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shruthiravi

@shruthiravi

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Posted: 12 years ago

Remember SURYA during WTC. Sooraj was all praise for Sandhya and Sandhya encouraging him.

Sooraj goes on telling "wo ai ni" as he is shy to tell " ILU" and Sandhya wondering about it. Then finally after the semi final he finally manages to tell those 3 letters to her and she reciprocates.

We see a much stronger Sooraj for the final, a Sooraj capable of conquering the world because he knows Sandhya loves him.

Now let us take SBC. From the time Sooraj had given the matka in Bhabo's hand Sandhya is praising him for his support. She is telling in multitude of ways she is happy with him and we see Sooraj just acknowledging or smiling.After seeing the promo this is what I feel.

Sandhya had heard Bhabo speaking to Babasa that Sooraj's status will get affected if she becomes IPS and he will be feeling sad from inside and will not be able to tell this to anyone. Sandhya wants to speak to Sooraj about this, but somehow unable to and she is trying indirect ways to convey that he is not small , she loves him, he is important to her etc..

Can a point come before SBC final where Sandhya will speak her mind to him. Where she will ask him society might not be kind to them. He might be taunted. Will he be still with her withstanding that. Will he at any point feel inadequate and decided to end their relationship if she becomes IPS. She will tell IPS is important to her, but it is incomplete without him. She at no point want to lose him because of IPS.

This will make Sooraj allay her fears, something like an educated girl like her has respected him, she is always proud to talk about him, her friend had given her divorce papers so that she can chase her dream, she decided to respect the seven vows she took with him and sacrifice her dream. When society taunted her she didnt leave him, so why should he feel inadequate if she becomes IPS. He will always have pride for her. He knows , her trust is what matters to him and as she is incomplete without him, he is also incomplete without her. It can go something like this ...

This convo can make SURYA bond stronger and the fact that Sooraj is with her no matter what can help her cross over Bhabo emotional atyachaar.

So what to do you think. If the above scene happens it will be one of the most beautiful scenes of DABH as I expect a emotional hug post this convo 😃😃

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iluvsuraj

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Posted: 12 years ago

PP!!!!

Ah good post!👏You know,Sandhya never told suraj that she loves him(since December 2012).She is thankful for his support.But there a tinge of love too in her eyes for him.Earlier,he was her mentor.But now she acknowledges that he's her husband and her jeevansaathi.😳

What you said might happen.Bhabho might raise this topic.They even showed in the promo that Bhabho warns sandhya about losing her family.😲

But the point is...will she talk openly to Suraj?Is it possible?They are so stuck up in other things that they have no time for each other(literally) for a good chat.She never shares her insecurities and feelings with him.She used to,earlier,but now?She doesn't have a good track record-tel malish,2nd matka,or even overhearing Bhabho-bhabhasa's convo.She thinks keeping him in dark will keep in happy,but what about the fact that their relationship is taking a back seat and neither is her equation with bhabho good.🤢

And if what you said happens,I will give you a virtual cadbury and will be very very happy!😛😉

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shruthiravi

@shruthiravi

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Posted: 12 years ago

@iluvsuraj did u see the last part of promo after bhabo's warning a confused Sandhya looks towards Sooraj. He signals he is there , go get it and the Sandhya facing the host is confident.

Looking at Sooraj merely cannot allay her fears. it means a convo has happened to enforce her trust on him, she might not speak anything about Bhabo, she will speak society in general. Sandhya has problem only speaking about Bhabo. That last part combined with some similarity with WTC prompted me to think like this.

Also it is needed, before the IPS journey starts the emotional bond of SURYA needs to be stronger so that they can face every obstacle together 😃

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iluvsuraj

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Posted: 12 years ago

Originally posted by: shruthiravi
@iluvsuraj did u see the last part of promo after bhabo's warning a confused Sandhya looks towards Sooraj. He signals he is there , go get it and the Sandhya facing the host is confident.

Looking at Sooraj merely cannot allay her fears. it means a convo has happened to enforce her trust on him, she might not speak anything about Bhabo, she will speak society in general. Sandhya has problem only speaking about Bhabo. That last part combined with some similarity with WTC prompted me to think like this.

Also it is needed, before the IPS journey starts the emotional bond of SURYA needs to be stronger so that they can face every obstacle together 😃

Yeh baat to sach hai.

