Feel bad for J! Am I the only one? - Page 4

i do feel bad for J cuz this time she was tellin the truth... but i also feel bad for uday.. he thinks manyata didnt mistrust him... dont know how he'll feel wen he comes to know manyata decieved him now he''ll feel even more bad cuz he's falling in love with her..

Sibling rivalry is a fact of life. Even today when I talk to my mother about my sister, I say "your daughter" - each and every time. And this when the two of us have grown up together, went to the same school, had the same friend circle, even shopped and played truant together. So what J feels is nothing like the next Shakespearean tragedy. And she would be better off if she concentrated less on drama.

i feel bad for J, i dont think she is negative, i mean if i was in her place i would feel the same

Originally posted by: poulomi12

Okay before i begin, i wud say one thing that its not that i dont sympathize with her...but i also dont like her! She has 10% of my sympathy! And i will explain why...

i am dividing your post into different parts and try to highlight the Way i see it.

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Honestly how would you feel if you were in her place?

i already anwered that last day.😆

Would you hug ur long lost sister?

I dont expect J to Hug and kiss Manyata and accept her as a sister. These bonds will take time to develope. And with time it will improve. The main problem with their situation is that she had an earlier 'panga' with Manyata and so she hates her to the core cuz Manyata hit her ego.

Komal rubs it on Js face that Manyata was first for her.

I ask you, put yourself in Komal's place, a mother who lost her daughter for 16 years, and think through her POV. Any Mother would be very worried for her daughter...thinking every day and night every second, whether she is dead or alive, she is eating or not, what condition she is in? It would have been a different case if she was dead..then perhaps Komal wud fully concentrate on J...but with the hope that Manyata is still living makes her tell J that she is her second born.

But we can never say that Komal deprived J of her love...i never felt that she witheld any love for her 2nd daughter! In fact she she loved J more in order to close the hole in her heart given my Manyata's kidnapping.

It is J's selfishness that makes her think that her Mother doesnt love her. She has grown up with this insecurity... and i blame her mindset! When Uday dumped her on her Sagai...it was only Komal who came to pacify her and sympathize with her...but she didnot listen to her infact she shouted and insulted her!

If Komal was at fault, then DS would be a Criminal in her court,...she didnot oppose Uday or try to meet J and talk to her!

She maybe spoilt and harsh but it were the circumstances that forced her to become who she has..

Although much isnt said about that, but i guess, with a family always on the hope to get back their long lost daughter,...i dont blame anyone here, nor her, nor her family...i blame the situation!

Every parent gives their child good teachings, its upto us to love it or hate it or accept it or grow up with it, and J decided to reject it. But...

hasnt she enjoyed the spotlight for 16 years?

didnt she get everything a woman cud dream of, when her sister was growing up in slums?

She might be reminded of being secong in the family, but she did enjoy the privileges of a first born.

Honestly i dont find anyone ever loving her less...but yes they did remind her of her elder sis...its natural for the family!

Compassion for the gal who is some long lost princess who choses her 2day love over the family, who hurts every1s feelings, who is a brat. Manyata is not someone great but infact she is more annoying than J.

She might be more annoying than J behavior wise, but she is not a shrewd-plotter!

She wudnt do anything that is lethal...ahe wudnt try to always make J look bad in front of others,...whatever she does, she does to get back at J, for her evil ruthless plotting...and the Birthday fiasco was an example!

J didnot want to help Uday, she wanted to make Manyata fall in Uday's eyes, no not to tell the truth, but to harm her reputation,...so it bit her right back in her ass.

Its human nature we fight for what we want and yeah we protect ourselves.

what is she protecting herself from, Manyata is not lethal, she is always trying to harm her, so what Mnayata does is protecting herself!

Uday might be engaged to Manyata but J was the one who practically grew up with him. Marriage and engagements are two of the most important events of a gals life would u keep quiet if ur fiance ditched you, your family forgot about your existance on that day and went in search of ur sis.

If ayone is at fault on this its DS and Uday...but why isnt she angry over them?

Uday is the main culprit for her broken Sagai...so why did she forgive him? so easily?

Just becoz she turned up on the day of her sagai...means that she is the culprit?

Its not Manyata's fault that her sagai broke...its Uday's fault..if she has to take revenge from some one it should be Uday...but why does she blame Manyata for that?

is it really her fault?

So then why flirt with Uday? Why try to entice him?

isnt it becoz she is just more than jealous?

