Feminist until you get married ? - Page 15

Originally posted by: Fool.moon

Yes he was.

Heard of ram rahim, nirmal baba, ramdas etc? 😆

There was another fraud baba with hindu name got caught recently turned out to be a Muslim guy.

And btw, he died in Briton. And they honored him even after his death for his services like how they do for all their pets😆😆

Originally posted by: Charaiveti

Rural area max do. In urban areas too those who don't in some cases HV a pissed off in lae due to that😆 I have a neighborhood uncle who comes to our house n complains my daughter in law doesn't put sindoor ye ajkal ki ladkiya. My dad says dada ap hi pahen love na if u like it so much😆

But max girls in our generation don't wear it now I think. I just want everyone to HV a choice. That they won't face any consequences if they don't do it. Baki Dena na Dena apni marzi

Originally posted by: NimbuMirchi

Nah. Not in rural have I seen Sindoor regularly. I see some women wearing it now coz of style statement.. thanks to TV serials. But growing up i never saw.

Bindi -- some women do. Not regularly though. But functions n marriages, I have seen.

Chuda -- we do not have in our culture. We have bangles, But most ladies wear them on with Sarees during festivals or functions or poojas. daily days, ladies have single piece of gold bangle. it's again a style statement. Dekho.. meri tumhari bangle se jyada heavy kinda thing. 😆

About your neighboring uncle -- He is just complaining or is he making it compulsory for DIL to wear it? Coz complaining toh is normal. Saas-sasur-bahu always complain about each other. Also, rarely have I seen someone getting forced for sindoor, chuda stuff.

Ghunghat -- Women are forced to wear it in some rural areas. But unless you (By you I mean anyone who is complaining) go to these rural areas and educate people about it.. make a change, it's futile to shout it out on internet. Coz these orthodox old men and women aren't on Internet.

Originally posted by: flipfl0p

But in the case case of Sindhoor, Mangal Sutra what exactly is "Religious Freedom" conflicting with? If an educated Indian woman finds anything is obstructing her freedom, she does not hesitate to change it. Earlier in south India, Saree was the compulsory dress for women. Now it mainly stays for occasion. They found Salwar and Jeans more convenient. Which feminist brought this change? If the same women go for Bindi, is that patriarchal? A person who could modify her dress code was not capable of throwing her bindi? They find it good on their face. It is not inconvenient. They do it. (Sindhoor culture is not present in south. Bindi is worn by unmarried/married both. But widows were not wearing it earlier.

Again there is change in that culture now. Since last decade, most women who get widowed are continuing to wear bindi. This is a welcome change. Again no feminist was involved. Changes come within, silently).

If one condemn the new age socialite feminism, that does not imply one is ignoring the hard works of Ram Mohan Roy or Ishwar Chandra Vidyasagar.

Originally posted by: Charaiveti

I do think mundane small matters of misogyny should be called out too,but the grave issues should be too n in more percentage. Many concentrate on smaller issues that too on social media cz that makes them look progressive, forget talking about graver issues they don't even take action in life to rectify the smaller issues.

About that uncle,well he keeps taunting her in front of people n says stuff about her to random people behind her back which is wrong Imo. Luckily she doesn't give him much attention but you can tell he dislikes n doesn't even hide it in front of people.

She is bindass though n doesn't let him affect her

Originally posted by: Fairy_KimBokJoo

Choices aren't made in void. Choice feminists always whine about right to choose from their elitist place while refusing to understand that some choices are inherently patriarchal and there is nothing empowering about them! You can imagine yourself to be "empowered" by covering up or wearing sindoor but these choices aren't feminist choices. They have patriarchal undertones in them! This context-less popularized version of liberal feminism is what has ruined the ideology of feminism! Feminism is a movement, a set of principles. You aren't a feminist by the virtue of your gender, your choices aren't feminist just because you're a woman and liberal feminism says so!