Females Working After Marriage... - Page 6

Originally posted by: mermaid_QT

I value your judgement as your POV QWERT.. but imo, it is the heart qwerty that lifts a child..

it is as tender..

in fact, an accomplished woman has a different level of confidence and better understanding of the the outside world that kids will be a part of.

Although not 100% but to a great extent I would agree an intelligent Mom does a better job with kids...Sure...Its just that working woman generally have their temperaments altered due to daily stress and at the end of a long tiring day you cant expect them to be creative in any way whatsoever...😊.. but then again it might be different on case by case basis...Men generally carry that extra strength typically and can come and play cricket with the kids.even after a tiring day due to sheer stamina. I havent seen many tired moms do something similar...and there are always exceptions..

Originally posted by: Maya_M

A child doesn't care if mother smells of sweat from all the work or she smells of Gucci. Her husband might😛.

It is not about quantity of time but the quality time spend with a mother which is valuable. Just because a child starts going to school and spends more time with the teacher doesn't mean that now she means more to him than the mother.

No its not how much and how long. It should be happy, healthy and being around all the time mom.. Quality time comes much later.. and btw how exactly that come to play in case she works on a site...😊...

@ smelling part i mean does the child have an option

and I like Raksha's point that work takes you away from the family...😊

Originally posted by: raksha.l

I for one - don't like the idea of the 'job' itself..So doesn't matter, man or woman- job takes you away from your family.. 😊

What if both man and woman of the house doesn't like the idea of 'job'? Now for survival obviously someone in the house has to work. Don't you think a man in that case is forced to work and woman have choice to be at home or work outside. Isn't that unfair? I remember I made a post on this long time back.

Originally posted by: qwertyesque

Although not 100% but to a great extent I would agree an intelligent Mom does a better job with kids...Sure...Its just that working woman generally have their temperaments altered due to daily stress and at the end of a long tiring day you cant expect them to be creative in any way whatsoever...😊.. but then again it might be different on case by case basis...Men generally carry that extra strength typically and can come and play cricket with the kids.even after a tiring day due to sheer stamina. I havent seen many tired moms do something similar...and there are always exceptions..

Originally posted by: *Meg_d*

Excuse me??? irrelevant, this book is not irrelevant, maybe you should go and find out what the Bhagwat Gita is about before commenting on it like this. Its a holy book of the hindus and every hindu worships it, find out what that book is about before commenting like such

ok, I will accept its relevance on this topic if you can show me in Bhagwad Gita

1. where He(Bhagwaan Krishna) cites best practices of running a household when a woman of the household is working

2. When in divorce case what is the best practice

3. In case of divorce what is the responsibility each of the parent

prove it!!

Ratta marke Bhagwad Gita can be cited by any tom dick and harry, you should see the relevance and then cite the book

Bhagwad Gita was written when Hindu society was divided, Khstriya, Brahmin, etc, etc, Men/Women had assigned roles, Men of earning/Women of running the home, baring exceptions.

Times have changed, there is no more of the system, men and women work, the book does not account for that, the book does not account for divorce

so if it does not account for that, citing in a debate is irrelevant meaning the book has no relevance here

In Mahabharata the answer for the thought is proved Palne wala bada ya paida karne wala bada, so if the father understands the child better he should/will stay with the Father(totally contradicts your quote about Gita) but you would have figured it out if you would understood it and not just rattofied it😉

If you want to feel hurt by someone commenting on a religious book, dont cite it, better understand it and then cite it😉 and in a Debate there is no place for

Originally posted by: raksha.l

My post might come as a surprise to you QT, but why is that for a woman(or anybody else for that matter) to have a better understanding of the outside world, she needs to work???

I for one - don't like the idea of the 'job' itself..So doesn't matter, man or woman- job takes you away from your family.. 😊

Originally posted by: guess_gallery

Hi Guys,

Just want to ask few questions...

1) After a child is born who will have more responsibility father /mother? Of course both of them will have an equal responsibility.😊

(a)Answer in every ones mind will pop up is both. But, when parents get divorce or separated why mothers are given first preference for child stay??

Well i guess it's becuase we're talking about the mother here and she's the one that takes care of the child more in most cases. Usually the father goes off to work leaving the child with its mother.😳

(b) Is mother having more responsibility towards her child coz she spends more time, because father might be working abroad or going office from 9-4 job etc

Yes that's exactly what i said above ^^.😊

(c)Should females quit there job after giving birth to a baby so that they can give there own teaching and values( and can spend quality time with them as every one want to see there child grow)

No i don't think it's necessary for females to quit their jobs in order to teach their children but like here in Canada the women get a maternity leave so that they can teach their kids some things and watch them grow. Although this is not for 2-3 years, you can still spend quality time with your kids, watch them grow and also i think get 60% of the money you use to get when you worked.😊

(d)Is it right that babies are given to Grand parents for the take care? As parents step out to work.(cant mother be in home and see there own child)

No, i think that you should take care of your own child.😳 Grandparents already did that when bringing you up so why make them do it again..also you can also see your own child and spend time together if you yourself take care of the child. Though some parents are in need of money so they decide to go back to work and leave their children with their parents.

Note:- females who need to work to run there family because husbands income is not sufficient for the family is optional but I am talking about those girls who work because they have simply studied and even though if they don't work there home can easily run by husbands income.

Cheers,

Ahmed

Originally posted by: qwertyesque

Although not 100% but to a great extent I would agree an intelligent Mom does a better job with kids...Sure...Its just that working woman generally have their temperaments altered due to daily stress and at the end of a long tiring day you cant expect them to be creative in any way whatsoever...😊.. but then again it might be different on case by case basis...Men generally carry that extra strength typically and can come and play cricket with the kids.even after a tiring day due to sheer stamina. I havent seen many tired moms do something similar...and there are always exceptions..

Originally posted by: *Meg_d*

😆 😆 this is too funny, men can do two things at once, even if they are stressed out at the end of the day they can be nice to kids but woman cant 😕 Wow some of us dont know the power of a woman especially a Mother. A mother doesnt have to be tired to love their child. A mother doesnt have to smell nice or have soft hands for the baby to feel affetionist against its mother. The child is a part of the mother. I think saying men are better then woman is a sterotype. It depends on the individual some parents have great energy levels and some dont, so we can examine someone as a individual instead of a woman or man...

I agree with you Meg.😊..Today's women go side by side with men.😊 Never underestimate the power of a women..like in my sig.😛