Precap- Vidhan tells he prefers Maithili

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Now another headache for Anjali if Vidhan breaks the engagement. Jagat will put all the blame on Anjali as the reason for breaking the engagement. He will tell just because Anjali wanted go for this adventure she lose out on such a good guy.
I would really love to see the take of AG on this issue. Because this is something many girls face when they want to follow their dreams. If she studies this or that who will marry her. Even I had faced it when I wanted to do B-Tech 15 years back. Kaun Shaadi Karega. Reason those days in my community the only option girls took was teaching, bank or doctor. Guys were mostly in business and most of them wont be even graduates.
It was like my ambition has to be curtailed based on what the guys in my community did. Expectation was set. if you study B-Tech don't expect an engineer, you might have to settle for graduate in business blah blah...
I had given a hoot to those things, went ahead completed by B-Tech landed in IT industry and in arranged marriage itself got a Qualified Chartered Accountant for husband and keeps on boldly telling girls whomever I meet. Don't stop yourself from pursuing what you want. The person made for you will come to you irrespective of what you study and don't study.
Since I am a living example of dreams followed well I got some people to follow me and change their lives for better than comprising their dreams for the good guy in waiting. The so called Acha Rishtha.
But let me tell you this is a real problem in our country and one that needs to be addressed. It is very difficult to challenge it and it is emotionally draining as it takes all the strength to face it without having any strong emotional support. You are alone out there. Even your parents will be like " I guess this is your fate, what to do" etc and they feel tensed when the pressure of society build on them. And seeing them tensed it is very difficult to assuage your guilty conscious also. So it is a very deep hurtful emotional fight with just faith that God wont let you down as your companion.

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Posted: 10 years ago
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See anjali is no child why will she take the blame silently? she can always stand up and decline the marriage proposal right at her father;s face!
Problem with anjali is, she still wants be the conventional GOOD girl to her delusional dad. She hasnt been able to break the walls imposed on her by her dad , though how much she blabbers about proving her astitva! what is the point of an emancipation , when she has to ultimately conform to her dad;s patriarchal notions ? she can any day refuse to get married and say no at jagats face.

I undesrtand your POV. there are many girls who face discrimination and yes, such discrimination are very much there, because patriarchal oppression is always present in some form or the other. But girls do have the courage now a days to stand up to it and fight it, like u have done. anjali needs to do that as well. I find her very confused , and even feel she lacks conviction to do it for herself, yet.
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Posted: 10 years ago
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Anjali is strong so she can face all this


Edited by ananya2000 - 10 years ago
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Posted: 10 years ago
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@bright-star easier said than done. It's not easy. To say no to a proposal by girl is not at all easy. I understand what Anjali feels. I very well understand it. Because there were times when my heart had cried out I don't want this, but the guilty feeling that is put into me was not able to mouth those words " No". Every girl wants acceptance especially from her parents for what she is. They expect them to understand her for what she is. But then when you are a girl there is societal pressure on parents. Parents want to stand upto that. When you deny them that chance then EB starts. Comparison starts. You learn to stand upto them only after some time especially after you get financial independence. After you have proven something.
Anjali is still on the verge of proving herself that something beyond marriage is her destiny. That one chance. The one chance that desperately wanted to convert and the one chance that finally gave me the voice to say what I want.
Yes she will tell what she want but before that she has to grow out of the shell and become mature.
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Posted: 10 years ago
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😉if aakash also reject anjali then . waise bhi anjali ko handsome aaksh mil raha hai .
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Posted: 10 years ago
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Maybe he will blame her but this time I want her to give back her answers.. No compromising statements because Vidhaan it's his choice either he could predict how far he was a perfect fit for Anjali?? It's more of like a duty to complete her marriage.. Till now I had seen Anjali as a perfect daughter to him.. If he blame him then it doesn't makes sense because it's Vidhaan who might break out for his own choice of choosing Maithili.. I couldn't find any reason for blaming Anjali right now in this issue.. If at all, Vidhaan would disclose it to Jagat reasoning of breaking his engagement. It's Vidhaan what joined hands with Anjali in postponing engagement.. Moreover his daughter had enough knowledge to choose right or bad.. He simply underestimated her capacity and blankly questioning her abilities without giving any chance it's a huge let down from him.. It won't make a secs to raise or refuse his choice of proposal but she won't do that ever in any time, because she always wants his father to express his love for her.. Probably now it will be a change what Jagat actually trying to give answers.. Though Anjali took up this mission as a target in her process, still now she can only remember his father and not anyone else.. And for Anjali marriage is not her choice right now it's her father freeing himself in fulfilling his duty.. She knows marriage is not her destiny, it's more than that yet none of them couldn't reach her loops which was still clinged..!! But this I can hope for Anjali getting back with his perfect answers reaching Jagat's ears..!!
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Posted: 10 years ago
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@chocobrownies it is not Anjali's fault if Vidhaan chooses someone else. But from Jagat's POV he will try to put blame on her that is my take. And yes agree to you. I want Anjali to stand up and speak for herself. She had not hidden anything from Vidhaan. She had told him everything before taking up the expedition.
@naren it is not the question of whether Anjali will get Vidhaan or Aakash. The question is why getting a guy has to be the priority when a girl decides to do what she wants to do. After she completes what she wants then of course she can decide who she wants in life. She has a choice to choose as much as a boy has and that includes decision to stay unmarried also.
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Posted: 10 years ago
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Originally posted by: shruthiravi

@chocobrownies it is not Anjali's fault if Vidhaan chooses someone else. But from Jagat's POV he will try to put blame on her that is my take. And yes agree to you. I want Anjali to stand up and speak for herself. She had not hidden anything from Vidhaan. She had told him everything before taking up the expedition.

@naren it is not the question of whether Anjali will get Vidhaan or Aakash. The question is why getting a guy has to be the priority when a girl decides to do what she wants to do. After she completes what she wants then of course she can decide who she wants in life. She has a choice to choose as much as a boy has and that includes decision to stay unmarried also.

Shruthi..but he will find some way to let down her again.. I don't want this time to keep quiet.. I just want Anjali to give back her answers.. Definitely Vidhaan will clear it up from his side..!!
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Posted: 10 years ago
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If Vidhaan like Maithili ...then i am Happy...coz i Got Aakash-Anjali together
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Posted: 10 years ago
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@chocobrownies crux of the matter is that people like Jagat can never be corrected, I mean it is next to impossible to correct their views on anything. Their ego is that huge. You cannot live to satisfy such a person.
In short instead of trying to prove something for Jagat, Anjali should go ahead and do what she like. It is for Jagat to accept her or not. If he doesn't then she has to understand it is not her fault, but his fault.

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