Why does a son who loves his father wanted to stay far away from him. - Page 2

Originally posted by: poppinss

I see everyone talking about Rambabu loving Shravan a lot. But I want to see what exactly did he do to Shravan that stood out? In fact Shravan almost immediately went to London and never came to see his much beloved father for 10 long years. WHY??????????

I do not remember seeing any special scenes. It was more like Shravan put all his eggs in his Father's bucket for the simple reason that Sumo and Nirmala left him but Ramnath decided to stay with him.

So if we dissect it, Shravan wants longevity in his relationships than quality? Seems to be what he was looking for in his wife too. Someone who would be with him till eternity and never leave him. But would he be able to do the same? Cause in the past he did run away at the first sign of trouble. He did not for a minute try to talk to his mom. What really stopped Shravan from contacting Nirmala and Sumo and giving them a piece of his mind at any point in time? Exact same question that he asked Sumo.

@poppinss...valid questions and natural ones

@bold...the point of choosing longevity over quality...is the comparison really as simple as that? Is the question about choice? I bet lot of people want a relationship that triumphs the test of time and are obviously looking for meaningfulness in the bond but do they purposely say I want one over the other? Frankly I don't these are mutually exclusive elements. Someone can easily say...i had a great relationship but it did not last...ouch...or I had a long relationship but it was a lousy one...ouch again

@underlined However, is there only one way in which we can see this? Run he did...as a 16 year old...with the faculties and emotions invested in a 16 year old. Again, all 16 year olds wont react in the same way...some of them may indeed do what u suggest above..but that does not take away from the fact that situations will bring out different reactions in people. Sometimes it's difficult to build onus of action in a relationship...who should do what and first? that often becomes the cause of distance in a relationship

Will Shravan be able to stay? well that is to be tested...so the jury is still out on that

I love Shraman... but cant wonder how there is going to be the old Sumo coming back. This Sumo is kind of getting to the Jagath matha zone... I know, I know... not so much of a JM but still... 😆

Originally posted by: poppinss

Most of all... when his dad showed Nirmala with ahija to Shravan. What made Shravan not confront her and shoot and scream at her?

She is his mother. He can be an introvert with everyone but... with his own mom? Beats me... I find it a bit abnormal.

It's actually quite common for kids to be introvert with everyone including their mother especially if parents fight a lot.

The only person he was open with was Sumo ..which is why he ran to her to share his problems..she was his person..not his mum nor his dad

My mom once told me that we are emotionally attached to people because of what they contribute to us and how they aid our development be it emotional social or monitary. In essence this is what we miss when they leave us.

So it beats me to think that Shravan could stay away from his dad for 10yrs and not once visit india in all this time and then call him his life... also his reason for the distance is stated to be Sumo... Does he love Sumo more than his dad?

IMO, Shravan could stay away for 10 years coz he never visited. If he would visit in between, it would have been harder for him to leave again and again

As for his love for Sumo being greater than that for dad..Well I think at that point his hate for Sumo and hurt she caused was greater than anything else. He was secure in his knowledge that his dad is well and good, so he was saving himself pain by being away from Sumo

But what the heck... this is what i love about Indian serial and the masala that always goes with it.

Originally posted by: indranigupta

Poppins.. your first question as to why Shravan who loves his father wanted to stay far away from him... is by far the most valid one. But, if you reflect a little ... the answer is embedded in your question. One which became more prominent in yesterday's episode.

And whether Shra looks for quality or longevity in a relationship is like asking someone do you like my face or my mouth, or my ears and so on. Ramnath and he did not live together for ten long years. Agreed. But, does that make him a lesser father or Shra as a lesser son? How do we know in the past ten years how many trips did the father made to visit this son of his? How many times they have chatted over phone? How many times they have merely discussed irrelevant nothings just to hear each other's voice? Because it was a long distance relationship does that reduce Ramnath's love for his son? If so, then what about Niru?

As to why Shravan did not make the efforts to try to find his mother when Vandy and Chachi in a single day were able to do so, the answer lies not in the effort but in the fact, what had transpired between them. Didnt Shravan argue with his father that his mother couldnt have left them? He said even ten years ago that his father and mother must have argued and hence she had left. And when his father made him see his mother comforted by her boss and superadded with his own narrative that she has left with someone. What do you think a son who though was mature for his age and yet a child who was vulnerable would have done in that situation? Lets suppose his mother really had found love in another relationship, would he have forced his mother to come back for him? I guess no. Shravan's love for his mother was not selfish. He let her go because he believed she wanted to go. But, that does not mean he cant have questions with regard to her. He did make concessions for her, all his questions revolve around the fact why did she not contact him for these many years. Marriages do break which he as a child did understand but do mother-child relationship also fail...?

As to your observation, he runs at the first sign of trouble... the jury is out😉

Originally posted by: indranigupta

Poppins.. your first question as to why Shravan who loves his father wanted to stay far away from him... is by far the most valid one. But, if you reflect a little ... the answer is embedded in your question. One which became more prominent in yesterday's episode.

And whether Shra looks for quality or longevity in a relationship is like asking someone do you like my face or my mouth, or my ears and so on. Ramnath and he did not live together for ten long years. Agreed. But, does that make him a lesser father or Shra as a lesser son? How do we know in the past ten years how many trips did the father made to visit this son of his? How many times they have chatted over phone? How many times they have merely discussed irrelevant nothings just to hear each other's voice? Because it was a long distance relationship does that reduce Ramnath's love for his son? If so, then what about Niru?

As to why Shravan did not make the efforts to try to find his mother when Vandy and Chachi in a single day were able to do so, the answer lies not in the effort but in the fact, what had transpired between them. Didnt Shravan argue with his father that his mother couldnt have left them? He said even ten years ago that his father and mother must have argued and hence she had left. And when his father made him see his mother comforted by her boss and superadded with his own narrative that she has left with someone. What do you think a son who though was mature for his age and yet a child who was vulnerable would have done in that situation? Lets suppose his mother really had found love in another relationship, would he have forced his mother to come back for him? I guess no. Shravan's love for his mother was not selfish. He let her go because he believed she wanted to go. But, that does not mean he cant have questions with regard to her. He did make concessions for her, all his questions revolve around the fact why did she not contact him for these many years. Marriages do break which he as a child did understand but do mother-child relationship also fail...?

As to your observation, he runs at the first sign of trouble... the jury is out😉