Writer's portraying rape correctly?

So I have been watching a show, it's called Private Practice (maybe some of you have heard of it; it's the spin off of Grey's Anatomy) and a female character has been raped in that show. In it she says (please, it's a bit "graphic" and adult, reader beware):

that is graphic... i would not like my daughter to be around if that was being said and this is a 7pm show that you are watching and comparing it to a 10pm show even disregarding that one of them is an american show and the other an indian serial

i applaud how they are showing nandinis reaction to finding out about the rape, crouching down and crying is a very normal thing, crying in the shower too is a very normal thing when you do not want to be overheard, sometimes its just good to have a good cry, wash out your system...

creatives always take some liberties with the content bcos they are portraying an event in a show and have to take into account alot of different sensibilities but i like how they are showing a rape victim till now

What? I'm sorry, but are you telling me that the only person being "realistic" while "enacting" a rape victim is on Private Practice, and rest are all fake??

I'm not at all saying that Private Practice is the only show portraying rape in the correct light; I'm not even saying that this quote she be what the writers should be portraying. This just showed how contrary to "tv" portrayal rape CAN BE. What is frustrating is that when Krishna is holding her, she doesn't fight back. In real life, if a guy is holding and threatening you, you don't just stand there. Especially if this guy has raped you before. In real life, you fight back. That's the truth. I'm not saying I know how this situation is supposed to happen, I'm just saying, I feel as if the way they are portraying rape actually doesn't capture its complete impact.

What is frustrating is that when Krishna is holding her, she doesn't fight back. In real life, if a guy is holding and threatening you, you don't just stand there. Especially if this guy has raped you before. In real life, you fight back.

Originally posted by: sUgA -N- sPiCe

I'm not at all saying that Private Practice is the only show portraying rape in the correct light; I'm not even saying that this quote she be what the writers should be portraying. This just showed how contrary to "tv" portrayal rape CAN BE. What is frustrating is that when Krishna is holding her, she doesn't fight back. In real life, if a guy is holding and threatening you, you don't just stand there. Especially if this guy has raped you before. In real life, you fight back. That's the truth. I'm not saying I know how this situation is supposed to happen, I'm just saying, I feel as if the way they are portraying rape actually doesn't capture its complete impact.

Your points are very valid. And I apologize for offending you. My intent was not to say that this was the ONLY way to react to rape. Not at all. What I'm saying is taking up this storyline means doing justice to it and that there are many types of reactions; the one Nandini is showing is one that tends to be shown of tv many a time. It makes me question if it is a true, researched reaction or just something TV makers use?

@bold - You dont have to apologise... no offense taken. And none meant either.

Originally posted by: brainychild92

What is frustrating is that when Krishna is holding her, she doesn't fight back. In real life, if a guy is holding and threatening you, you don't just stand there. Especially if this guy has raped you before. In real life, you fight back.

that frusterated me too but no.. everyone reacts differently.. she is afraid of him how is she supposed to fight back? some women would fight back while others would do waht nandu did... according to me rape is a vvvvv sensative/controversial issue that cannot be portrayed "correctly " cuz everyone goes through it differently.. some are strong enough to fight back. others choose suicide cuz of trauma..etc.. and ya lets not forget.. this is a 7pm show.. young children will ask questions and i wouldn't want that if that were my kid!

The portrayals of most of the characters are on the dot to me, especially Krishna's and Nandini's. Actually, it would be Prem's, Kalyani's and even Govind's and Pallavi's portrayals which I find less real. I really appreciate the portrayals though, and I find the creatives are really playing out the story thoughtfully and considerately. Again, as you all stated, each person's experience and reaction would be different, but this one resonates with me positively and, if handled right, can be healing to many and provide support and engender compassion in many, too. I am looking forward hopefully that Prem and Kalyani will support Nandini and show many positives and give hope to anyone who has ever been in any situation similar to, lesser or worse than this.

very interesting discussion

i just saw todays episode and have the feeling that prem s question in the precap will again be in jest, that is my biggest gripe, they only want to show one particular reaction from him, till he does not know about the fact they will keep him completely in the dark, no deducing anything by himself or trying to figure anything out to help nandini... he will conveniently not overhear anything suspicious

like aye and krishna having their discussion in the middle of the temple, the people around them would have had no clue what they were talking about, right?

and sumati could not hear in their small house when her vahini was crying and blaming krishna for spoiling nandinis life.... they cannot hear or see anything not in the script...

another thing to remember about the show is that at the end of the day they are trying to entertain a large variety of people and thus include a lot of different aspects, the dadi and aye, sonakshi, prems masti... in fact i m missing pratham and urmila, they must have had a good new years break

Well, I can understand Nandini's reaction well........when you have had a violent experience, not all people fight back.........the very fact that she went into dissocaition shows that her personality is not the fighting kind by nature.........it is only people who are not too brave who go into dissociation! Yet she has made up her mind to fight........and it will take her time to learn how to fight.............😊

My gripe is with Prem too...........I feel he is not doing anything positive to find out what is troubling Nandini.......he is waiting for her to open to him...........initially that was okay but now with Sumati warning him and then seeing Nandini blabber in her sleep......he should be watching her to see what makes her uncomfortable.........and if he did that, he would realize that Krushna's presence makes her so! I wish they would show Prem a little more sensitive to surroundings..........but it looks like he will probably be the last person to know..........I too feel Daadi or Urmila might know next........or Kalyani knowing it is Krushna would happen next! 😕

But I love ths show........I am enjoying it thoroughly...........and I love the discussions here too...........😛