Kastur can't complain, but he can tell his mother

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KhatamKahani

@KhatamKahani

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Posted: 13 years ago

#11

@soaps

hoping she will stop treating Kastur badly

😆 😆 You don't find this hilarious. I do.

By the way, I don't think he was thinking all of what you had written---if she knows I don't love Kastur, she will stop treating her badly. But I do think it's possible that he said that in hopes of Saroj understanding that the situation is delicate, and Kastur is not in a good state right now.

NEVERTHELESS, stupid, stupid, stupid. Not to mention thoughtless.

Edited by likarsh - 13 years ago

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KhatamKahani

@KhatamKahani

Stunner

Posted: 13 years ago

#12

Originally posted by: manasi_31
I always end up contradicting you 😆 I think these two things are different ... I mean when he got angry on Kastur for telling it to his in-laws, if you notice he was more upset because his father scolded him and held him entirely responsible for this ... That made him sulk more ... He didnt like how because of her complaining to her dad, he got a useless bhashan from his dad ... Here, as far as I can think, Mohan was always under an impression that Saroj knows he has been into a compromised marriage and he doesnt love Kastur ... Actually it was Saroj who had started drawing conclusions and making up her mind seeing MohUr together that Mohan has not only accepted Kastur as his wife but has also started loving her ... So here I think Mohan told it to Saroj thinking she is anyways the only one who knows he has never loved her so he shared ti with her ... He was reluctant initially but sensing Saroj might get upset he spoke it up ... It didnt even have anything to do with marital trust for him because it wasnt as such any secret between him and his mother

The same guy who praised Kastur, saying "I thought you would call your house and let them know..."

Yes, it was more about his father scolding (correctly, I might add), but like he thought "this means she went and complained about me." Even though if it weren't for Kastur's covering up for him, it would've been obvious to anyone. She didn't need to complain (and in fact she didn't) for them to notice.

What they had talked about has everything to do with marital trust. Kastur doesn't tell anyone why she came back earlier. Just because Saroj knows (or knew) Mohan didn't love Kastur, what had been discussed between Mohan and Kastur is not something Saroj knew, nor is it something Kastur would've wanted Saroj to know.

Saroj's knowledge is what Mohan feels for Kastur and why he married her (leaving aside that Saroj had started believing otherwise). What Kastur has now found out, it is not something that needs to be shared with Saroj by Mohan.

And by the way, Mohan knows all of what Saroj thinks. He heard what Saroj said to him, and he heard what she told Kastur. So even this is new information to Saroj, and he should know that. Nevertheless, if he wants to assure Saroj that he doesn't love Kastur, fine. (A pretty f***** up dynamic, but nevertheless...) But telling Saroj that he told Kastur he doesn't love her, and that's why Kastur left...when Kastur assured him the house wouldn't find out, and knowing that Kastur hasn't told this to the house... no.

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zinebnou

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Posted: 13 years ago

#13

thank u likarsh ( sorry i d'ont know ur name ) for ur help ur are so darling 😊

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shivu01

@shivu01

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+ 5

Posted: 13 years ago

#14

I feel that he should not have tell this to his mother. This matter should be kept between husband and wife. Now Saroj will find more ways to even humiliate her.

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anitarani

@anitarani

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Posted: 13 years ago

#15

Originally posted by: likarsh
What was that, Mohan? Getting angry and peeved when you thought Kastur had gone and complained to her family about YOUR ill treatment.

But now, you just betrayed a huge marital trust by telling Saroj what had happened.

tsk, tsk tsk.

Doesn't mean I had a problem with the episode, all of it was well done. But I just had to point that out.

Also Saroj, thank you for proving me right. 😆

Mohan telling his mother - its so sad yaar...it was so convenient to tell this to Saroj, would he have liked Kastur to mention about the jwellery she willingly parted with to settle off his debts...

Knowing all of Saroj's nasty words to Kastur, he still told her this.

Saroj's smile at the end of the episode...mean..😔

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KhatamKahani

@KhatamKahani

Stunner

Posted: 13 years ago

#16

Originally posted by: anitarani

Mohan telling his mother - its so sad yaar...it was so convenient to tell this to Saroj, would he have liked Kastur to mention about the jwellery she willingly parted with to settle off his debts...

Knowing all of Saroj's nasty words to Kastur, he still told her this.

Saroj's smile at the end of the episode...mean..😔

Exactly. And it's in no way comparable to Kastur's telling her mother about the jewllery. Kastur told her mother because she had no choice. His fault, his wrong, that he tells her to cover up. She had no way of covering it up. And not to mention, she makes her mother promise her and makes sure it doesn't affect Mohan.

Mohan has no way of doing that with Saroj. Especially after he heard Saroj telling Kastur straight up that she hates her.

