Shravan please leave, run away

Shravan please leave - run away

I know they had to go fast to reach the end otherwise the plot would have been unfolded gradually to our liking I am with them in this mess can't be helped

This show is laughable, like really. I watched it in bits and pieces and always got turned off with the constant bickering and lack of respect leads and so called soulmates had for each other. Its same even when its ending.

what was laughable in last epi is sumo and ramnath botj were talking about shravan ko sudharna, sahi raah pe leke aana...I mean see who is talking. they don't realize their own behaviour and even don't deserve to even have shravan company. and shravan ko sudharne chale hain...
shravan just looked for the concern and care from sumo for him which she never gave. he would have easily accepted this marriage if she had not done what she did. left for pct before bidaai, then first day itself after marriage.
at the time of marriage,he had some hope but now thats gone.so he is bound to say thats enough.

Hey Sneha, I've been reading all your posts from past few days and I know that you're Shravan's fan. I respect your favouritism but... but

In Accordance with Amulya, I also must say that I have been keeping up with your posts and time and again I am having issues with your opinion about Sumo.

I respect the love you have for Shravan's Character, but alongside his good qualities (which he has plenty of, there is a lot of good in him) there are also negative sides, which is normal, no person is perfect, not Sumo, not Shravan.

Supporting Shravan is not wrong, but ignoring when he is wrong and putting all the blame on one party is wrong. It takes two to tango.

As Amulya pointed out very aptly. It seems that a lot of people forget the trauma and the problems Sumo has had to face in her life since a very young age. She lost both her parents, she came to live with her Nanu and was received with mixed emotions.
She has the constant feeling that she had to repay a debt. Such a big burden to grow up with. And she got unconditional love from her Nanu who taught her to be self reliant and independent, to never lose her self-respect.

No doubt that Shravan has lost a lot in life too, and that he has gone through so much. But tht does not, in any way justify his actions and words against Sumo. They may explain it, and for that we have sympathy, but I, for being a self-respecting independent feminist woman, cannot condone such behaviours.

I ask you? Would you be able to live with a man who reduces your identity to nothing more than his wife, someone who should be running around at his every wish?
Someone who constantly insults you, not only privately, but in front of the whole family, not only that, he went as far as insulting her on media, and insulting PCT, which for her is one of the most sentimental things in life (for her mother with her name)

A relationship, in my eyes, can only survive if there is trust on both ends and respect. Shravan neither trusts Sumo, nor respects her, but he demands that she trust and respect him.
As a woman, I want you to think about how you would feel if someone said about you what shravan aid to Aditya. I think it is an awful thing to say about any person (let alone male or female)

Also, despite all of this, sumo knows how to trigger shravan, she deliberately played on his ego to get him to stand up on his own two feet, to give him the taste of how it feels to have earned that self-respect.

Though I can understand his words and actions, I cannot condone them, nor do I think they can be justified. I have been watching this show with people my age, and my mother as well. Whenever I have discussed this with her, we both have always been in agreement with what Sumo has said in retaliation to Shravans Insults. We truely believe in the fact that everyone deserves resppect (Man and Woman) and that the society now is such that it is mostly the women who faces attacks on her integraty and respect.

This post does not want to bash any character and I hope I have been clear with that. I am not saying that Shravans actions do not have a cause, but that Sumo is not wrong.

Mihika.

Originally posted by: Miracle_sweet

In Accordance with Amulya, I also must say that I have been keeping up with your posts and time and again I am having issues with your opinion about Sumo.

I respect the love you have for Shravan's Character, but alongside his good qualities (which he has plenty of, there is a lot of good in him) there are also negative sides, which is normal, no person is perfect, not Sumo, not Shravan.

Supporting Shravan is not wrong, but ignoring when he is wrong and putting all the blame on one party is wrong. It takes two to tango.

As Amulya pointed out very aptly. It seems that a lot of people forget the trauma and the problems Sumo has had to face in her life since a very young age. She lost both her parents, she came to live with her Nanu and was received with mixed emotions.
She has the constant feeling that she had to repay a debt. Such a big burden to grow up with. And she got unconditional love from her Nanu who taught her to be self reliant and independent, to never lose her self-respect.

No doubt that Shravan has lost a lot in life too, and that he has gone through so much. But tht does not, in any way justify his actions and words against Sumo. They may explain it, and for that we have sympathy, but I, for being a self-respecting independent feminist woman, cannot condone such behaviours.

I ask you? Would you be able to live with a man who reduces your identity to nothing more than his wife, someone who should be running around at his every wish?
Someone who constantly insults you, not only privately, but in front of the whole family, not only that, he went as far as insulting her on media, and insulting PCT, which for her is one of the most sentimental things in life (for her mother with her name)

A relationship, in my eyes, can only survive if there is trust on both ends and respect. Shravan neither trusts Sumo, nor respects her, but he demands that she trust and respect him.
As a woman, I want you to think about how you would feel if someone said about you what shravan aid to Aditya. I think it is an awful thing to say about any person (let alone male or female)

Also, despite all of this, sumo knows how to trigger shravan, she deliberately played on his ego to get him to stand up on his own two feet, to give him the taste of how it feels to have earned that self-respect.

