Being Sumo, unapologetically !

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Posted: 9 years ago
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"All that is gold does not glitter,
Not all those who wander are lost;
The old that is strong does not wither,
Deep roots are not reached by the frost.

From the ashes a fire shall be woken,
A light from the shadows shall spring;
Renewed shall be blade that was broken,
The crownless again shall be king."

- J.R.R Tolkien


Suman Tiwari is not perfect. She cannot be, not tomorrow, not in another ten years from now. You don't love someone because they're perfect, you love them in spite of the fact that they're not.
Inside this strong headed, guarded woman there's a lil girl who's hurting, longing, scared and deprived of love. Ignored and made to feel indebted, unwanted by her own family. We all think we know her, but we don't.
She lost her parents at a very tender age. One cannot expect her to be all sunshine with hearts and flowers. She's meant to be bitter, she has her own reasons. Even with all the odds, one can see this girl does not go spiral over self pity. She gathers herself and leads on. She's regardless and dismisses his feeling cause that's more like her defense mechanism. This is how she lives, concealed. Don't let anyone see, don't give anyone the leash. Don't get attached. There's no 'my own', for her.
She had never expressed or experienced that unconditional love, she's not aware, she doesn't know how that works. She will stumble and fall, still learning to love, just starting to crawl. She will learn to love and to be loved, by him. Wait for our girl to love, she will do it like no other.

I see a lot of people going berserk over her, asking her to be fair, why should she? The world was never fair to her. Give her some time. Don't judge, not yet.


P.S

"From the moment I met you, not a day has gone by when I haven't thought of you. And now that I'm with you again...I'm in agony. The closer I get to you, the worse it gets. The thought of not being with you - I can't breathe. I'm haunted by the kiss that you should never have given me. My heart is beating... hoping that kiss will not become a scar. You are in my very soul, tormenting me..."

- Star Wars. *BIG FAN* 😳

And this is my Shravan, of course I cannot let of a topic without gushing about my man. 😳







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Audrey.h. thumbnail
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Posted: 9 years ago
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awww that was very well written 😳
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Beautifully written...I wanna come back to this later... want to be coherent when i do post...
You echoed my thoughts ...plz give her time...
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Posted: 9 years ago
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well written. truely we dont love a person because he or she is perfect.
and shravan have always loved her by accepting her flaws. he loved her imperfection.
and that imperfection makes suman tiwari special. what she is now and what she was, there is a difference, and now shravan can see that too.
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Nice post..
That's wat I am saying..love will change her...just give her time...
She is not evil..
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Posted: 9 years ago
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very poetically written post ... lovely string of words ...
Does love really change a person .. or does love highlight the best we have in ourselves .. thats the one question which plagues me ... coz if love changes one then what was it that one fell in love with?

I just wanted to throw up a few questions which struck me from your post up for discussion ...

Has sumo really not felt unconditional love? does her nanaji not love her unconditionally ..has she not felt that parental love unconditionally? has she not had friendships at tender ages .. which was offered unconditionally?




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Originally posted by: redwine1

very poetically written post ... lovely string of words ...

Does love really change a person .. or does love highlight the best we have in ourselves .. thats the one question which plagues me ... coz if love changes one then what was it that one fell in love with?

I just wanted to throw up a few questions which struck me from your post up for discussion ...

Has sumo really not felt unconditional love? does her nanaji not love her unconditionally ..has she not felt that parental love unconditionally? has she not had friendships at tender ages .. which is offered unconditionally?






Does love change a person? Yes, it totally does, for better or for worse. But in case of better, it definitely doesn't mean, we love the changed person more than the one we fell in love with. I see it as a growth, a growth together, a growth towards each other. Changes are bound to happen. But, when you're fighting the change, that's where you know something is wrong. It's not meant to be. Again, it's totally subjective and varies from couple to couple.

Nana Ji loves her, he definitely loves the Sumo he sees. Suman does not show her weak side to Nana ji, for him she's the brave, brave granddaughter, on a pedestal. I want some one who can see that she's actually scared. I'm talking about a person who can love that Suman she doesn't show, that one person who can see through her. Love her with all the flaws that she is, the person who is capable of forgiving her for her mistakes.

About parental love, I think she lost her parents at a very, very young age. Friendship, we can clearly see how that worked out for her on the reunion party.
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Does love change a person? Yes, it totally does, for better or for worse. But in case of better, it definitely doesn't mean, we love the changed person more than the one we fell in love with. I see it as a growth, a growth together, a growth towards each other. Changes are bound to happen. But, when you're fighting the change, that's where you know something is wrong. It's not meant to be. Again, it's totally subjective and varies from couple to couple.

Nana Ji loves her, he definitely loves the Sumo he sees. Suman does not show her weak side to Nana ji, for him she's the brave, brave granddaughter, on a pedestal. I want some one who can see that she's actually scared. I'm talking about a person who can love that Suman she doesn't show, that one person who can see through her. Love her with all the flaws that she is, the person who is capable of forgiving her for her mistakes.

About parental love, I think she lost her parents at a very, very young age. Friendship, we can clearly see how that worked out for her on the reunion party.


IMHO ... if its LOVE .. it does not CHANGE .. it simply brings to fore qualities which are there .. which are the best ... thats what u fall in love with ...thats what remains ... what u change is surface .. things which do not influence LOVE hence are changeable..

How do v know NANAji does not see the vulnerable SUMO .. is he not a shield for her ... is he not the reason that the acerbic words of mami r tempered ... the love u r speaking of is a love shared between a couple ... maybe that she has yet to get .. but unconditional love for every individual comes first from their parents ... unfortunately v use that as a benchmark to rate the couple love in life as well .. 😳😉






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Posted: 9 years ago
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Nice post...
Agree both are at fault.
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Originally posted by: redwine1

IMHO ... if its LOVE .. it does not CHANGE .. it simply brings to fore qualities which are there .. which are the best ... thats what u fall in love with ...thats what remains ... what u change is surface .. things which do not influence LOVE hence are changeable..How do v know NANAji does not see the vulnerable SUMO .. is he not a shield for her ... is he not the reason that the acerbic words of mami r tempered ... the love u r speaking of is a love shared between a couple ... maybe that she has yet to get .. but unconditional love for every individual comes first from their parents ... unfortunately v use that as a benchmark to rate the couple love in life as well .. 😳😉

"Love is not love, which alters, when it alteration finds" I'm a firm believer of this concept. 😳
The one that does not change is the LOVE between two people, not the two people who're in love. We cannot grow without changing. It's all about accepting the changes. A man has to accept the change of his wife becoming a mother, changes of priority, it's as simple as that, just an example. 😆

No, I for once don't see Nana Ji to know the Suman, coming undone. He's loves the Sumo she paints in front of him. He guards Sumo the person, not her emotional torment.
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