She cudnt offend DS cuz she wants to inherit the Devgarh estate,...snatch whatever she wants from Mantata! And she cudnt offend Uday cuz all she wants is to become a Maharani...and by making Manyata look bad in front of everyone, she wud get two things done for herself! All she has is selfish motives!

The joy on Js face when Komal gave her the bangle and was giving J as much importance as manyata. J is insecure and who in her place wouldnt be.. SHE NEVER HAD THE SPOTLIGHT MANYATA DID.

But then what did she say after Komal went away?

She said that she wud remove every trace of Manyata from her life... all she has always done is snatch stuff and not win/earn it!

She too has a heart and she too is afraid to be hurt. She too is fragile and she has feelings too.

dont know about the fragile part though!

But yes she has a heart and if she tried to truly love Uday, then it cud have been sympathetic...but it seems like she is hell bent on Snatching him, and being good in front of him rather than feeling it in her heart. I doubt she even has any feeling for Uday.

When she was crying today I felt bad for her.

Me too...cuz she was telling the truth.

Manyata does everything and escapes.

J also does stuff and escapes. its a different thing...she does stuff to frame Manyata and M does the stuff for herself without any evil intention.

Manyata sneaked out today and noone trusted J Think from Js POV.

Everyone knows J's behavior...and Uday know her scheming mind more than anything so... I dont blame him for not believing her.

But honestly, i felt bad that no one believed her...but she had it coming...

why?

there is a famous saying in Bengali,

"bish brikhho puthle katai petei hoye"..means if u plant a poisonous plant it will only give you thorns in return. J only tried to make Manyata look bad, her intentions were evil and selfish...not that she was in righteous path. When intentions are evil, outcomes are always in this way...

So on one hand i sympathize with her...then i also feel that if she stopped all this plotting and planning then perhaps, she would have done way better...everyone would have given her more preference!

P.S. there may be a lot of mistakes but ignore them...please...kiara..

Agreed with the points you made. I didn't get a chance to read all the pages but the only thing I wanted to add is that J has had 16 years to come to term that she is not going to inherit the throne nor is she to be Uday's wife. She has known for 16 years that should the day ever come that Manyata is found then those are her rights as 1st born in there family. In a royal family it is the first born that inherits the throne and considering that there were only 2 girls then that right fallsto the oldest (I am not including vijay in this as he is not their brother but cousin and I still don't know why the Dad does not inherit the throne before Manyata but that's for another story).
J was only engaged to Uday for a matter of days and yes she has always liked him, however she has known for 16 years that Uday was spoken for as was the throne. She should not blame Manayta and in fact if anyone is to blame for her broken engagement it is Uday. Manyata didn't even want the throne or Uday so why does she continuously blame Manyata? If it is a circumstance of birth that she did not get to inherit the throne (even though she wants it) then it is also just a circumstance of birth that Manyata did inherit even though she doesn't want it. There is absolutely no one to blame for that, it is just envy/jealousy that makes people blame others for circumstances beyond our control. Also even though J says she likes Uday she also said to Unnati when Unnati asked if she was happy to be marrying her bro she said something along the lines of she is going to enjoy being the queen of of Jaigarh.

So the sympathy on my end is very little at this particular time. If she grows up and stops her childishness to try and get Uday by making Manyata look bad (not saying that I think Monyia attitude is anything to write home about either) then maybe I'll be more sympathetic towards her but until then no.

i agree with u j had been second base and she never got the love which she deserved and thats the reason she hates manyata
i really do feel bad for her

Originally posted by: -SMay31-

i really felt bad for J...Shritama was really good 2day 👍🏼

Originally posted by: tiger_lily

@seema thats not the point and just because she didnot want to help manyata ditch her fiance and help escape to some party dosent give you a proper reason to hate her. We want manveer here but still

i never said that i hate or anyhn like dat..i said only i didnt feel bad for her in yestr episode bex she deserve that..and yeah i als felt bad for her engagement tutuna.!!!!i kw it was painful to evey gurl bt dont u kw if Engagement hogayatho wont it b unfaire to Manaytha too..she is lucky dat she doesnt remember anythn had happened wen she was child and she didnt have any kind of feelin for Uday..if she had a feelin for U and she had remembered evryn den it wont be unfaire M??how can her family knw dat she didnt remember anyth???after knw naa thy came to only..

not to forget UV manipulated here when she was happy to settel with Jagat ... but UV manipulated her for the estate.