Feel bad for J! Am I the only one?

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Posted: 13 years ago
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I feel bad for J! Am I the only one who feels bad for J?Honestly how would
you feel if you were in her
place?Would you hug ur long
lost sister?I know how it
feels, i mean it hurts alot..
Komal rubs it on Js face that
Manyata was first for her.
She maybe spoilt and harsh but
it were the circumstances that
forced her to become who
she has.. Compassion for the
gal who is some long lost
princess who choses her
2day love over the family,
who hurts every1s feelings,
who is a brat. Manyata is not
someone great but infact she
is more annoying than J. Its
human nature we fight for what
we want and yeah we protect
ourselves. Uday might be
engaged to Manyata but J was
the one who practically grew
up with him. Marriage and
engagements are two of the
most important events of a
gals life would u keep quiet
if ur fiance ditched you,
your family forgot about
your existance on that day
and went in search of ur sis.
The joy on Js face when
Komal gave her the bangle and
was giving J asmuch
importance as manyata. J is
insecure and who in her place
wouldnt be.. SHE NEVER HAD
THE SPOTLIGHT MANYATA DID.
We are thinking about ManVeer
think about J. She too has a heart and she too is afraid to be hurt. She too is fragile and she has feelings too. When she was crying today I felt bad for her. Manyata does everything and escapes.Manyata sneaked out today and noone trusted J.She is insecure, why wouldnt she be IT HAS ALWAYS BEEN MANYATA EVEN THOUGH SHE WAS NEVER THERE. It is like Manyata is always right when she is not. Most of us are girls and how do we react when something is snatched from us?When someone goes against us? When someone steals our boyfriend? We plot, plan and think about one thing R.E.V.E.N.G.E. J is no different she is just a hormonal teenager behind that mask of a princess/socialite. She is insecure of her position in the family because she never had one. She was always the second fiddle. The replacement for Manyata.Think from Js POV.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Okay before i begin, i wud say one thing that its not that i dont sympathize with her...but i also dont like her! She has 10% of my sympathy! And i will explain why...

i am dividing your post into different parts and try to highlight the Way i see it.
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Honestly how would you feel if you were in her place?

i already anwered that last day.😆

Would you hug ur long lost sister?

I dont expect J to Hug and kiss Manyata and accept her as a sister. These bonds will take time to develope. And with time it will improve. The main problem with their situation is that she had an earlier 'panga' with Manyata and so she hates her to the core cuz Manyata hit her ego.

Komal rubs it on Js face that Manyata was first for her.

I ask you, put yourself in Komal's place, a mother who lost her daughter for 16 years, and think through her POV. Any Mother would be very worried for her daughter...thinking every day and night every second, whether she is dead or alive, she is eating or not, what condition she is in? It would have been a different case if she was dead..then perhaps Komal wud fully concentrate on J...but with the hope that Manyata is still living makes her tell J that she is her second born.

But we can never say that Komal deprived J of her love...i never felt that she witheld any love for her 2nd daughter! In fact she she loved J more in order to close the hole in her heart given my Manyata's kidnapping.

It is J's selfishness that makes her think that her Mother doesnt love her. She has grown up with this insecurity... and i blame her mindset! When Uday dumped her on her Sagai...it was only Komal who came to pacify her and sympathize with her...but she didnot listen to her infact she shouted and insulted her!

If Komal was at fault, then DS would be a Criminal in her court,...she didnot oppose Uday or try to meet J and talk to her!

She maybe spoilt and harsh but it were the circumstances that forced her to become who she has..

Although much isnt said about that, but i guess, with a family always on the hope to get back their long lost daughter,...i dont blame anyone here, nor her, nor her family...i blame the situation!
Every parent gives their child good teachings, its upto us to love it or hate it or accept it or grow up with it, and J decided to reject it. But...

hasnt she enjoyed the spotlight for 16 years?

didnt she get everything a woman cud dream of, when her sister was growing up in slums?

She might be reminded of being secong in the family, but she did enjoy the privileges of a first born.

Honestly i dont find anyone ever loving her less...but yes they did remind her of her elder sis...its natural for the family!


Compassion for the gal who is some long lost princess who choses her 2day love over the family, who hurts every1s feelings, who is a brat. Manyata is not someone great but infact she is more annoying than J.

She might be more annoying than J behavior wise, but she is not a shrewd-plotter!
She wudnt do anything that is lethal...ahe wudnt try to always make J look bad in front of others,...whatever she does, she does to get back at J, for her evil ruthless plotting...and the Birthday fiasco was an example!

J didnot want to help Uday, she wanted to make Manyata fall in Uday's eyes, no not to tell the truth, but to harm her reputation,...so it bit her right back in her ass.

Its human nature we fight for what we want and yeah we protect ourselves.

what is she protecting herself from, Manyata is not lethal, she is always trying to harm her, so what Mnayata does is protecting herself!

Uday might be engaged to Manyata but J was the one who practically grew up with him. Marriage and engagements are two of the most important events of a gals life would u keep quiet if ur fiance ditched you, your family forgot about your existance on that day and went in search of ur sis.

