was mamiji wrong - Page 5

Originally posted by: potterginny

Agar paise nahi the, toh Anuj(her elder son) ko US kaise bheja? Aur agar loan lekar bheja hai, toh Suman
ki tarah uski bharpai nahi karega?
And about the house, she is a primary member of the family and thinks she is being being butchered. What about other family members? They all have their issues to deal with. The most crushed person is Suman. An this heartless woman is so oblivious to it. Ek anath bachhi ke mehnat ki achievements se jalti hai.
And this house is made with Raghuvar Tiwari's sweat, he wasn't born a lawyer. Raising kids with values and ethics, being loyal to the profession and being a man whose name still strikes a chord when you hear it in that field is no joke. He earned it.
If you look at Tiwari Villa's interiors, they may look subdued now but sure it must have been grand in it's hay days. If they sell it away, in logo ki haisiyat ke mutabik aisa ghar, itna bada aur shandaar, dur dur tak unlogo ki pakad mein nahi aayega.
what did mami do to snatch away his rights and choices over things he so rightly owns? Marry his son? Be the selfish woman she is?
Apne bachho ki itni hi padi hai toh job kare, mehnat kare. Housewife bankar orders na jhaade. Surely, Tiwari ji ki soch se lagta nahi hai ki unhe job karne se koi rokega.
unke ghar se ashiyaana cheen kar unka bhavishya banane chale! Daboo kitna chhota hai ab tak! Woh bada ho tab tak yeh nayi naveli paise wali sethani ne saare paise chat kar liye hoge.
I am suggesting this job thing because my mother works. She had a million valid reasons to blame the circumstances for, but she works relentlessly. To the point of sheer exhaustion. And her own existence doesn't matter to her. Only her kids do. And many other women I know are like her.
That's what sensible and self respecting women do. They take upon themselves, the responsibility of the situation.
They 'lifetime of struggles' should have taught her that. The examples she sets for her children by doing all those harkats! Urgh!
Feel free to dissent. Different opinions are always welcome.
this is just my perspective. To each her own, I believe.

Originally posted by: sweetmishthi

I am a student and trust me just studying well doesn't fulfill ur dreams considering there is very less seat for open category which is also taken up by the relatives there is no option but to get either extraordinary marks like 99 percent and fill forms before everybody else or get in self finance which has fees structure in lakhs

I was sooo angry when after studying hard a flurry to fouty five percent student gets aissjin in my class I don't know how

Then this people don't give Scholarship u deserve my friend thank god she is from a wealthy family she took admission in our government college from literally from her own sweat she got Scholarship from government and a sports Scholarship too

But sports Scholarship was eatten up by our. College for which we fought but then u know what happens and government scholarship came in second year.

Thank God her father managed and she worked part time checking paper or else ?

Now we are up for post grad same situ is infront of us

I agree with a part where preetipreeti should get a job instead of taking selfies

And even mausaji mataji bhi unki madad karti hain Jo apni madad kare

Good post yar

I will still say she is wrong! She was clearly using her children today. .. to prove her point.. when Dabu and Preeti are clear to not leave house!!!

wow... I think many of you don't actually know how people outside are and I also can say you guys are born in a well-to-do family (lucky ones)... but I've to say house wives like the character of Manju are the people who are most neglected and teken for granted in a household... you can see there're no maids in the house (they din't show Sumo doing soemthing else other than cooking), even till date mami is a person who runs the whole house (maybe for the last 30 years)... in yesterday's epi it was the frustration which piled up for years on being neglected and fear of her child's future which bursted out...

Originally posted by: sreeammy

wow... I think many of you don't actually know how people outside are and I also can say you guys are born in a well-to-do family (lucky ones)... but I've to say house wives like the character of Manju are the people who are most neglected and teken for granted in a household... you can see there're no maids in the house (they din't show Sumo doing soemthing else other than cooking), even till date mami is a person who runs the whole house (maybe for the last 30 years)... in yesterday's epi it was the frustration which piled up for years on being neglected and fear of her child's future which bursted out...