Though I can understand his words and actions, I cannot condone them, nor do I think they can be justified. I have been watching this show with people my age, and my mother as well. Whenever I have discussed this with her, we both have always been in agreement with what Sumo has said in retaliation to Shravans Insults. We truely believe in the fact that everyone deserves resppect (Man and Woman) and that the society now is such that it is mostly the women who faces attacks on her integraty and respect.

This post does not want to bash any character and I hope I have been clear with that. I am not saying that Shravans actions do not have a cause, but that Sumo is not wrong.

Mihika.

Bang on post! I am also amazed at one-sided view of shravan fans. I've responded on similar lines in many posts. I am glad there are others who feel Shrava'ns character is ruthless and downright disgusting and no woman would want to be with him... yes.. he should run away from civil society cause he refuses to see the truth, goodness in people and he is stuck in teenage years.. thanks to papa dearest! Sad.. his redemption and realization will be limited to barely 2 episodes 😡 I wanted him to hurt for sumo and want sumo and long for sumo after he finds out the truth.. just like sumo has!

Sumo is no angel but despite all she has suffered in life, she tries to be positive, still cares for shravan.. but how much a strong, caring, independent girl take from a guy?

Originally posted by: --Amulya--

Hey Sneha, I've been reading all your posts from past few days and I know that you're Shravan's fan. I respect your favouritism but... but

I want to ask you a few personal questions and plzz answer only if you don't mind answering them...

Can you really handle a guy like Shravan if you're in Suman's place who's literally faced much more difficulties in her life!! She dealed with problems from a very young age of 8 while he isn't able to deal with them when problems in his life started around 16 and even now he isn't able to deal with his life when 26.

Can you be happy with a person who constantly self-doubts and doubts you too!!

Can you handle such a partner who gets manipulated by his family against you!!

If you can handle such a person do you term yourself as his saviour!!

I really don't think many girls in real world are able to or will be able to handle such persons and are facing hardships by their male partners in daily lives. It isn't that those males are bad in nature and we can try and find valid reasons for their worst behaviour just like how we are doing in Shravan's case.

I really want to know your opinions as a girl and not as a Shravan/Namik's fan.

Beautiful questions! Its great to admire a successful good looking guy but if words and actions are opposite of his looks...if he refuses to understand truth and blames girls as a cause of all evil just cause something happened in the past... yes either you walk away or bang the truth into his head.. hard! No girl in real life would put up with his fellow unless she is madly in love with him since childhood!

Originally posted by: sneha_17

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I'm an on/off watched of this show.. I don't like it at all. I was very interested in the beginning and was always hoping that it would get better but nope!
I think sumo has a lot of issues- the way she refuses monetary help, thinks that people are belittling her when they offer it... And she lashes out at them at that time. At the same time I thought she made a very respectful suggestion to Shravan asking him to instead have a lavish reception party. With all due respect, this is exactly what we are going to do in my cousin brothers marriage. So I do not see anything wrong with her suggestion. Please know, sumo irritates me greatly - Aditya was an asshole and rapist and should be in jail- however sumo did not know this when she first agreed for marriage with him. Marriage is not a game. You promise to love someone and bet at their side always. She should never have said yes. And once she did, she should have put all her efforts in to trying to make it work. Instead she does neither. She acts like she's taking on some huge burden and thinks that she is martyrying herself. I poor The other person would have been martyred too. So it was quite disgusting to me - that whole track used to piss me off. So now that we have established that sumo has faults like a normal human being let us move on to Shravan.
The thing is Shravan is an abusive person. Just because you have suffered from abuse it does NOT give you the right to abuse other people. I can understand his initial anger at sumos acceptance of pct. but any rational person would think wait - is this really true- let me ask my BEST FRIEND if she really did take it. That's what someone would do once their anger passes. This mans anger just keeps growing and growing- imagining imaginary slights that sumo has done against him. The vitriol he spouts against her in that dance party! I was shocked! What must sumo have felt being his best friend. But he still cares about her- we see that in small moments.. After that comes the bachelor party- I don't give a shit how much you hate someone- you d not say that shit about anyone, male or female. It was dirty, disgusting and vile. Then the whole Shravan and sumo love each other crap and that lets get them married wooo! I really hate the manner in which these people treat weddings. Gurudakshina hai. There are people who are rude and then those who continuously hit us below the belt knowing where it will hurt the most. This is Shravan. Sumo is not blameless- but if you cannot take it then DONT DISH IT.
Please know I don't think Shravan is at heart a bad person! He has a lot of issues and his life has been really shitty. But that does not give you the right to be a bad person.
This man needs help. I know we don't have therapist culture in India but Shravan really needs to go to a mental health doctor and needs to work these issues out. Otherwise he is just not healthy enough to be in a relationship WITH ANYONE.