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again so so real. every career oriented woman goes through this dilemma, especially those who realize that they have the capability to achieve big things. growing up my mom told me that I should choose teaching as a career because that gives you ample time to care for your family I totally pooh pooed the idea and became a journalist instead and I believe did some great work but then gave it all up to start a family. a travelling scribe and kids don't really gel and if handn't decided to have kids then perhaps we would never have had them because both my husband and I were doing exceptionally well in our careers.

Originally posted by: taramira

again so so real. every career oriented woman goes through this dilemma, especially those who realize that they have the capability to achieve big things. growing up my mom told me that I should choose teaching as a career because that gives you ample time to care for your family I totally pooh pooed the idea and became a journalist instead and I believe did some great work but then gave it all up to start a family. a travelling scribe and kids don't really gel and if handn't decided to have kids then perhaps we would never have had them because both my husband and I were doing exceptionally well in our careers.

but the fear of being superceded, removed from a beat you have nurtured for a long time, seeing others who are perhaps less capable take your place are real fears.

do I regret giving it all up... NO but truthfully, because I chose to have kids, I couldn't do what I had aspired to do. Now that they are all grown up, I don't have the time, the drive, the energy to do what I could 20 years ago.

I trained my mind to think that career is not worth it, if you have brought children into this world you have to be responsible for them. Each time I had to rush to school because my kid had a fall or something else, I would be guilty for leaving work, because we had been taught that we should give 100 per cent to work..slowly I stopped caring about promotions, about fancy assignments.. it was the biweekly pay cheque and just a job which kept my identity intact.

am I a bad mother for saying this... I dont think so. I love my kids, I have had the greatest time with them, cant imagine my life without them, but I loved my career equally and have tried to stay connected one way or other and interestingly after moving to Canada I went back to school and trained as a teacher because that did give stability!

Compromises have to to be made and only II can can take that decision for herself!

Hey Vani,

hola every one ... me back :-) back from beach and for the first time ever in more than 5 years i landed up booking a place with no free wifi i know such places also exist 😆😆
I missed this virtual land and just now finished reading all the missed update
Marigold and thodi si zameen just had me...OMG what lovely dreams
All the updates have been so splendid just lovely

And while i was away Ranjan got stronger bolder with his Son and DIL asked for a grand child , made her think OMGGG i love him more and yes thats possible 😳

and the MM bachas R&B and II sooo cute my highlight was he paid for her music class the first time she agreed and the first time he paid was that and loooved the jealous R&B 😳😆😉
Ready for AGM but sooo not ready for a work weak from tomorrow 😡

Originally posted by: TanjoreGirl

hola every one ... me back :-) back from beach and for the first time ever in more than 5 years i landed up booking a place with no free wifi i know such places also exist 😆😆
I missed this virtual land and just now finished reading all the missed update
Marigold and thodi si zameen just had me...OMG what lovely dreams
All the updates have been so splendid just lovely

And while i was away Ranjan got stronger bolder with his Son and DIL asked for a grand child , made her think OMGGG i love him more and yes thats possible 😳

and the MM bachas R&B and II sooo cute my highlight was he paid for her music class the first time she agreed and the first time he paid was that and loooved the jealous R&B 😳😆😉
Ready for AGM but sooo not ready for a work weak from tomorrow 😡

Originally posted by: shidin0117

Welcome back Anu, hope u had a good time...will wait for ur Ranjan gush,left a comment for u in some page, abt supporting ur Ranjan dharna. Bechara, give him some happiness.

aaw i left the thread at 38 pages and got back to 106 :-) so only read the update and yes post these updates i am 1000% positive this guy is awesome and no he didnt cheat kuch nahi he is R&B's dad in every which way from his brains to looks to heart he is R&B++ 😳

Originally posted by: TanjoreGirl

aaw i left the thread at 38 pages and got back to 106 :-) so only read the update and yes post these updates i am 1000% positive this guy is awesome and no he didnt cheat kuch nahi he is R&B's dad in every which way from his brains to looks to heart he is R&B++ 😳

OMG sorry i cant get over marigold i just cant


"Stereotypes? Manya?" Ranjan asked without a smile

👏👏

Originally posted by: noname10

Powerful update! Talk about being between a rock and and a hard place.

But if I may impart some psychobabble: CHILDREN SHOULD NOT BE BORN WITH A JOB!

I Know II's father-in-law means well but asking for a grandchild with the feeble hope of keeping his son in India is expecting a lot from II and R&B's unborn child. I can't help draw parallels between the conversation between amma and II regrading having kids some time ago. While both parents want the same thing to see their children having a family of their own the approach was completely different. While I feel for Ranjan's desperation I can't help but feel he is deluding himself. I mean who's to say that R&B won't take his wife and kid(or kids) and fly off to live in Paris? The issues between these two men are very complicated and adding grandchildren won't be a magical fix.

So true, but any decision we take in life we do so with the notion "I am going to do this and I KNOW its the best thing for this situation" We just follow our gut, he hopes a baby will magically make R&B plant roots, a part of him is sniggering at himself I bet but I wants to believe something will cause the vagabond to grow roots
In Tamil there is a proverb, kalyanam pannina paithyam teliyum, paithyam telinja kalyanam aahum
Which basically means... to get rid of retardation u get married, if u get married retardation will pass and cognitive abilities will return

Originally posted by: Nisha0604

So true, but any decision we take in life we do so with the notion "I am going to do this and I KNOW its the best thing for this situation" We just follow our gut, he hopes a baby will magically make R&B plant roots, a part of him is sniggering at himself I bet but I wants to believe something will cause the vagabond to grow roots
In Tamil there is a proverb, kalyanam pannina paithyam teliyum, paithyam telinja kalyanam aahum
Which basically means... to get rid of retardation u get married, if u get married retardation will pass and cognitive abilities will return