hitting your child.

we all hav probably been spanked before, or slapped by our parents, but sometimes parents that mean well for their children often end up abusing them without even knowing it. So should hitting your child b prohibited in india? Is prohibiting hitting your child the only solution so that children in homes do not get abused?

Good topic , In the U.S you can't even touch your kid , forget spanking him .You yell at your kid and your kid shouts back that i am going to call 911 .
I do feel thats just taking it too far . While in India kids are abused to such a horrifying extent some times and worse is that people believe thats its a family issue and should be left that way . Both these are two extremes .

There has to be a mid path between these two societies attitude. You should be able to disclipine your kid using stern measures , but not to the extent that you are scarring the child emotionally or physically.

But the problem is setting guidelines , if you do allow spanking , do you know when you are taking it too far ? Most people can't figure that out !!

Well said indygirl! It can be extremes in both the countries. However, completly taking away the right to spank your kid is not right either because as you might have already experienced little kids tend to be very stubborn. Most little children don't even understand why you are telling them to do wat you are..the kids don't know that the parents are telling them for their own good. So, spanking is the way to keep them from doing anything dangerous and obeying you.

I think a normal parent who cares for his child would know where to draw the line since even they wouldn't be happy to hit their child. The abuses usually occur when its not their own child, or when it is an unwanted child. The government in US thinks the only way to reduce this child abuse is by having them call 911 the moment anyone touches them but does that stop child abuse in US? no..therefore, its unfortunatley not exactly the solution to the problem. 😔

my parents have never hit me.

i think hitting ur child get's nowhere. i mean your child probably will hate u after that.

Well i dun think hitting solves anything buh kids shud be punished so they know they were wrong

Y parents hit children? 1) To correct the child stubbornness with fear 2) To guide them with some discipline so they wont repeat the same 3) They were beaten up by their parents so they follow the same. My opinion is when kids are small, thy don't know what is rite and wrong. So, parents who brought them to the world play important roles. The children's stubbornness, + or - character results from their parents themselves. I mean from their parents genes 😊 So, if hitting children is solution then is harsh way. Kids can be guided with positive attitude. Give them compliments over their achievement, give them encouragement, correct them in mild tone when they do wrong as and whn they are still ypung. By being their friends, we can see much difference. Psychologically, positive attitude parents create positive attitude children when the baby in the womb itself. So hitting is not a solutions for kids wrong doing.

i think its absolutely wrong to hit children...its a sign of weak and poor parenting...if parent(s) r going to abuse their children why bring them into the world and treat them as unwanted coz at the end of the day they r innocent they do not know wats happenin in the real world until they grow up n reach to dat certain age...

Originally posted by: deepti4u

i think its absolutely wrong to hit children...its a sign of weak and poor parenting...if parent(s) r going to abuse their children why bring them into the world and treat them as unwanted coz at the end of the day they r innocent they do not know wats happenin in the real world until they grow up n reach to dat certain age...

Oh no !!! I beg to differ !! I was a school teacher , i taught KG and Class 1 for a while in a very rich school !! There were some kids who were so spoilt that it was tempting to spank them ( Though we weren't even allowed to touch the kid ................so it was out of the question ) . There were these International kids - 7 year old, Korean Boys , who were embassy kids . I tell you , they were so badly behaved , forget listening to a teacher , they spat at you if you tried to disclipine them in some way . They had ADHD and wouldn't sit for a minute , they would climb desks and bars on the window when the class was n session . You couldn't do time out with them , as they wouldn't listen . You couldn't make them stand outside the classroom ( like it happened to us in school) , because they would go to the play ground . How many times could i send them to the principal ???
In PTA whenever you spoke to the parent , you had to mince your words and tell them that they were active kids that need to be kept busy . Their parents had such a terrible - defensive attitude !! Couldn't do anything !! Just had to wait it out to send them to next class next year . NOW such kids deserved to be disclipined at home , maybe a little slap may have helped from their parent .
You need to be a parent OR a teacher to realise how tough it is raise kids right !! Not all kids need TLC................. Tough Love and Care .......some just need Tender Love and Care !! Its different with every child !!

I totally agree with Uma... also, but I would like to know when you give your openion please indicate if you have a child or not..that would be helpful. 'coz trust me when i was teen when i see my chachi or neighbout spanking (not hitting) their child i was thinking what monstor mother is she and now i am a mother and with work, house chores, child tantrums trust me you can loose your mind so easily....when you play with your child for 3 hrs then your husband play with that child for another 3 hrs and you start cooking and child throw tantrums that someone play with me and cry on constantly cry to get your attention trust me you can easily loose it....just my personal experience...though i strongly believe that its not good to spank your child for small small issues..i've read this somewhere which is so true, but hard to follow-

"Don't fear that your child does not listen to you,
Fear that he is observing you"...trust me they pick up your actions/words so fast that sometime if you spank them they think its ok to do so which is not good...but again, world of parenting is not that easy afterall. 😉