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Happy New Year to you and all you lovely readers, Shona!
I am so glad Arnav managed to rescue Khushi from Alagan's madness, but I must admit I am not happy with the way Khushi tried to resolve things as they did not have a proper conversation. She has to realize there is a time for her friend and a time for her husband and no matter how much she tells Arnav and even shows how much she loves him, she has for him, Arnav has been forced to accept her friendship with Alagan because of her tears and in a sense his helplessness in the face of sincere pleas of sympathy for Alagan and here desire for a world where everyone she loves loves and lives with each other.
He has given in now because both are tired and he is convinced that she clearly loves him. So her love for him is not a problem for him, his problem is the equal priority she is giving the other man, and that is something Khushi will have to realize because if not today someday this will come back haunt her. She should realize there is a time for friendship and a time for relationship with one's husband/partner, she cannot mix up the two as she has done and demand that Arnav accept her point of view without understanding Arnav's point of view. She thinks her love should be enough, but that is not.
She should have focused on her husband and her relationship with him at this point in time now that she knows Alagan is safe. She should have left it for now and allowed time for Arnav to realise that Alagan is not bad man, he is just a very sick man who has been through a lot of trauma in his life.
I had always thought that Arnav and Khushi would become true partners in happier circumstances than these. It had to be in circumstances where they were thinking of only themselves and there was nothing but themselves, but not after such a traumatic day for both of them, not in the shadow of a friendship that causes the pain to Arnav.
I am not sure how much of Khushi wanting to become Arnav's wife in every sense of the word is because of her anxiety that things should be the way she things they should be mixed with gratitude and relief that Arnav has listened to her and her desire for him. I am not saying she does not desire him, as she does, but she does not truly understand the nature of what he actually means to her. I so wish she had waited or that he had stopped after reassuring her that he loved her but that they should start their marriage on a happier day.
I am sorry I did not mean to be critical, but I am just thinking that they are both such lovely people, and have been through so much, that their union should be in happy circumstances, not marred by other things. I hope you do not feel bad about my comments. I love this story and its characters, which is why I feel bad about Khushi not fully understanding Arnav despite knowing all the anxieties he has about being abandoned.
I am so glad Arnav managed to rescue Khushi from Alagan's madness, but I must admit I am not happy with the way Khushi tried to resolve things as they did not have a proper conversation. She has to realize there is a time for her friend and a time for her husband and no matter how much she tells Arnav and even shows how much she loves him, she has for him, Arnav has been forced to accept her friendship with Alagan because of her tears and in a sense his helplessness in the face of sincere pleas of sympathy for Alagan and here desire for a world where everyone she loves loves and lives with each other.
He has given in now because both are tired and he is convinced that she clearly loves him. So her love for him is not a problem for him, his problem is the equal priority she is giving the other man, and that is something Khushi will have to realize because if not today someday this will come back haunt her. She should realize there is a time for friendship and a time for relationship with one's husband/partner, she cannot mix up the two as she has done and demand that Arnav accept her point of view without understanding Arnav's point of view. She thinks her love should be enough, but that is not.
She should have focused on her husband and her relationship with him at this point in time now that she knows Alagan is safe. She should have left it for now and allowed time for Arnav to realise that Alagan is not bad man, he is just a very sick man who has been through a lot of trauma in his life.
I had always thought that Arnav and Khushi would become true partners in happier circumstances than these. It had to be in circumstances where they were thinking of only themselves and there was nothing but themselves, but not after such a traumatic day for both of them, not in the shadow of a friendship that causes the pain to Arnav.
I am not sure how much of Khushi wanting to become Arnav's wife in every sense of the word is because of her anxiety that things should be the way she things they should be mixed with gratitude and relief that Arnav has listened to her and her desire for him. I am not saying she does not desire him, as she does, but she does not truly understand the nature of what he actually means to her. I so wish she had waited or that he had stopped after reassuring her that he loved her but that they should start their marriage on a happier day.
I am sorry I did not mean to be critical, but I am just thinking that they are both such lovely people, and have been through so much, that their union should be in happy circumstances, not marred by other things. I hope you do not feel bad about my comments. I love this story and its characters, which is why I feel bad about Khushi not fully understanding Arnav despite knowing all the anxieties he has about being abandoned.
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