I am learning!

Originally posted by: Mad_Shubhi

Hey Rio,

To some extent I can agree with you. Still I would say that every decision and the thought behind the same can be changed according to situations.

Again, right and wrong are related terms, meaning of which keeps changing with the changing times.

Going with the flow is not a bad idea sometimes. But when one decides to do so, he/she is relying on someone else's decision. And the fact is that person making decision for us is not going to be there with us forever. So in case, that decision goes wrong in future, we have to face it on our own.

Aur ho sakta hai ki galat insaan par bharosa karne ka ya apna decision khud na lene ka dukh tab jyada hoga. In fact it happens.

So if one has to go with the flow and rely upon someone else's decision, its really necessary that the another person who is making all decisions, is strong and not a spineless one. If that person can assure that whatever happens in future I will be there to sort out the things, then one can really blindly follow the path shown by that person.

But the fact is, everyone is not that lucky to have such person in life. Yaha Arjun to bahut mil jate hai, lekin Shrikrishna sabko nahi milte.

Okay, its not necessary that the person, making decision for herself/himself would be right always. But then he/she will not feel that much regretted even if the decision goes wrong.

Just like Geet of JWM says, Mujhe pata hoga, ke jo kuchh bhi mere saath ho raha hai wo mere apne wajah se hai. Mein kisiko blame nahi karungi ki, ji aapki wajah se mein iss halat mein hu.

Anyway, this is my POV. I hope whatever I have written here, relates to the point that you wanted to convey in your post.

TC and Gn

Originally posted by: chicksoup

Two words you mentioned in your post- Rigid and Compromise.

And then you spoke about relationship.

I am glad you got this gyaan..it is not everyone who get sit.

I entered a relationship too, promising myself I'd never compromise...But I learned to..not because I had to, but because I realised that was the better option...and quite easily things started falling into place for me. 😳

Compromising is not about being a doormat..You can compromise, stand your ground and even teach the other person to reach your level of maturity. 👍🏼

Originally posted by: Mad_Shubhi

I absolutely agree with u Shubi.. and yes of course the satisfaction and responsibility of taking ur own decision in sticky situations saves u from.the burden of others mistakes but also sometimes have a toll on relationships one values so much..is all I am saying! And that's where ur good judgment of letting go or hold on should come in!... it's easier said than done but here ones learnings/experiences might help and even if the decision of that other person goes wrong... one has to realise the decision to trust that other was ultimately theirs! Hope it conveys my thoughts!