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Hi Neetz
Couldn't help write my POV in a post that has generated so much discussion from all sides. If you remember, when I was writing my ff PEHCHAN, you were one of the few advocates of my story about a love story between a married woman and a man. Ofcourse, the circumstances were different there as Riddhima's marriage was marred by infidelity, but despite all the upheavals in her life, eventually she did unite with Armaan, the true love of her life.
We are of course talking fiction here, a world where people like to lose themselves because it gives them a reason to escape and believe in something that in real world seems unrealistic and impossible. Such is the world of love stories, whether in books, TV or movies. If we really wanted real life stories, our lives would provide us with many more juicier and interesting stories.
Having said that, I strongly believe (and also have experienced it as I am older than most of you here) that even in real life out-of-this-world, Romeo and Juliet style stories do exist and each time we encounter them, we just exclaim WOW! UNBELIEVABLE! NEVER IMAGINED WOULD SEE SOMETHING LIKE THIS IN REAL LIFE!
In my opinion, such is the case with this fictional love story of Armaan and Riddhima. They are not your run of the mill couple in love who fell in love, fell out of love, found someone else, moved on, settled down and yada yada yada...
What makes AR special is that despite all odds, despite being poles apart in the way they have been brought up, despite have totally divergent ways of thinking, they still belong together.
In fact, I feel that even though they are not physically together, emotionally and spiritually they have NEVER been apart. That's what makes them special. Even if they get entangled in various other relationships, the bond they have for each other will always be strong
We have all witnessed that despite being married, Riddhima has never been able to give 100% to her marriage (now don't counter me on that because if she had, Sid would never feel this insecure). It's this incompleteness inside her that has changed Riddhima from who she was to who she is right now. Yes, she has changed, but has she changed for the better? I am not sure. I see her more irritable, more indecisive, more confused and on a constant guilt trip,whether its about Armaan's state of affairs or about neglecting her husband's needs. Is this what we call a complete woman? NO! Somewhere deep down she feels incomplete and dissatisfied with life. That's why she has become this not-so-likable-female-protagonist in the last few months. I see more posts bashing her than appreciating her- from all groups of fans BTW.
Riddhima IMO is going through a tumultuous phase in her life when she is trying to discover herself. It's this phase of uncertainty about herself that's causing most of the issues in this story. One day, I am sure, she will find herself, find what she really wants, realize who she really is and that's the day everything will fall into place.This could take days,could take months or years...I don't know but the day she accepts the truth about herself, is the day this story will come to a conclusion.
Of course as an AR fan, I will say that the day she realizes that Armaan is the man for her and they are meant to be together will be that day of self realization but who knows-it could also be the day when she chooses to be single and free forever, or maybe when she chooses to stay married to Sid with her heart,soul and body....I don't know but I know that she has not yet reached that state of mind.If she had, we would not have all these confusions in this story.
As far as AR coming together and rebuilding on their lost relationship, yes they can because when they come together this time, it will be against all odds, against their feelings of guilt, against societal norms and when that happens, there will be no turning back.
Will Riddhima feel guilty about leaving Sid then? She should not because if she leaves Sid for Armaan, she would be doing that for Sid's sake. Staying in a marriage where she is not complete, where she cannot give 100% is unfair to Sid. If she truly cares for Sid, she would be happy that she didn't stay with him with the thoughts of another man in her heart. Sid deserves a loving woman who can be there for him with her heart,soul and body. At this moment, I don't see Ridz as that woman for him. Its only fair to him and to their marriage, that Ridz realizes what she really wants.
In conclusion, if AR are meant to be (which I believe in strongly) they will come together and even if they have changed a lot, learned a lot, experienced a lot, their love for each other will be the same...after all as someone has said TRUE LOVE DOESN'T HAVE AN EXPIRATION DATE...
and can never be broken.
Couldn't help write my POV in a post that has generated so much discussion from all sides. If you remember, when I was writing my ff PEHCHAN, you were one of the few advocates of my story about a love story between a married woman and a man. Ofcourse, the circumstances were different there as Riddhima's marriage was marred by infidelity, but despite all the upheavals in her life, eventually she did unite with Armaan, the true love of her life.
We are of course talking fiction here, a world where people like to lose themselves because it gives them a reason to escape and believe in something that in real world seems unrealistic and impossible. Such is the world of love stories, whether in books, TV or movies. If we really wanted real life stories, our lives would provide us with many more juicier and interesting stories.
Having said that, I strongly believe (and also have experienced it as I am older than most of you here) that even in real life out-of-this-world, Romeo and Juliet style stories do exist and each time we encounter them, we just exclaim WOW! UNBELIEVABLE! NEVER IMAGINED WOULD SEE SOMETHING LIKE THIS IN REAL LIFE!
In my opinion, such is the case with this fictional love story of Armaan and Riddhima. They are not your run of the mill couple in love who fell in love, fell out of love, found someone else, moved on, settled down and yada yada yada...
What makes AR special is that despite all odds, despite being poles apart in the way they have been brought up, despite have totally divergent ways of thinking, they still belong together.
In fact, I feel that even though they are not physically together, emotionally and spiritually they have NEVER been apart. That's what makes them special. Even if they get entangled in various other relationships, the bond they have for each other will always be strong
We have all witnessed that despite being married, Riddhima has never been able to give 100% to her marriage (now don't counter me on that because if she had, Sid would never feel this insecure). It's this incompleteness inside her that has changed Riddhima from who she was to who she is right now. Yes, she has changed, but has she changed for the better? I am not sure. I see her more irritable, more indecisive, more confused and on a constant guilt trip,whether its about Armaan's state of affairs or about neglecting her husband's needs. Is this what we call a complete woman? NO! Somewhere deep down she feels incomplete and dissatisfied with life. That's why she has become this not-so-likable-female-protagonist in the last few months. I see more posts bashing her than appreciating her- from all groups of fans BTW.
Riddhima IMO is going through a tumultuous phase in her life when she is trying to discover herself. It's this phase of uncertainty about herself that's causing most of the issues in this story. One day, I am sure, she will find herself, find what she really wants, realize who she really is and that's the day everything will fall into place.This could take days,could take months or years...I don't know but the day she accepts the truth about herself, is the day this story will come to a conclusion.
Of course as an AR fan, I will say that the day she realizes that Armaan is the man for her and they are meant to be together will be that day of self realization but who knows-it could also be the day when she chooses to be single and free forever, or maybe when she chooses to stay married to Sid with her heart,soul and body....I don't know but I know that she has not yet reached that state of mind.If she had, we would not have all these confusions in this story.
As far as AR coming together and rebuilding on their lost relationship, yes they can because when they come together this time, it will be against all odds, against their feelings of guilt, against societal norms and when that happens, there will be no turning back.
Will Riddhima feel guilty about leaving Sid then? She should not because if she leaves Sid for Armaan, she would be doing that for Sid's sake. Staying in a marriage where she is not complete, where she cannot give 100% is unfair to Sid. If she truly cares for Sid, she would be happy that she didn't stay with him with the thoughts of another man in her heart. Sid deserves a loving woman who can be there for him with her heart,soul and body. At this moment, I don't see Ridz as that woman for him. Its only fair to him and to their marriage, that Ridz realizes what she really wants.
In conclusion, if AR are meant to be (which I believe in strongly) they will come together and even if they have changed a lot, learned a lot, experienced a lot, their love for each other will be the same...after all as someone has said TRUE LOVE DOESN'T HAVE AN EXPIRATION DATE...
and can never be broken.
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