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KhatamKahani

@KhatamKahani

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Posted: 14 years ago

#61

Quick post. What those of us who see love (if I may speak for all of us) are not saying the CVs are trying to show it as love. They are stuck on friendship, as is Mohan and Kastur.

But we say, na uhh... C'est l'amour.

Edited by likarsh - 14 years ago

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Rani

@pyar-ishk

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Posted: 14 years ago

#62

Originally posted by: Soaps1
Here it is

[YOUTUBE]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D0oIjRt9SPw[/YOUTUBE]

Check his shock and hurt but since those were early days he probably thought she will come around it but that hope he seems to be loosing in last shot of thursday ... see specially when she says ussey mey kabhi nahi apna sakti

Yeah you're right he was shock but now the rules have change and that's why Mohan is more worried. When it was just between him and his mom he probably felt it was controllable. Now that Kastur is aware and to see Saroj attack her like that it change from shock to being scare and worried. He knows his mother is very head strong and if he doesn't take care of soon and the wrong person see's it and it reach the Desai and won't be good for either families especially Galla

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KhatamKahani

@KhatamKahani

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Posted: 14 years ago

#63

Btw - intimacy isn't limited only to physical intimacy. Yes in a romantic relationship, it's needed. But within the definition of love, it's talking more about emotional intimacy.

I would even say MohUr are physically intimate. They're just not sexually intimate. (Though the theory after Wednesday was such a great one. 😆)

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Nandalala

@Nandalala

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Posted: 14 years ago

#64

😆 🥱

Nobody is denying the 'friendship'; in fact, in essence, MohUr were 'friends' even prior to Kastur's handshake request...I questioned it then itself: if she already knew that there were no expectations on either side, they were just going to go about handling their responsibilities without letting love come in the way, what was the need to define their relationship? So that there would be no 'physical' or 'emotional' expectations, right?

In light of this, I maintain that Mohan is in love post-leap for a few reason which I've elaborated on in my thread. However, let me spell it out one step further with another example. Mohan never wanted Kastur involved in his business matters, right? Had their relationship not grown; had it been where it was prior to the leap, do you honestly think he would have tolerated her being on the site? Following him, feeding him in front of workers? Do you think he would have carried her, taken care of her, instead of telling her to stop the nonsense? That in a professional environment where work is being done & he is on a deadline, he didn't need these distractions? Instead, other than calling her out on not wearing footwear, he indulged her, didn't get upset at her...Furthermore, once he got home,he asked her why she didn't just wait for him to bring her back from the site...the Mohan prior to the leap would have just told her to leave, been extremely irritated, and smoked a pack or two of cigarettes😆😆. Coming to the last scene on Thursday's epi: he could have just apologized after Saroj said so in the future you will say things to me in front of the family...instead he wanted to assure his mom that Kastur only had Saroj's best interest at heart and that she respected her as much as Mohan did; again, why was it necessary to mention and then justify why he defended Kastur? Why not just say I was wrong for interrupting you, it won't happen again...bas, kissa khatam! These examples reflect how his thinking has changed...and this is the key for a 'friendship' turning into something more...that something is love...

A pt. abt physical attraction in all this: I am not denying physical attraction is not necessary in love...after all, when the physical (I don't mean just appearance; physical affection, consummation, all comes into my definition of 'physical') meets the emotional, love is 'complete'...But for me, the emotional side of 'love' far outweighs the physical. Physical appearances, the initial attraction, change over time: it either lessens or grows as your emotional connection with a person either increases or decreases. Thats why ppl continue to be 'in love' for decades, while other relationships may last a few days. A less attractive person or someone whose appearance didn't matter starts to look beautiful when you recognize their goodness, their caring, their intellect and vice versa. In my mind, this is where Mohan is right now...And it is far more significant to me that Mohan has made this connection, rather than first being attracted to Kastur & then having feelings for her...

Edited by Nandalala - 14 years ago

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Nandalala

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Posted: 14 years ago

#65

Haha! Just saw a post abt a bhashan...I'm always willing to oblige 🤣

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KhatamKahani

@KhatamKahani

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Posted: 14 years ago

#66

Anj, I think that was Sundas talking about me, not you. 😆 But you have filled in for perfectly. 😃

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Nandalala

@Nandalala

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Posted: 14 years ago

#67

Originally posted by: likarsh
Anj, I think that was Sundas talking about me, not you. 😆 But you have filled in for perfectly. 😃

I stand corrected😳...I was reading the posts in a rush, and got ahead of myself...😆 I'm having trouble with the like button on IF, so I apologize to you guys for not liking posts..😊

For all I know, CVs may completely turn everything on its head tomorrow...so much for all this analysis☢️😵😡

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Soaps1

@Soaps1

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Posted: 14 years ago

#68

Originally posted by: pyar-ishk

Yeah you're right he was shock but now the rules have change and that's why Mohan is more worried. When it was just between him and his mom he probably felt it was controllable. Now that Kastur is aware and to see Saroj attack her like that it change from shock to being scare and worried. He knows his mother is very head strong and if he doesn't take care of soon and the wrong person see's it and it reach the Desai and won't be good for either families especially Galla

No disagreeing on that ... but all i was trying to say was that even before he was shocked and sad because even then he knew kastur is here to stay and it is not something he has started accepting only now. I said the exact same thing that before he probably thought these are early days and she will come around it but now its clear that is not happening hence his worry ... all i am saying is it does not have to be due to any new relationship formed between them.

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Soaps1

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Posted: 14 years ago

#69

But lik do we even see emotional intimacy? I don't think so not to a level where you will say it has reached a point beyond friendship ... because emotional intimacy can be between friends too

Nadalaa he defended kastur before too and to me there is no difference between the two instances ... he had said maa kastur ghalati nahi hey before too that is defending reason may be whatever ... so i don't see how that hints to a changed relationship... and like i said now they have history of we are friends behind them but does it mean he has fallen for her? I am not too sure because i don't see anything extra ordinary in his behavior that is different from before unless they have decided to give mohan a u-turn in one epi as well just like baapji 😆

I am not saying CVs won't show it as love they might but they have not convinced me on the falling in love part of Mohan yet from what they have shown.