I only have one reason for people who aren't able to relate with the character of Manju... that you're really lucky people to not even know about such issues in your life but Manju is too common in almost every Indian lower middle class family... I know because I'm from one... this show is way too realistic

Maybe we are lucky, but I don't think Suman will ever object doing anything told to do in "House". Like she did for Shravan on being told or stay back home inspite of "Meeting". But point is, if such people exists, they need to take stand when time is right for themselves. It was Mamiji's requirement for Suman to work outside, she needs her money, and Suman does all she can for them! See Frustration and Greed are two different thing! Mamiji plans to wash her hands off from Suman and Nanu and rest of family. that's fine... her wish, but at what cost? Cost of something that doesn't belong to her... Who had build that house? Nanu or her so called useless husband? Most woman prefer to seperate out from joint family if they feel they cannot adjust, but if they do seperate what will they have in their hands?

Originally posted by: shahsb_26

Maybe we are lucky, but I don't think Suman will ever object doing anything told to do in "House". Like she did for Shravan on being told or stay back home inspite of "Meeting". But point is, if such people exists, they need to take stand when time is right for themselves. It was Mamiji's requirement for Suman to work outside, she needs her money, and Suman does all she can for them! See Frustration and Greed are two different thing! Mamiji plans to wash her hands off from Suman and Nanu and rest of family. that's fine... her wish, but at what cost? Cost of something that doesn't belong to her... Who had build that house? Nanu or her so called useless husband? Most woman prefer to seperate out from joint family if they feel they cannot adjust, but if they do seperate what will they have in their hands?

Originally posted by: sreeammy

wow... I think many of you don't actually know how people outside are and I also can say you guys are born in a well-to-do family (lucky ones)... but I've to say house wives like the character of Manju are the people who are most neglected and teken for granted in a household... you can see there're no maids in the house (they din't show Sumo doing soemthing else other than cooking), even till date mami is a person who runs the whole house (maybe for the last 30 years)... in yesterday's epi it was the frustration which piled up for years on being neglected and fear of her child's future which bursted out...

I only have one reason for people who aren't able to relate with the character of Manju... that you're really lucky people to not even know about such issues in your life but Manju is too common in almost every Indian lower middle class family... I know because I'm from one... this show is way too realistic

Originally posted by: spnfan

I myself come.from a.middle class family.. My.parents are govt employees and my father retired 6 years ago.. But we lead a very normal life and my parents could afford my bro and my education with taking a loan which they could repay... They sended.us to private colleges.since.the standard of universities in Kerala are.not that good...

Maami is a.real character but her actions are.not justified... I.also.agree that women.like.her can.me seen in every hpusehold in India but that doenot make.them or their actions right... If she wants to give.good education to dabbo taking an edufation loan is better.than selling.family properly... Also dabbo is hardly 10 and by the time he turns 18 the peice.of the property will also be.more than thrice and they could.take a loan from a bank with their property as assurance than sellings the property to a.blade.like khosla... What us the guarantee that they will have the money with them when dabbo will be the age of going to college... They probably spend that on marring of preeti and giving dowry and.they would have to pay extra.since she is jobless and only.good at taking selfies...

Also tiwaris in no way come from a lower middle class family.. If they were naanu could never afford to send sumo to a porsh school like that and they could not even in their.dreams take a.trip to USA.. My family of 4 couldmt afford going to srilanka for vaccations where the money value is lesser.than that in.India... Naanu was a.famous lawyer.. Probably a supreme court lawyer.. They get a decent amount as pension money and suman's.business is doing good.. She could handle to get 3lakh rupees in a week.. My parents wont be able to do that... Maamiis speech yesterday made the tiwaris look like a.lower middle class family.which they surely are not..

Originally posted by: 3serialfan40

Love your post friend👏

So many hard working mothers and here she is sitting on her backside all day and demanding rights, there are women like this through time. They falsely claim it to be feminists and they are insulting all feminists when they do that, this is pure manipulation and tantrums .

Feminism is about equal rights, not unequal rights - regardless whether the person wanting unequal rights is a man or a woman!

Wah dost!
You got the feminist perspective intact!
And yeah, there are people out there who are always eager to take credits for things they have no right over. They are the ones which are subjected to bounties of regret and frustration in their life.