Shifting Sands Chapter 20 posted/pg 146 - Page 79

Originally posted by: adorableyosh

My response is in Purple

But it was Geet who made him say all those harsh words to her by portraying herself like characterless woman.

Who asked Maan to butt into her personal life. He chose to get personal. Geet never asked him. If he did not like something, he should have kept it to himself, moved on. Instead of finding ways to get closer to her, juss because he got attracted to her. He lost his control when he got attracted. It is not Geet's fault.

I am angry with Maan for behaving like an idiot, typical man, a dog but more angry with Geet for behaving like a characterless woman.

I see so much anger here at Geet. Who defines Character. What could be your definition of character, does not necessarily it will be mine. the character that we see portrayed in our South Asian community as a norm...is that correct or wrong?

I do not agree with ur assumption of Geet as a characterless woman. She does not give respect to herself that is a judgmental statement. Again, respect looks different in everyone's eyes. what gave Maan the right to treat her the way he treated her.

Why should there be a difference between man and woman, except the physical characteristics. Why are men given more privileges and why are women given certain guidelines to follow and if they do not want to follow such guidelines, they are named as characterless. Bull**** (pardon my language, do not mean any offense to anyone)😳

I wanted Geet to be modern, woman of dignity and grace, woman of substance, woman of pride but not like this. Drinking is acceptable; partying is acceptable but not sleeping around with random men. If she had a boyfriend and she is sleeping with him I would have accepted that fact but not this way. I find her character less woman here. There is no dignity, no pride, no grace, and no substance in her character.

Again, you are seeing world from your own perspective. The world is vast, people are many, experiences vary, life is not the same for everyone. Please do not judge a person without knowing the real person. U cannot say someone is bad, by just looking at their actions. U need to get to the root.

Moreover, accept ppl for who they are, blacks have black skin, whites have white skin, indians have brown. Some believe in God some do not. Some choose abortion, some not. Everyone is different and everyone has a right to live the way they want to live. there is not right or wrong.

I have one question to all the readers who are saying that Maan should have seen her inner self and not outer self. If Maan would be like her i.e. drinker, sleeping around with any random woman would Geet have accepted him? Wouldn't she be looking for the man who she can trust, rely and feel safe? She would also have said same words to him (In 'Purple Haze' Geet did say similar kind of words to him as he was like this FF's Geet in 'Purple Haze'. See part 9/10 of 'Purple Haze').

Every situation is different. Geet has not asked maan to accept her, love her, marry her. This is Maan's own battle that he is fighting. Leave it upto him.

If she had a past which made her like that than I would like to know that what is there in her past which made her behave like characterless woman. I am sure no matter how harsh things have been your past but given a choice you would not be sleeping around with random man like she does with her own choice.

This is a free world, people have a right to live the way they want to live. Who are we to define - what she did is wrong and what he did is right. Who gave us the right? We are also humans. We choose to live our life this way and the next door neighbour chooses to live his or her life other way. Respect a person for who they are. that is called acceptance. Maan here is not able to accept her, so fine..he is not accepting and he did his engagement. Simple.

I am ready to accept Geet with her bad past, and so would Maan. Whatever happen in past is past, I will not accept her like this if she still carries on like this just because of her past. Bad experiences make you stronger not weaker. Whatever Geet is doing is the sign of weakness for me and nothing else. Please do not give me an example of a film called 'Laaga Chunari Mein Daag' here. Because in that film the lead character did sleep with random man, but given a choice the lead character would not have done that. Here it looks like Geet is doing purposely.

Again assumption, the story of Geet's past is not yet revealed. If she is comfortable with her life and what ever she is doing, than she has the right to do so.

Because if you have a slightest feeling for someone you would want to change yourself a little bit. Everyone does that. In this FF you want Maan to change his way of thinking to accept Geet as she is (Unconditional Love!). So if you want Maan to change his way of thinking (as he is going for outer look than inner beauty) and accept Geet as she is than why not Geet. Why cannot she change her way

Story has not progressed yet. Love, whether in FF's or real life, pure unconditional love does not seek change, does not ask change and does not demand change. Love is love. It accepts u for who u are. It lets u be who u are. If u cannot except the other person for who they are, than u are not in love with them. ur love at that time is conditional, based on conditions. If a person wants to change for their love, that is a different story, cus they want to change themselves, not because they were forced to change. Compromises are selfless are done because u want to compromise in that situation. If a person cannot stand the person in front of them, they should move on.

Here also, Maan cannot accept Geet for who she is...so let him move on...which he has engagement..whether his heart is with him or not. We as Maneetians...and because we love our Maan n Geet...we are mixing it all up..cus in the end we all have one goal and that is Maan + Geet = Forever

Let the story progress the way it is going...lets just wait and watch.

(even in 'Purple Haze' once Maan realised his feelings for Geet he changed himself, we never seen him sleeping around with any other woman than Geet or behaving like this FF's Geet after he realised his love for Geet) and let Maan see real Geet. I am sure that your couple friends, who are your inspirations for this FF, have changed themselves little bit for the sake of their relationship, their love for each other. Evryone does that in love.

Well, this is my POV. I do not want to offend any one including writer here. I do like this FF and have also read your other FFs. I just did not like the character of Geet the way it has been portrayed. As I can accept men to be like that as they are dogs and 'kutte dum kabhi sidhi nahi ho sakti' but not women. Being a woman I cannot accept a woman who behaves like this.

Woman - who defines what a woman can do and cannot do. No one. Not the world, not the norms, not the books, nothing. It is each individual's own perspective.

Please don't be angry with me as I am not angry with anyone but Geet and Maan of this FF.

Love and peace

It is not enough that today a man dominates over a woman, a woman has less rights than a man, a woman suffers silently because she is physically less strong than a man, a woman keeps quiet for her parents, her husband and her children. It that all not enough! To further add to her misery another woman stands up against her and tries to bring her down.

Love and peace continues...

Rachana

Yosh

Originally posted by: Water.

Originally posted by: Water.