Sudha a cheater or victim??? - Page 2

I think the answer is both. But it's what's lacking in Hindi television right now. They expect women to be perfect, moralistic, not allowed/being able to make mistakes, perhaps an ongoing, life-long mistakes. Instead when they are victims, they make best use and it turns out for the best.

This is not the case in many old, classic, and even religious literature. But such a thing cannot be possible in television.

Sudha is a victim because she really had no agency. Sure she could have talked to her father and that is a mistake that both Chander and Sudha will live with. However, the reason she didn't is because Chander asked her to, but you need to look at the more underlying reason of why. Chander possibly couldn't have done this 'betrayal' of Shukla. Shukla realized his mistake much later, but what's the chance he would have understood back then? Sudha telling him she doesn't want marriage, he may have understood. But what made the matter tricky is that Shukla asked Chander to talk to Sudha about marriage. In his mind, he knows not of the love or it's not an attempt to keep them apart. It's because he knows Sudha is childish and wouldn't agree, but Chander could talk 'sense' into her and she would agree. Here it is wrong, I agree. But for Chander Sudha going to tell her father she won't agree, would be validating what Binti's mother accused him of. And he just couldn't bring himself to 'betray' Shukla like that, and I guess maybe in the book to initially convince himself and deny that their relationship is anything but 'pure'

Also I haven't read the book, but I think the show paints Pammi in more of a negative light than the book may have. I have a friend who read the book and when Pammi asked Sudha whether she loved Chander, it was so bitter and cruel in the show. Just doing it to lash out and for the sake of it.

I asked the friend who read the book and she told me the events don't play out the same way within the book, and her question to Sudha was in no way the same manner as it was on the show, neither was there a confrontation between Chander and Pammi as it was on the show.

She didn't spoil anything else for me, but I will take a wild guess after seeing the past few episodes and say they've done the same thing again here in painting Pammi in a more harsher light.

She is an enabler here, yes. But I do not like the way it comes off. Chander too is a participant and who's to say he wouldn't have gone nuts and off anyway? He was already lacking and slacking off, going mad. Drinking and smoking is blamed on her? They're sleeping together, so what? It happens now and it happened then. And they are both adults.

Is it the best thing for him since he is not taking care of his life and career? is he happy? No... of course not. But the way it's somehow implied to be put on Pammi does not really sit well with me. He is also responsible, she may have been enabling him, but he was well on his path even before that...and the way it plays out... I have a feeling the writer was much more kind to Pammi's character and portrayal than the show... Of course...it is no surprise considering the paragraph I started off with.

Pammi's mistake was trying to keep Sudha away from Chander's life, trying to remove her memories and she felt if alchohol helped him remove Sudha's memories she was fine with it. She didn't took charge, but in a way was controlled by him. She allowed him to use her, knowing fully well he doesn't belong to her and never will belong.

And that applies to Sudha also. Sudha also allowed Chander to control her. But the area where Binti excels is, she controls Chander.

She knows his Achilles heel, that is Sudha and presses that button in the right way to steer him. And I would say that is where Binti succeeds where other 2 women failed.