Saroj's smile---I'm happy.😆 It makes all my long posts and arguments worth justified and worth it. 😆 Is it really surprising? It was coming. Oh, it was coming.

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Manasi

@manasi_31

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Posted: 13 years ago

#17

Kastur was sad but it was only her bhabhi who took notice ... Others did find her upset but had it not been her bhabhi Jitu wouldnt have called up Bhanu to enquire ... So it wasnt really that obvious ... And it still would have been obvious or not depends a lot on how Kastur would have made up for Mohan ...
I did add in it has got nothing to do with marital trust FOR HIM ... ummm isnt what Mohan told Saroj the same what she knew about MohUr initially? When did Mohan tell her what all was discussed between him and Kastur? So then where does marital trust come in this for him when he told her something that he had assumed she actually knew (which she indeed did)? I dont understand how are what Saroj knew and what Mohan told Kastur two different things? Mohan said it in a simple single sentence that he told Kastur he doesn love her thats it!

Oh come on Kastur didnt want the house to know so does Mohan not want it ... But Kastur has no idea that Saroj has an idea Mohan had never loved her ... which is just what Mohan told Saroj on the phone ... So as much as Kastur cares for keeping things between them so does Mohan ... But how does it matter to Mohan if he told Saroj that he has confessed the truth to Kastur when Mohan feels that Saroj already believes that truth to be still true? I dont get the dynamic you are talking about

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anitarani

@anitarani

Sparkler

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Posted: 13 years ago

#18

Mohan has no way of doing that with Saroj. Especially after he heard Saroj telling Kastur straight up that she hates her.

So liked the taali Mohan - caring guy even though he was supposed to be nashe mein...

but this Mamma ka ladla in the last scene was just so careless in disclosing the truth

to Saroj - here he is in right mind..😡

Hope CV's come up with a sensible/believable way of showing Kastur standing her own

ground and yet a winner drawing her Mohanji back to her real soon, and not her being

engulfed with self pity for long.

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KhatamKahani

@KhatamKahani

Stunner

Posted: 13 years ago

#19

Originally posted by: manasi_31
Kastur was sad but it was only her bhabhi who took notice ... Others did find her upset but had it not been her bhabhi Jitu wouldnt have called up Bhanu to enquire ... So it wasnt really that obvious ... And it still would have been obvious or not depends a lot on how Kastur would have made up for Mohan ...
I did add in it has got nothing to do with marital trust FOR HIM ... ummm isnt what Mohan told Saroj the same what she knew about MohUr initially? When did Mohan tell her what all was discussed between him and Kastur? So then where does marital trust come in this for him when he told her something that he had assumed she actually knew (which she indeed did)? I dont understand how are what Saroj knew and what Mohan told Kastur two different things? Mohan said it in a simple single sentence that he told Kastur he doesn love her thats it!

Oh come on Kastur didnt want the house to know so does Mohan not want it ... But Kastur has no idea that Saroj has an idea Mohan had never loved her ... which is just what Mohan told Saroj on the phone ... So as much as Kastur cares for keeping things between them so does Mohan ... But how does it matter to Mohan if he told Saroj that he has confessed the truth to Kastur when Mohan feels that Saroj already believes that truth to be still true? I dont get the dynamic you are talking about

But still someone took notice. Anyway, the point is that Mohan was annoyed that Kastur would go and complain to her family about him.

About Mohan, Saroj and Kastur

1) Mohan has heard with his own ears what Saroj has told both him and Kastur

a) Kastur has taken her place in his life, and has made a place in her heart

b) Saroj tells Kastur to her face about her hate and that she will never accept Kastur

c) Saying that Kastur has done something to Mohan and has made him turn against her

d) All kinds of, you can never love him as I have, can and will.

2) From this there might be an argument that Mohan is possibly trying to assure Saroj, his mother, that he doesn't love Kastur, his wife. I don't think that's the case. But if it were the case, that's pretty effed up.

3) Leave aside what Mohan knows about Saroj and her hate, her thought process regarding Kastur. How demeaning is this for Kastur? Her mother in law knows Mohan married her for business and doesn't love her. And now her dear husband has informed his mother that he has told her that he doesn't love her. Kastur doesn't have to know Saroj knows. It's just absolutely humiliating. And if she does come to know, it's going to be such a horrible feeling.

4) But Mohan knows 1) and still does 3). On its own 3) is pretty damn bad, but it's aggravated to an even greater degree because of his of 1).

Is he thinking of any of this? Probably not. But he should have. See if Kastur had confided in anyone, i wouldn't have thought she was wrong at all. Mohan was at fault then, and again here she's not at fault. This is not something he should've told Saroj about.

But like I said, he expected her to treat it as a marriage back then even when he wasn't fully doing so. And he's done it again now.

Edited by likarsh - 13 years ago