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Ashu25 thumbnail
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Posted: 9 years ago
All this is fine. Am wondering how you missed out on the lines in the updates so far as to how unlucky he deems himself to have been brought up in this house and family!
And how cringeworthy it is for him to see his so called old man's face each day.
Well if those are the thoughts he holds, he better stay aloof.
Prents are people. They do make mistakes. At the end of the day, they are somebody who will stay with if we allow them to without judgements. Its unfair in this world of nuclear families to leave your parents and think its better to get out of the house.
Am sure people will come up with things like his thoughts were temporary etc...
I dont think so!
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Posted: 9 years ago

Originally posted by: Ashu25

All this is fine. Am wondering how you missed out on the lines in the updates so far as to how unlucky he deems himself to have been brought up in this house and family!

And how cringeworthy it is for him to see his so called old man's face each day.
Well if those are the thoughts he holds, he better stay aloof.
Prents are people. They do make mistakes. At the end of the day, they are somebody who will stay with if we allow them to without judgements. Its unfair in this world of nuclear families to leave your parents and think its better to get out of the house.
Am sure people will come up with things like his thoughts were temporary etc...
I dont think so!

again Ashu its not that easy
A person can't always hate or love another person
Situation pe depend karta hai
And the thought process at that hour
Look at me...I used to favour II now I believe dude ke perspective see bhi sochna chahiye

If I put myself where dude is and I look at things
If my dad seemed involved in something that lead to my mother to die I would throw all reason out of window and go into trauma
And curse how shitty my life is
And later I would be ashamed of my family and myself and I am being absolutely frank here
And I would keep looking at my father as somebody who reminds me I have a shitty life
My escape would be Paris where far from all this life seemed fit and I seemed like a clean slate and a person who nobody would judge because of the mistakes somebody else committed

It's not easy to live in a house/world where you are reminded that in you sleeps a man who could cheat another person and who could stoop to such levels
It's tough to be judged by people or even feel that somebody is judging you

When its such a huge mess I wouldn't like to be reminded everyday about it

But most other times when things don't remind me of my reality
I would look at my father like my father
His 25 years of loving his father shows up then
But when things surface only the 5 years show

We are human Ashu
We aren't used to drastic black and white decisions
We like to keep pushing things
We like to not decide
We like to live as things come our way
We act according to situations



And Behan ab sona hai
Going off to a trek tomorrow until Monday
Subha office phir direct prayanam
So tadaa

Bohat dino bad khoob debate kiya man mein thandak pad gayi
Tadaaa
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Posted: 9 years ago
For me it was more about the modus operandi of the dude .I feel II's hurt more stems from her knowledge of her husbands past affairs than that of her father in laws infidelity. Marliese and his exes occupy more of her mind .
And here it was about his prank.
Do you think I will cheat is a well directed question, I thought. And rightly so. This needs to be addressed
Fair.
But do you think it's in my genes shifts this issue to Ranjanji. But everything comes out after this prank.
May be right in a way too. I'm not sure

He spent the entire day sulking at DII on the iyer Deepavali with the presence of Abhi and when asked by his wife if it was DII he hated, he evaded that and pushed abhi into the background.
And with the peach guy, a lot has already been discussed.
How does he not expect his wife to feel bad then if he flaunts someone like Arunima then.
And he knows her insecurities with his exes. Chalo they hv stonewalled each other from discussing it so far.
He cringes seeing himself at the mirror wondering if he is capable of hurting someone.
Then he pulls a stunt like this and moves away smirking.
And when his wife reacts the way she does, he decides to attack the crux of the matter by putting it to the gene thing more than the unresolved elephant of his own past affairs.

He who was in a spot decides to put his wife in a spot.
And she is having to answer him cornered. But better now than never.
Like Sri says all's fair in love and war.

And if he is feeling like a piece of crap now as he feels , he just could hv said that first to his wife and then gone to address his past affairs or his father's scandal.

But then this is dude' modus operandi.

But, as I said earlier, if this brings about addressing that elephant , anything is worth it. That's for sure.


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Posted: 9 years ago

Originally posted by: NSB7

Do you think I was cheating on you? - he asked

Did I in the attempt to play a prank took onstep towards the old man's path? Did I fall down to causing an emotional trauma in the woman I love? Did I almost become the man I was afraid I would become if his blood would cause that trait in me? Did I do something I would hate myself for? - this is how it sounded to me

For him it must have been a blow we failed to notice
Because everything little thing related to the incident has until date be a big thing to him...hurt him...even the faintest connections bring back bad memories

How is it to walk like you have a tide heading towards you and dragging you into the huge sea but you are trying to swim against it?
How is it when every small mistake you make that in anyway gets connected to the incident feel like a sin to you?

