Originally posted by: dreamymaya
Even though La- Arnav talk sounded like a business deal and initally La was sounding like a mother than a wife to Arnav with the whole gym scene and breakfast time. my thoughts on their talk is below..Syam is a slum douchebag...but there is a point in his thoughts--- both him and Arnav are ultimately seeking the same from Khushi...where as Arnav has more to offer her than Shyam but Khushi, don't u realise Arnav is also married like Shyam??
I don't understand how you can see a mother-son scene there. Business deal yes, I mean't it that way. If you have realized, Lavanya is a little bit like ASR of our serial. She is not good with feelings, especially when they are not to be appreciated. If she had cried, raged and pleaded, like her heart wishes, it would have been of no use. She doesn't wanted to show that she was feeling weak, or rather the extent of it to Arnav. So she talked in the language she is familiar with and is confident about.
Regarding Shyam and Arnav wanting the same thing - I purposefully added that line because I have thought about it. If I knew what love is, I would have said what Arnav is seeking is love and what Shyam wants is lust. But I don't know. So I will say this. It is Kushi's choice here. She chose Arnav and not Shyam. It is about her choice finally!
I wanted to give this marriage a chance. may b we did this marriage as a compromise and to suit our conveniences I started falling for you and needed more from this relationship---- I felt like La was giving a business proposition than stating her feelings..is it that she doesnt know how to express her feelings or does she fear that she will sound clingy???
I replied to this one above.
As you were alone as much as I was, I thought maybe after a little contemplation on your own you would seek out me. I thought you needed some time alone for it and gave you your space; to realize my value in your life.---- again I felt her as an overconfident woman than a woman in love..I pity her because she feel loves for him but isnt able to get her love across to him.
I don't see it as over confidence. She was not expecting him to fall at her feet in love. She was just hoping for him to feel the same. She just didn't know to fuss over him with her love. She respected his space and gave him time to realize on his own that they should work their marriage. How can that be over confidence???
But I guess it was a wrong step on my part considering the result it has reached. You probably did realize my value in your life; albeit it was just that the realization proved to you that I had no significance in your life. Also you found someone else to fill my shoes.--- there she said it again to fill my shoes ha ha..she lives in illusion right? When she had no space in her heart how can she feel that she is being replaced?
I admit that you are right in your perception here. But in one way she is right. She in her heart believed she is his wife and has a space in his life, if not heart. It was simply jealousy speaking! C'mon we all go through these emotions and it would be artificial, if I don't portray a bit of jealousy in La at this point. Don't you think so? But she is lady of character, so she was trying to not be blunt about it.
It is true that you dont have the significance you wanted in my life=---- thats blunt Arnav..she might be a lady of rock but rejection hurts..when u tell a person they dont have a value in your life, it shatters them
You are right again. It was blunt. I guess men are like that. Not generalising them. My ASR is especially a master in being blunt. I told you, he has my traits. I am understanding the flaws of my own self through Arnav!
Kushi is not here to fill your shoes. She has a place and role in my life which is different from what anybody else can understand than me and her ---ok. I am glad that Arnav defended Khushi and explained her importance in his life. If he hadnt I would have felt bad for Khushibut to hell with friendship, La doesnt need his friendship, what she craves is for his love, not respect and admiration
Again you are right. What La craves for is love and there is absolutely no one now to provide that to her. Her Dad is not there, friends are settled in their own lives and business associates are not friends! So now she is losing Arnav too. It is a bit scary position according to me, in life - to be left all alone!
This is what I would want a man in Arnav's place to do. It is not about defending Kushi, but about his feelings for Kushi. Usually in films etc I have seen male character at this point, is more concerned about consoling their wife and they forget about the other woman in their life, as if she is only a thing he needs after avoiding his wife. It doesn't sit well with me. I guess, or I expect Arnav to talk this. Though I am not sure, if all men are like that!
You were trying to hold onto me because I know you the best and I am the only acquaintance in your life that knows you in and out. But that is not love. You have not felt what I have felt for Kushi for me. And till you find that I will be by your side for your help.--- aha! There might be truth in these wordsu r trying to hold onto me because I know u better than anyone " was that the case? I am always confused with this conceptif that was not love then what is love?
I don't think there is a definition for love. It is different to different people. Few months back I had a talk with a friend. She told me, love is different for different people. After that, I tried to ask each of my friend what they see as love. For one, it was vague- to look after her, support her and protect her; for another what she needed was ease for communication, she should be able to communicate about anything under the sun with him, including intellectual talks. For one it was physical pleasure. So it is different for each person. This might be your definition. Arnav didn't feel that was love because his definition is different and he found it to be true with his experience with Kushi. It is not necessary he is right na?!😉
But you have no right to judge my feelings for you, when you had never tried to understand it in the first place. --- there! La could feel her heart buring with his wordsI can feel the heart shattering pain La is feeling while hearing it..its always a deep searing pain to hear the person whom u love, talking about the person he loves (who is not u)
True! A bit of La's emotional side was coming out!!!
I need time to accept the fact that I have no hope of finding love in you for me; of having to leave you to somebody else; to give up the rights I had on you or rather which I believed I had on you to another woman. It is not easy for me. ---Its never easy and can she ever achieve this? Can she ever accept the fact that he never loved her? She will be scarred for life and moreover a person like La will never be able to trust in love again for the fear of getting hurt again..u cant call her escapist or anything. She did try to give her whole heart to a man who threw it back at her that too by stating he loved another woman deeply
You are right. Here, you have understood La very well. All that you said is right from my perception too. She might not achieve it or she may. It depends on her. Or at least she will be able to make peace with her fate.
You cant go on living with me hoping that one day I will change for you. Till when can you deceive yourself? There would come a time when you will realize this on your own and then we both will have lost our chance at happiness. Maybe moving apart can bring us real happiness. Just like I found Kushi, there might be a happiness awaiting you too.---- how can u guarantee that Arnav??? Ok I understand ur reasons but still how can u be sure that La would find her happiness other than u???
HOPE! Man can exist only if he has hope, someone told me once. I guess you know who! Arnav knows, no matter what, that this is going to robe La from living ahead her life. He knows she will survive but will forget to live. We have to give it to him that he knows her, even if he doesn't love her. So he is giving hope to her and trying to ease her at least a bit by assuring her that this drift between them doesn't mean she will be alone. That is a gentleman gesture and a friend speaking!
No one can be sure of what is waiting ahead. La may or may not find happiness. But to an extent, it also depends on Lavanya if she finds happiness. It needn't be that she has to find happiness in another man! She can find happiness in her work or in some other thing. It is not mandatory that a woman needs a man to survive and vice-versa.
she loves him and cant love anybody else and if she decides to let go of him, it would be for his own sake, for his happiness and not for her.--- aha! My heart goes out to this lady!
Lavanya stood up suddenly as each of his words were suffocating her more and more; because she simply could see that he was relieved that she was leaving and it hurt. It hurt a lot.--- again he doesnt care about the extent of hurt he is causing her
Very true. He is at the step of his happiness and he is not ready to look beyond it. He is insensitive and he shows it here.
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