to follow my footsteps of falling in love only after marriage etc. But you have your whole life to love someone and then have a secure life. As of now your main concern should be to complete your purpose and stand on your own feet and settle down in life. After that also if you still feel he is the right person to share your life, we will check with his parents and then proceed. But never take a decision to elope as your parents wants your happiness and if we can make right decisions on your cloths, education etc. do you think we will not think thousand times before choosing a life partner for you?. One will elope only when they feel insecure or think they have done a mistake which will not get approved by their parents. that means their choice is wrong.

I had also told her if at all she makes the blunder of eloping, she should decide that we are not going to accept her back into our life.

She said she is relieved after talking to me and when she came back for holiday's after her 5th semester, she said she no longer feels that attraction towards that boy as she in more concerned about her grades now and spend quality time in Library.

Now when her father was talking about her marriage after 2 or 3 years, all she said is he should look for a boy who is broad minded and accept her as she is and not expect her to change to meet his expectations or his family's expectations. he should be liberal to her working hours etc., and should not insist on strict 9 - 6 pattern etc.

In our own family my husband's cousin's daughter has dropped a hydrogen bomb about her alleged love with a different caste guy and her parents were heart broken. they had planned so much for her marriage and were looking for the best among the community as she is their only daughter. the we had to console them that atleast she has given you the details and not run away. So go and fix the alliance after talking to the guy's parents. Now the wedding fixed but I can see the compulsion with which the parents are doing the preparations where they have no happiness.

@jaya I belong to the generation of pyyar dosti hai, dosti hi pyaar hai 😆😆😆 and more than half of my friends are married to their besties from college or workplace. I have all kind of combination in my friend group from different caste to north-south😆. But not a single person eloped. They waited, they waited patiently for their families to know each other, for them to settle in work. Most of them married when they were you say 25-26. I had gone for all the weddings. Yes there was pain, but still they were ok because for them atleast the boy/girl is educated and is working and also from more or less same economic background that is middle class.

Press statement part is nice.

@Shruthi, Some are testing times and we have to face it and pass through it with minimum damage. Please be content atlast your sister is legally married that guy and staying with him. Just imagine of many cases where in they will elope and live for few days or months and decide they can not continue as the boy all of a sudden remembers his mother's sacrifice and his father's heath and sisters future and discord the girl like a peel of a fruit. Good that she is married and not in a Live-in relationship. I just hope his family is aware of his marriage. Atelast ensure that they have the knowledge of his marriage and will not later force him to compromise. Now that your sister has spread her cloth on the fence, let the thorns not tear it. Whether thorn falls on cloth or cloth falls on thorn, the ultimate loser will be the cloth. So let her not lose her heart and soul and hurt your aunt more. Atleast even though hurt and disheartened, your aunt will have some minimum satisfaction that her daughter is married. Let her not loot that peace also from her.

And about brother, I just can not understand how could a boy be so impractical and selfish to his own mother. When he can't understand the pain of his mother, how will he understand his sister? Console your mom that she is not just his mother but also yours and so atleast for your sake, she will have to take care of her and lead a happy life that she has got a caring daughter and adoring Son-in-law. So what her son is away, her SIL can always fill that void and be her son in real sense. Make her happy and also convince your aunt that she should be happy as her daughter is leading a respectful life as a married woman, so forget about her and concentrate on her own health as she will have to live for herself. Enough of living for that selfish daughter.

shruthi it is sad to know about ur aunt's state now.. hope she gain strength. I feel today's girls are in fantasy world. they just care about their own life without thinking about parents and relatives. You are talking about a girl eloped without thinking her mother. But i want to say about the girls we looked for my cousin brother's alliance. He got Diploma in civil and working in mumbai with a good salary around 50,000 and even bought a house in madurai. TN (i live here). My aunt already bought some jewels also. When we approach a few families the conditions they said were too horrible. Few say they want a engineering guy. few say yhey want a guy from foreign and few say they have to own a house in my native. More than that i heard one girl said groom's father should have govt job then only they can live in pension after retirement without disturbing them. See the girls dont think about the reality. Not ready to accept the reality. How can everything come in life readymade. Not ready to struggle.

That is what Jaya, when everyone was lamenting I was the only one who tried to ensure the legality of marriage, tried to ensure police verification done, to ensure his family knows. Because chest beating, crying, how to face crowd and all can happen later, but though she didn't think about any of us, I felt that it is very much needed to ensure the legal aspects in case if any issue comes we can stand in court and claim her rights.

Coming to story Hemaji yes during Jagratha their thoughts were muddled, confused as they were separated as a couple only to meet in a very difficult circumstance one month later. Lot of pent up feelings gave rise to that moment where they realized what their true relation is. Now they are more composed, emotions are more clear, now it is in need of assurance

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this update was so cute... sree and suman sleep like kids... i am 16, but till this day my mom tells me some story and only then I can sleep... if I stay at my relative's home, I cannot sleep and I will be awake till 1 or 2 am... at home my mom cannot sleep without telling story... sometimes I study till 12 am and when I come to sleep, my mom will be waiting for me... I have scolded her many times to sleep...but she never sleeps without telling story... my friends mock me.. but I won't feel... even if i sleep in between she never stops saying and completes the full story even if it is too long... my whole family still consider me as a kid... I am living in a joint family, so my mom and my aunt fight for pampering me... coming to your cousin some day she will realize the value of your aunt, even if her sasural is good.. and your sis in law too realize the value of your mother, when she becomes a mother... please take care of your aunt and mom as you only can fill the voidness...