Akkaji!Kaash aisa hi ho.This will be an inevitable thing.This convo has to happen,may be like that swimming pool scene in MBS.😳

I will keep my eyes open for this!😃

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UMDU

@UMDU

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Posted: 12 years ago

Nice post. They however I feel will not have a conversation of that nature. They can but will not. They are used to keeping secrets from each other and it will continue to be so. To become extremely close to each other, so close that you can express your inner most fears, in a marital relationship you need to be physically close. Unless that distance is bridged I don't expect any heart to heart convoy or and fears being allayed. They will remain good friends or you can say Suraj will take the position of a big brother in her life and encourage her to achieve her dreams. She will smile, feel grateful for all the support and work hard to pass. That's it. No dealing with insecurity issue will happen before IPS. That is how I read the situation.

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shruthiravi

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Posted: 12 years ago

Umaji have to disagree with you. Sandhya no longer considers Sooraj fatherlike figure or brother. She is very clear. He is her husband. For a person like Sandhya emotional intimacy is a must , before she can proceed to physical intimacy. They cannot show Sandhya simply following Sooraj and getting IPS. No definitely not . Before IPS happens their emotional intimacy has to be shown, they have to show Sandhya overcoming Bhabo emotional atyachaar. That can happen only and only if emotional intimacy happens with SURYA.

Because the person know towing Bhabo is a girl who is desperate for mother's love, but the person surviving the emotional atyachaar has to be a woman who knows who is important to her. The crossover can happen only through emotional intimacy.

For every couple physical intimacy is not the cornerstone of emotional intimacy. it can be other way also, if you are able to see a friend in your spouse. In friendship you develop emotional intimacy first , which progresses to love and then husband wife relation.

This is the key reason many of my batchmates married their best friends and many others like me wanted a long courtship period. it is to develop the emotional intimacy through friendship with your spouse.

Just because SURYA is married we cannot say they should not have this phase, a married couple also can have this phase to make their bond stronger. SURYA for me is still in their courtship period, a deep friendship is not yet formed. This is the best area where they can show that development.

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UMDU

@UMDU

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Posted: 12 years ago

Shruthi in SurYa's case they have never been open ever. They have always been secretive about their deepest fears. It was a forced marriage for Sandhya and the courtship period you had with your husband was a luxury she did not enjoy before marriage. Suraj comes with a huge baggage of being a Momma's boy at the end of the day. Sandhya is always torn between the sentiment whether to tell him or not to tell him, whether her expressing things will spoil his relationship with his mother or not. To feel really really close to him given the RP circumstances they have to become physically close. Unless that is remedied, Suraj will continue to be her Father/ brother/ friend. They will keep secrets, smile at each other, may be hug like a friend a few times and that's it. On the point of physical relationship being secondary I strongly disagree. It is one of the most important aspects of marriage and to brush it aside and put it in the back burner is the reason why SurYa could never become close enough to allay each others fears. This is strictly my POV. On this we have to agree to disagree.

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shruthiravi

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Posted: 12 years ago

Umaji you always tell agree to disagree. I am talking from experience, not some fairy tale that for many of us emotional intimacy holds a key. So why cant accept a different POV that for certain couple emotional intimacy paves the way to physical intimacy. Dont tell they have not been open.

They were. Sandhya spoke to him about her fears after pappad incident. She spoke to him about the promises her brother made to bhabo and the reason why she cannot go to college. Sooraj during WTC did tell her the reason for his fear and she allayed him.

But they have not reached a level of emotional intimacy because Sandhya's thinking is that of a girl, not that of a woman. It is now I am seeing her blossoming into a woman. So that process reaches its culmination when she speak to him about losing him after IPS. She is already hinting indirectly.

Umaji you read the characters from a standard society point of view, maybe because you followed the rules of society. But me who was always a rebel and who has lived the life the way I wanted without giving in to any stereotype thoughts I see them in a different light. As far as SURYA goes my POV has proven more right than wrong. 😃😃

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UMDU

@UMDU

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Posted: 12 years ago

Shruthi, agree to disagree itself means I have this POV, you have yours. Just like you are unconvinced by my arguments, I am by yours. Nobody said your story was fairy tale. I said Sandhya did not have the luxury of interacting with Suraj before marriage which you had. Just like you have stated instances they discussed issues I can give you many when they did not. She never talked to Suraj when Bhabo bad mouthed her after the 15 day challenge and she over heard Bhabo, after Tel Maalish, when she heard Bhabo allay her fears about IPS, LC, Chavvi case, Emily case etc etc. You may argue that she is afraid of coming between Suraj and his mother, my submission is that emotional dependence on each other gets stronger when physical relationship is established. I have always maintained that stand and I don't find enough convincing arguments to change them. Just like you talk from your experience I do with mine. That is why when we have divergent views on a subject we politely disperse using the line agree to disagree. It was not meant to be any way offensive. That was never my intention.

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.Ami.

@.Ami.

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Posted: 12 years ago

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This is history..😃

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