Why does a son who loves his father wanted to stay far away from him.

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Posted: 9 years ago
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I see everyone talking about Rambabu loving Shravan a lot. But I want to see what exactly did he do to Shravan that stood out? In fact Shravan almost immediately went to London and never came to see his much beloved father for 10 long years. WHY??????????

I do not remember seeing any special scenes. It was more like Shravan put all his eggs in his Father's bucket for the simple reason that Sumo and Nirmala left him but Ramnath decided to stay with him.

So if we dissect it, Shravan wants longevity in his relationships than quality? Seems to be what he was looking for in his wife too. Someone who would be with him till eternity and never leave him. But would he be able to do the same? Cause in the past he did run away at the first sign of trouble. He did not for a minute try to talk to his mom. What really stopped Shravan from contacting Nirmala and Sumo and giving them a piece of his mind at any point in time? Exact same question that he asked Sumo.

I love Shraman... but cant wonder how there is going to be the old Sumo coming back. This Sumo is kind of getting to the Jagath matha zone... I know, I know... not so much of a JM but still... 😆
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Shravan present in angry mode!! Once his anger comes down and he will see why sumo doing all this!!
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hahahaha i agree completely! seems like we are finding a lot of logical loopholes here. he could have contacted his mother too - it took kamini 2 mins to find her, why couldnt he. and who forgets his mom after his dad calls her characterless. yes u can be mad, angry but not trying to see what happened to her - simply illogical.
i personally would have run in the opposite direction if i was sumo but alas this is a show and that too on indian television. lets see what happens, i didnt watch the epi just read the written update and do not have an inclination to watch it either
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Posted: 9 years ago
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You are on the roll today 😃 , if I sit and disect thr will be so many things I can go on , my exact thoughts chachi and vandy found kamini in sec while our Oxford graduate didn't in 10 yrs try finding her or to see the reasons why her mom betrayed him ? I have said previously that shrawan is a flawed character and I was ripped for it , I know sumo has her share of problems but she was never loved her parents died when she was very young and the rest of her family are mostly users , the only person who truly love her is Nanu so she has this urge or part of her character that she want to fix problems of ppl she love bec she doesn't want to lose or see them suffer , she has handful of those ppl not even handful who love or care for her . She is been constantly blamed for shrawans sadness but ppl are not seeing her logic behind it . I just think in fact I have seen many times that mostly soap viewers are females and they intend to get biased if hero is a hunk .it has happened in many occasions that I tweet something regarding an episode praising both actors and it steers in one direction which is the male and I just think is it only one man show ? Sorry for the long rant 😕
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Posted: 9 years ago
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I think there are many ifs n buts in the show. The ones you mentioned and also that why didnt Sumo try calling Shravan for 10 years if she wanted to apologise? Things like why a mother made her son beleive that she cheated on her father. And honestly if we will try to decode these ifs n buts the credibility of most of the charachters will come crashing down...including both ShraMan. We can just say this is a flaw of the script.
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Yeah...he was stalking sumo for years but he didn't have searched his mom in these years ...they all were busy in their own world for 10 years saying moved on but they are still the same and when they have confrontation with past they are trying to sought out everything what happened in past but the difference of 10 yrs matters a lot and it will take time to sought out MUs
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Most of all... when his dad showed Nirmala with ahija to Shravan. What made Shravan not confront her and shoot and scream at her?
She is his mother. He can be an introvert with everyone but... with his own mom? Beats me... I find it a bit abnormal.

My mom once told me that we are emotionally attached to people because of what they contribute to us and how they aid our development be it emotional social or monitary. In essence this is what we miss when they leave us.

So it beats me to think that Shravan could stay away from his dad for 10yrs and not once visit india in all this time and then call him his life... also his reason for the distance is stated to be Sumo... Does he love Sumo more than his dad?

