Aap sirf meri maa hai- Where Nirmala failed as a mother totally.

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Posted: 9 years ago
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OK. Back to the present in Shraman land after the spoilers.😆
That part where Nirmala gets upset and Aditya tries to pacify her.

It was typical and expected of Aditya to act possessive about his mother...It feels like part of the race he has with Shravan at a subconscious level...It started with 'Why is he so special she knows how much sugar he takes'...Though I wouldn't go so far to call him black or even grey...It feels like he prefers to keep things rosy.

Not for a second did he wonder why Nirmala left Shravan ...why Shravan didn't have a mother! Instead, he tries to deny Shravan could be important to her...and brushes him off as the son who doesn't care for his mother...to the extent he thinks Shravan would never be able to love or respect anyone at all...a feeling of one-upmanship he wants to feed here.

I felt Aditya was acting childish here. And though I loved Nirmala's reaction about Shravan which had alarmed her enough to call Ramnath ...she knew Shravan well and didn't want him to get hurt at all..

But what about how she treated Aditya here? I found that so very immature! She was just agreeing to everything he said...He said, 'Aap sirf meri maa hai' and she agreed...though she should ideally have sat down and talked this out with him...especially when she knew he was so mistaken that she was not a mother to Shravan!

I seriously wonder what made Ahuja hand over his empire to her! 😆

But I must say she did justice to Shravan in a small way...when she admitted this was her fault...that she had been responsible for who Shravan had become now.
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Good post... res.
Will reply after watching the epi...
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Posted: 9 years ago
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True...
Nirmala instead.of defending shravan just agreed to aditya.. Even aditya very well knows how much hurt shravan was when.he talked about his mom... Also aditya said the.entire family hates her.. He havent seen anything to make that statement.. He has only.seen.shravan's hatred...
I want to.see how she os gonna react after knowing the karnama her dear foster son did..
I really dont want aditya to be shown as a mahaan at the end.. He should be shown as a grey charcter to.make him look human.. Whayever he did he did on the heat of rhe.moment...
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Posted: 9 years ago
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I guess answer to your question is in your post itself... Mr.Ahuja must have taken a promise or must have handed over all the responsibilities of his children even when he was alive... later on when he died then its Adi's responsibility but until he attains a certain age it must be his guardian's... I don't think now Niru is handling the business when Adi must be able to...

A child is usually possessive of his mother... we tend to get jealous even when we feel that our mom is bit partial with our sibling... I think its too common and here Shravan is Niru's real son to whom she gave birth... so Adi felt a bit insecure and Niru on being sure that she could never get back to Shravan, she must have thought why to hurt this son who's with her now...
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Posted: 9 years ago
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I don't like the fact that she so easily gave up on him. Even 10 years back, she left him in the care of a man who had zero respect for women, who treated her that badly and still believed that he would care for their son. Didn't she know that money is not everything? That value equally matters? So what if Ramnath had started earning? She did not decide with Ramnath about what they would tell their son about the separation.. she just...left.

And did she really think that Shravan would not miss her?
She is strong enough to not tolerate domestic abuse. But silent spectator of what her son is wreaking. Even when he said those things, was that a surprise to her? She expected him to forget everything despite of living with a father like Ramnath?

WHY IS SHE SO DISMISSIVE ABOUT SHRAVAN?????
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Posted: 9 years ago
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He possessive about Nirmala or jealous of Shravan about both ladies he loves..

about Nirmala she may not want to hurt him . thats why she hide her truth about her family

Anyways I'm happy being shown him negative and ya don't want him to be mahan still now this may one show where no one mahan that I really liked about..

Edited by DivyaDivI10 - 9 years ago
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Hey chicksoup(still loving the name 😆 )

Nirmala was never a saint. She seems to be a forceful personality. If it was any other mother she would have taken a visitor's visa and atleast tried to meet her only son in London. Or see him from afar. Any woman who makes peace with not being able to see her son is a failure. She is just not enterprising enough to see all the possibilities. She is the true ablaa naari according to me. What I feel for her is only pity. She failed long before the first episode of this show. Professional achievements not withstanding.

So may be she wants to make up for she perceives has been lost. By being a 'good' mother to Aditya. What it ends up becoming is unnatural and saccharine sweet. Menopause makes women do strange things I guess. You know Aditya is the only one who can 'take care' of her in budhaapa.

Great post!

Warm regards...
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Posted: 9 years ago
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When she has been a worthy mother?
Just tell me once 😆 To Shravan or Aditya...I mean honestly at this moment I can say despite all his short-comings Ramnath is still a better parent. The way he has been concerned about Shravan since Shra started behaving weird, it tells how much he cares for his son. On the other hand Nirmala failed both Adi as well as Shravan. She failed to give a good upbringing to Adi. And now she knows that Shravan is broken and acting strange but still did she ever care about trying to know what bothers her son. She is such an escapist. EVERYTIME! She has just tried to escape. The same happened when Adi bad-mouthed Shravan and told that she was only his mom. She should have tried to reason him and told the truth but no she gives a damn. She did not even ask Adi why he is in such a hurry to marry Sumo. That woman is literally messed up...she almost failed everyone in life be it her sons, Sumo, nanu or somehow even her late boss by bringing his son up like this.
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Love this post.
So far I have no respect for Nirmala as a mother.
But I am waiting to watch, what made her to take this ultimate step..
Even her fights with her husband is not a genuine reason to leave her son behind.
I remember the scene, when Shravan was ill, Ramnath looked after him, tried to call her, but when she came back, she was not concerned about Shravan, but was fighting with Ramnath..
If her reason is also self-respect, then, I'm going to hate this lady to the core...
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Originally posted by: potterginny

I don't like the fact that she so easily gave up on him. Even 10 years back, she left him in the care of a man who had zero respect for women, who treated her that badly and still believed that he would care for their son. Didn't she know that money is not everything? That value equally matters? So what if Ramnath had started earning? She did not decide with Ramnath about what they would tell their son about the separation.. she just...left.

And did she really think that Shravan would not miss her?
She is strong enough to not tolerate domestic abuse. But silent spectator of what her son is wreaking. Even when he said those things, was that a surprise to her? She expected him to forget everything despite of living with a father like Ramnath?

WHY IS SHE SO DISMISSIVE ABOUT SHRAVAN?????


Even after getting so much moral lesson, if Aditya is behaving like this, then I must say Ramnath's upbringing is better than Nirmala's

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