If ayone is at fault on this its DS and Uday...but why isnt she angry over them?

Uday is the main culprit for her broken Sagai...so why did she forgive him? so easily?

Just becoz she turned up on the day of her sagai...means that she is the culprit?
Its not Manyata's fault that her sagai broke...its Uday's fault..if she has to take revenge from some one it should be Uday...but why does she blame Manyata for that?

is it really her fault?

So then why flirt with Uday? Why try to entice him?

isnt it becoz she is just more than jealous?

She cudnt offend DS cuz she wants to inherit the Devgarh estate,...snatch whatever she wants from Mantata! And she cudnt offend Uday cuz all she wants is to become a Maharani...and by making Manyata look bad in front of everyone, she wud get two things done for herself! All she has is selfish motives!

The joy on Js face when Komal gave her the bangle and was giving J as much importance as manyata. J is insecure and who in her place wouldnt be.. SHE NEVER HAD THE SPOTLIGHT MANYATA DID.

But then what did she say after Komal went away?
She said that she wud remove every trace of Manyata from her life... all she has always done is snatch stuff and not win/earn it!

She too has a heart and she too is afraid to be hurt. She too is fragile and she has feelings too.


dont know about the fragile part though!

But yes she has a heart and if she tried to truly love Uday, then it cud have been sympathetic...but it seems like she is hell bent on Snatching him, and being good in front of him rather than feeling it in her heart. I doubt she even has any feeling for Uday.

When she was crying today I felt bad for her.

Me too...cuz she was telling the truth.

Manyata does everything and escapes.

J also does stuff and escapes. its a different thing...she does stuff to frame Manyata and M does the stuff for herself without any evil intention.

Manyata sneaked out today and noone trusted J Think from Js POV.

Everyone knows J's behavior...and Uday know her scheming mind more than anything so... I dont blame him for not believing her.

But honestly, i felt bad that no one believed her...but she had it coming...
why?
there is a famous saying in Bengali,
"bish brikhho puthle katai petei hoye"..means if u plant a poisonous plant it will only give you thorns in return. J only tried to make Manyata look bad, her intentions were evil and selfish...not that she was in righteous path. When intentions are evil, outcomes are always in this way...

So on one hand i sympathize with her...then i also feel that if she stopped all this plotting and planning then perhaps, she would have done way better...everyone would have given her more preference!


P.S. there may be a lot of mistakes but ignore them...please...kiara..
Edited by poulomi12 - 13 years ago
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Posted: 13 years ago
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me too... feel really bad for her! plus M really needs to stop wat shes doin, she gonna hurt a LOT o ppl...
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Posted: 13 years ago
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I was also feeling bad for J, poor thing.
Posted: 13 years ago
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i agree with u..
feel bad for J...

i feel she is lonely child...after manyata was lost..jay was everything for the family..and within days she feels, she was nomore loved..it definately hurts..
she accepted everything came her way..but emotions cannot be controlled..!!

her loneliness and insecurities are coming in form of jealousy..

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Posted: 13 years ago
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I agree that J's family has some fault in thinking about Manyata for the past 16 years. But look, J was never neglected. She herself, sidelined her importance by constantly trying & wanting to be Manyata. She never tried to be herself.
And coming to what Uday did to her today, she deserved it. I agree that she was telling the truth & i sympathize with her for that, but look at the larger picture. She was the one who started these games with Manyata first. So, her karma came back to haunt her. The same way, Manyata will also have to pay for the deceit she did with UV.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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you are not alone..

actually, she is more bearable than manyata
its not her fault that she is like this
she was always the one who suffered her whole life cos of being 2nd in the family...nobody gave a damn about her feelings and that's the reason for the poison with in her n now they are blaming her
a child learns from his/her environment and the way she was being treated by her family she is now treating them and they are feeling bad now...
Edited by muskaan. - 13 years ago
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Posted: 13 years ago
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i agree with you on the part how it feel that if someone ditched you on the engagement yaar if they wud have been any other girl she would feel the same too but she is the 1 dat make Manyata run away so she get it back on her own self ... so they is a saying in Hindi jaisi karni waisi bharni so yh i sympathized with her on the engagement one but not the 1 which she let Manyata run away she shouldn't have done that...
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Posted: 13 years ago
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I totaly agree J was treated bad ... she is not bad she is a how any normal rich kid wld be . I totaly sympathyse with her .
Manyta is the cheating one .
J is just fine .
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Posted: 13 years ago
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@muskan a child learns from his or her family. J was ignored as a kid and Komal rubs it in her face reminding her. And then the family expect her to be perfect. Losing ur eldest child can be difficult my parents lost a child too but as a kid they never neglected me. I was not reminded of my brother cause i barely knew him. My parents were there for me. J her parents didnot care it was always Manyata. As if it was jays fault she was born into the family late. J doesnot want to be manyata but she strives to be the perfect daughter to her family.. And now she is losing the little respect and love too all because of Manyata and her fakeness. Dont blame me but from the recent events I cant stand Manyata. ManVeer yeah.. Manyata alone noo..

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