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Princessashvik, NithHmmm..read your replies...I am not all defending Shravan...I am just providing a nuanced view on this..Let me try to explain myself better when I said that Shravan should not apologise for his conduct...Imagine a scenario...where Adi molests Sumo and then he is say kicked out...let me here play the devil's advocate (no I don't mean Adi's advocate đ!!)what is Shravan supposed to feel? Remorse that he spoke in that fashion to Adi that got him in that state? or Relief that Sumo is out of harm's way? or A bit of anger that Sumo let herself be subjected to all this? (by this I don't mean molestation...but the agony of being involved with a man she did not clearly love) For me its is relief and anger but not remorse...Think about this deeply...the remorse can only be for his misogyny that perhaps equates his thinking to men like Adi..at some level. Which is why I maintain as women we need to examine our positions at every step so that we are not falling for the positions of misogyny ourselves even as we talk of our self-respect.My view is that CVs have not completely thought thru when they decided to turn Shravan into a misogynist. Its a tuf role to give your male protagonist. I am not sure how well they will handle this issue from here on.What Shravan said and the reason he said this is at the core of the issue. What was his intention behind saying this... Lets just say his main intention was to get a rise out of Adi, because he is constantly troubling him on the issue of his friendship with Sumo. So he says it okay...there u go...deal with this...now this is the part I am not comfortable with becos ..it somewhere means that this is an aspect that men like Shravan, Aditya consider a matter to get hassled over...That was the main reason for my discomfort. At that moment it equated Shravan and Aditya. If Shravan had said this as a man not having any misogynistic traits...I would have condoned it as a ploy to irritate the highly irritating Aditya but unfortunately that is not true..so Shravan has to get his ideas about women in order soon...So how they will treat this issue now on will determine how Shravan's characterisation shapes up.I don't know if I explained my stance better. Its just that I don't consider it a big issue that the marriage will break on this ground. It is better it breaks on this ground becos men like Aditya have to accept that that a past relationship is no reason to force a woman to comply. If the past makes you insecure, first learn to deal with it...Having said that, Shravan had no business lying about that matter not becos it has anything to do with that so called "female modesty" but simply becos it was a lie and Sumo was not part of that convo. So essentially what he indulged in is trash talk which he has to apologise for.
Relief and anger is what I too think he would feel. Not remorse. Because sexual assault and molestation cannot be justified. Whatever the case, whatever Shravan said, or he did not say does not matter, Sumo should not bear the brunt of it. Why should she suffer?
Also, I feel he should apologise because he lied like you said. I still feel it was demeaning to the relationship they share, their bond.
I think I am beginning to understand where you are coming from.
You don't like the fact that he said this to rile up Aditya esp because he himself hates women and that he knows this is a sensitive issue (premarital sex) and the girl is looked down upon? Basically that women are looked down upon when premarital sex comes into the picture but men are not? Please correct me if I am wrong, I can be very slow at timesđłđ
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