Wow, you sound like a narrow-minded MCP...Do this and that for men...Are you a 'man'? Because I can't even consider the possibility of you being a girl and saying all that shit that you have uttered. That's not possible...
Excuse me? Are you trying telling me that I should apologize for thinking that a woman is not a man's possession to own? Or over the fact that woman has rights over their body more than their supposed 'future' husbands do? I didn't get that...
First thing first, lets's stop thinking of him as the mahan atma who only tried to help her. He has been manipulating his way around since the day one. And what you said? He seeing her standing there alone and dancing with her, doesn't prove a thing. I don't know about you, but to me dancing with a girl doesn't prove that a man is a decent human being...
And He helped her with her business, brought her an expensive dress? Are you serious? Is this the justification you are giving to prove his 'pure love'? You don't BUY someone's love. So Aditya buying her a dress and Shravan's not buying her a dress doesn't prove which ones of these idiotic men love her. I don't think you have been watching the show, or know Suman or even any girl for the matter if you think buying an expensive dress is all that it takes to prove someone's love.
Any girl with self-respect would hate the fact that the man is trying to buy her love or attention by giving her expensive gifts. That's insulting. And I don't think you have any idea about girls because if you did, then you would have known that the fact that he brought her the dress by lying to her was a mistake. And btw, you got the facts wrong here, Suman paid for her dress, and she didn't get to know that he had made it appear the it cost less than she thought and paid for. Nahi toh he and you would have known how much a she would have felt insulted. A man buying the girl a dress or anything doesn't prove his love.
And helping her in business? Did you watch the episode? He didn't help her, he manipulated the whole situation. And sorry to say, but manipulation isn't 'love' either.
I am ignoring all that you have said about Shravan because we aren't talking about him here. What he feels for her and what not, is a discussion for the other time...
Excuse me? Are you trying to say that a man with the supposed 'good ethics' and adult, with a functioning brain, was subject by Shravan's evilness and forced on the gun point by him to misbehave with Suman and in the end physically and sexually assault her? Wow! Do you know that after the age of 18 every person is responsible for the crime he/she commits and there are no justifications for whatever that crime is...So anything Shravan said and had done can't be used as a justification for the way Aditya behaved and the assault on Suman...
And anyway, if their relationship and Suman was so important to him, he would have asked her, at least, if what Shravan told was true? And why did the good guy with good ethics believed on an evil like Shravan? Shouldn't Aditya have thought to give Suman who he claims to love a chance to explain herself if he didn't have any trust on her, to begin with? But the suppossed good guy didn't do any such thing, he just believed in whatever was said and punished her...Wow!
I don't know about Shravan, but to a 'man' of this age and time insignificant things like shouldn't matter. I am sorry to say but you seem to have stone age ideas if you keep insisting that women are men's possession and how a woman should not only stay virgin but also not be in any kind of relationship before marriage and if she does, she is wrong and has done a crime aginst her future husband. That's even beyond what I would define as narrow-minded...
And about Aditya, a man who had his own share of fun before he met Suman, wanted her to be his since the day she was born? Wow, why such double standers? Almost all the women do end up married to men who already had countless relationships with countless woman, shouldn't the women feel the same about those men who lost their 'respect'? Why the women get the used goods even though they themselves have preserved their virginity for their future husbands? Why do they have to accept the man they are getting married to with all their flaws and lack of virginity? They are suppossed to not make an issue about it then why do men have all the right to make it an issue?
Do NOT for a second think that a man who think of virginity of a woman as a condition to respect her, love her and marry her is right in his stand. That's not love. If that would have been love, then not any man would have married and loved a woman who had a relationship before, is a divorcee or a widow. Do you even comprehend how wrong and conditional you are making a man's love sound? I am sorry to say, but I have seen men love their wives despite not being the first main in their wives' life. Love is not conditional nor it has any limitation...
I am disgusted by the fact that Aditya thought of less of Suman because she had a relationship before. If she did, so, what? She is +26, was she supposed to live as she chanted 'kab mera Aditya aaye ga? since the day she was born? Is that would that have been right? She owned him NOTHING...No girl owns any man anything...
Okay...So Aditya is your hero? The one who didn't trust the girl he 'loves' and had forced himself her, is that what a hero does? And please, if you think I had said all of that because I think of Shravan as a hero, then you are wrong about that too. Shravan needs to wake up and change himself into a better man, but Aditya has to no redemption quality if he too like you thinks he can get away with putting all the blame on Shravan and stays his narrow-minded disgusting self...
P.s...I agree, not every girl has a relationship before marriage, but that has nothing to do with respecting and not respecting their future husbands. You do realize that the girls aren't married to their future husbands as soon as they are born, right? Because the way you said it, looks like you expect the girls to consider themselves married to their future husbands with their first breath, not matter if one day they do get married or not...
And a girl's respect for marriage and her husband doesn't depend on her virginity. She is a PERSON, not a damn thing which is made only for the husband who may or may not even respect her, let alone love her. Her maintaining her virginity or not, it's her damn business, not anyone else. Her virginity is hers to give, whoever she wants to. If she wants to wait and give it to her future husband or someone she loves, it hers to do with it whatever she wants to. No one has any say in this matter. NOT even their future 'husbands' whom they are not even married to. Losing her virginity doesn't mean she is losing her 'respect', her dignity or her character...
Excuse me? What her virginity has anything to do with being a good wife or having a good husband or having a good married life? I mean, are you serious? Do you want to say the girls who have given their virginity to their husbands aren't beaten and subjected to domestic violence? Are you saying girls are treated with respect just because they gave their virginity to their husbands? Do you even live in the real world? Do you not see the kind of domestic abuse women suffer in our society? And that happens despite the fact that they had 'maintained their virginity' and had been loyal to their husbands for years and years, before and after marriage. And what they get in return? Nothing.
The reality is that a girl being virgin or not doesn't mean a thing. There is no surety that if she is 'maintaining her virginity', she is going to have a good husband or a good married life. A mature and open-minded man is all it takes to have both. If he is any good, and a man in a true sense, his wife's lack of virginity isn't going to stop him from giving her the love and the respect she deserves. That is the man whom I actually call a 'man' because the virginity of her wife or not being the first man in her doesn't make him insecure. He just works on being the 'man' of her life and that's what proves his mardangi...
Assaulting a girl, making her feel less, shaming her isn't what a real man would have done and Aditya has done all of it. And don't not even for a second delude yourself that Shravan has forced her into doing anything he has done...There are no justification, and no matter how much you and he himself try to hide his crime behind Shravan's idiocy, THAT is NOT going to work...
Originally posted by: saras_7
If Husband&Wife's relationship is PURE & UNDERSTANDING & WIFE IS GOOD-NATURED, WIFE WILL GO TO ANY EXTENT to satisfy HUSBAND'S NEEDS & WANTS. THERE ARE SOME GIRLS WHO RESPECT THIER HUSBANDS & MARRIAGE MORE THAN ANYTHING ELSE.
Anupamaa