Can he now ever be the same man he was? Can he ever take a conversation with any ex like a conversation and not an activity he does which would hurt his wife?
Some incidents change your perspective about everything in life


This was IT
That one playful step he inadvertently took to mess with his wife turned ugly

R&B knows he will NEVER cheat on her, so the prank was harmless with no motive😭
SHE doesn't
He has come face to face with Ranjan's infidelity, and Ranjan's reflection looks like R&B😭
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Posted: 9 years ago

Originally posted by: Errantnomad

For me it was more about the modus operandi of the dude .I feel II's hurt more stems from her knowledge of her husbands past affairs than that of her father in laws infidelity. Marliese and his exes occupy more of her mind .
And here it was about his prank.
Do you think I will cheat is a well directed question, I thought. And rightly so. This needs to be addressed
Fair.
But do you think it's in my genes shifts this issue to Ranjanji. But everything comes out after this prank.
May be right in a way too. I'm not sure

He spent the entire day sulking at DII on the iyer Deepavali with the presence of Abhi and when asked by his wife if it was DII he hated, he evaded that and pushed abhi into the background.
And with the peach guy, a lot has already been discussed.
How does he not expect his wife to feel bad then if he flaunts someone like Arunima then.
And he knows her insecurities with his exes. Chalo they hv stonewalled each other from discussing it so far.
He cringes seeing himself at the mirror wondering if he is capable of hurting someone.
Then he pulls a stunt like this and moves away smirking.
And when his wife reacts the way she does, he decides to attack the crux of the matter by putting it to the gene thing more than the unresolved elephant of his own past affairs.

He who was in a spot decides to put his wife in a spot.
And she is having to answer him cornered. But better now than never.
Like Sri says all's fair in love and war.

And if he is feeling like a piece of crap now as he feels , he just could hv said that first to his wife and then gone to address his past affairs or his father's scandal.

But then this is dude' modus operandi.

But, as I said earlier, if this brings about addressing that elephant , anything is worth it. That's for sure.



Kalpana when ur parent's infidelity occupies your every waking moment how can u not think about it?
I agree he could have been fair and reasonable and kept the topic all about himself

In accusing her, he is accusing himself of following Ranjan's foot steps

To R&B, this is not about deliberately shaming Ranjan, this about how he has fallen in his own eyes because of what he attempted to do

Someone loses his/her aunt in a car wreck, but some months later a coworker survives a car wreck, you immediately start drawing parallels of HOW this person "made it" even though you lost ur loved one.
Its natural

We have an outburst

"Oh my aunt was wearing a seat belt"
"My aunt wasnt drunk"
My aunt was struck by a drunk driver"
"My aunt was not speeding"

We dont say "I am glad my coworker survived. It was time for my aunt to go"
No!
We get angry at the other person's positive outcome, and wish why we didnt get the same outcome😭

R&B and Sam and Manya did everything right. YET this happened to them
And today even the thought of a prank is considered "blasphemous" because he suspected of having a tendency to stray😭

When R&B fell off the ladder and sliced his hand, why did Ranjan not look at that objectively
Why did he beg R&B to stay safe, and not plunge down the balcony?
He lost his wife like that right?

Its plainly impossible to dissociate from a trauma, atleast thats how I see it
I bet there are millions in the world that objective and rational and mature and always stay on topic unemotionally
Not these leads...








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Posted: 9 years ago
This was that reality check that mistakes happen and while showing her who's the boss he clearly crossed a line imaginary or let's say contingent line. Now he's got back to where he begun but there's one thing about past how many times you visit there's nothing new to see; but the hurt just deepens and II's fears are again subject to some prejudice of hers that she and she alone can fight and come out of it.

Dude coming straight out felt like somebody showed him the mirror where he feels his demons reflect but you have a different chapter to write to fill up your books so go ahead and make those proof reads and be back on track 😳
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Posted: 9 years ago
He pranked her knowing fully well he will never cheat, but being accused of cheating reminds him, he will never be able to get out of the scandal's shadow
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Posted: 9 years ago

Originally posted by: Nisha0604

He pranked her knowing fully well he will never cheat, but being accused of cheating reminds him, he will never be able to get out of the scandal's shadow


What I get from the tale he always was one women man
In earlier chapters he once said when asked bout M that he missed sex but he never had sex with his ex!!
He always was straight forward in that sense!!
When he proposed marriage he knew that's it
He wanted to live his life with her

But the scandals is one thing he can never come out of
It can never be assumed as it never happened!!
And that is the saddest part 🤢
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Posted: 9 years ago

Originally posted by: Nisha0604


This was IT
That one playful step he inadvertently took to mess with his wife turned ugly

R&B knows he will NEVER cheat on her, so the prank was harmless with no motive😭
SHE doesn't
He has come face to face with Ranjan's infidelity, and Ranjan's reflection looks like R&B😭


what baffles me is the way RB has processed II's reaction to the prank. he knows how she feels about his past flings.. he knows she is extremly insecure about this and yet he went on to play such a prank. Did he really think that this was about the unfaithful gene and that II fear's he will be following his dads footsteps or was it about his own worries in this regard considering his sexual habits in the past. is he testing himself, trying to see whether he is capable of beign unfaithful...
he can deliver pain and hurt, we have seen that, but what was his reasoning to do so?


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Posted: 9 years ago

Originally posted by: Nisha0604

He pranked her knowing fully well he will never cheat, but being accused of cheating reminds him, he will never be able to get out of the scandal's shadow


This or the fact that his previous flings and the way she feels about his girlfriends, makes him feel special!

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