But what the heck... this is what i love about Indian serial and the masala that always goes with it.
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Poppins.. your first question as to why Shravan who loves his father wanted to stay far away from him... is by far the most valid one. But, if you reflect a little ... the answer is embedded in your question. One which became more prominent in yesterday's episode.
And whether Shra looks for quality or longevity in a relationship is like asking someone do you like my face or my mouth, or my ears and so on. Ramnath and he did not live together for ten long years. Agreed. But, does that make him a lesser father or Shra as a lesser son? How do we know in the past ten years how many trips did the father made to visit this son of his? How many times they have chatted over phone? How many times they have merely discussed irrelevant nothings just to hear each other's voice? Because it was a long distance relationship does that reduce Ramnath's love for his son? If so, then what about Niru?
As to why Shravan did not make the efforts to try to find his mother when Vandy and Chachi in a single day were able to do so, the answer lies not in the effort but in the fact, what had transpired between them. Didnt Shravan argue with his father that his mother couldnt have left them? He said even ten years ago that his father and mother must have argued and hence she had left. And when his father made him see his mother comforted by her boss and superadded with his own narrative that she has left with someone. What do you think a son who though was mature for his age and yet a child who was vulnerable would have done in that situation? Lets suppose his mother really had found love in another relationship, would he have forced his mother to come back for him? I guess no. Shravan's love for his mother was not selfish. He let her go because he believed she wanted to go. But, that does not mean he cant have questions with regard to her. He did make concessions for her, all his questions revolve around the fact why did she not contact him for these many years. Marriages do break which he as a child did understand but do mother-child relationship also fail...?
As to your observation, he runs at the first sign of trouble... the jury is out😉
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Originally posted by: poppinss


I see everyone talking about Rambabu loving Shravan a lot. But I want to see what exactly did he do to Shravan that stood out? In fact Shravan almost immediately went to London and never came to see his much beloved father for 10 long years. WHY??????????

I do not remember seeing any special scenes. It was more like Shravan put all his eggs in his Father's bucket for the simple reason that Sumo and Nirmala left him but Ramnath decided to stay with him.

So if we dissect it, Shravan wants longevity in his relationships than quality? Seems to be what he was looking for in his wife too. Someone who would be with him till eternity and never leave him. But would he be able to do the same? Cause in the past he did run away at the first sign of trouble. He did not for a minute try to talk to his mom. What really stopped Shravan from contacting Nirmala and Sumo and giving them a piece of his mind at any point in time? Exact same question that he asked Sumo.

I love Shraman... but cant wonder how there is going to be the old Sumo coming back. This Sumo is kind of getting to the Jagath matha zone... I know, I know... not so much of a JM but still... 😆


That's how Shravan is
He loves his dad and is so loyal to him because Ramnnath was the only one that stayed
Nirmala left..and Sumo behaved atrociously when he had been dealt one blow of his mother leaving already..In all this..in his mind..Ramnnath was the only constant
Something that means a lot to him


As for why did he not try to contact Nirmala or Sumo and give them a piece of his mind..because in his mind they were at fault..left him..so they should be the ones seeking him out..apologising for their mistake..which neither did for 10 years..so his anger and hurt festered making him bitter

Sumo by trying to talk it out with him despite his harsh words is ensuring she does not repeat the same mistake..she will try to clarify her stance...instead of waiting for things to clear out on own
Of course if he continues ignoring her or demeaning her, she would in all likelihood stop..but not without trying first this time around


Coming to commitment and longevity from Shravan..i won't say he ran at the first sight of trouble 10 yrs ago..it was more of the combined effect of his mum leaving and Sumo treating him badly that made him leave. Otherwise so far he was taking Sumo's discriminatory behaviour and his parents fight as well as a kid can.

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Posted: 9 years ago
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Originally posted by: indranigupta

Poppins.. your first question as to why Shravan who loves his father wanted to stay far away from him... is by far the most valid one. But, if you reflect a little ... the answer is embedded in your question. One which became more prominent in yesterday's episode.

And whether Shra looks for quality or longevity in a relationship is like asking someone do you like my face or my mouth, or my ears and so on. Ramnath and he did not live together for ten long years. Agreed. But, does that make him a lesser father or Shra as a lesser son? How do we know in the past ten years how many trips did the father made to visit this son of his? How many times they have chatted over phone? How many times they have merely discussed irrelevant nothings just to hear each other's voice? Because it was a long distance relationship does that reduce Ramnath's love for his son? If so, then what about Niru?
As to why Shravan did not make the efforts to try to find his mother when Vandy and Chachi in a single day were able to do so, the answer lies not in the effort but in the fact, what had transpired between them. Didnt Shravan argue with his father that his mother couldnt have left them? He said even ten years ago that his father and mother must have argued and hence she had left. And when his father made him see his mother comforted by her boss and superadded with his own narrative that she has left with someone. What do you think a son who though was mature for his age and yet a child who was vulnerable would have done in that situation? Lets suppose his mother really had found love in another relationship, would he have forced his mother to come back for him? I guess no. Shravan's love for his mother was not selfish. He let her go because he believed she wanted to go. But, that does not mean he cant have questions with regard to her. He did make concessions for her, all his questions revolve around the fact why did she not contact him for these many years. Marriages do break which he as a child did understand but do mother-child relationship also fail...?
As to your observation, he runs at the first sign of trouble... the jury is out😉

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You always stump me out with your view points!!
Couldn't agree more!

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