Uncle!!! Aunty!!! Bhayya!!! Didi!! - Page 3

Originally posted by: mermaid_QT

Quite frankly, I never realized "the adressing by relation" was so common in our south asian region! You are right.
My opinion-

1) adressing vendors/other people providing similar service / being adressed by them - it just a feeling of faith (no cheating either way), and bonding to keep the exchange/ business long term.

2) strangers on road - sense of respect and responsibility not to hurt someone by adressing any other way/ a way not to scare them off..

3) friends on forums / chat rooms - BONDING, so get to know age, pick and choose a relation.. it gives an amazing sense of family and builds better relationships indeed (our JJKN family is a great example of that. Some may scornfully say that all of us need to get a life, but we would disagree 😃)

4) However, hypocritically, I do think that muh bole bhaiyaa / behen and the whole concept of tieing rakhi to TDH is overrated. I agree that I have observed such relationships in good light. It is just something impossible for me.

5) friend's parents, parents's friends / neighbours - I really treat them at par with real uncles/ aunts. Finally, an Indian can actually have so many uncles / aunts, that using the term losely won't hurt any feelings! it just may please some in fact, so why not?

Mythili, ever since I am the aunt of a darling nephew, I juts love being called aunty. Ofcourse I am 33, not 24 so I know where ur tears and anger is coming from 😆 😆

Have any of ur dis / little sisters / brothers 😉 signed ur uncle abhijit's list yet saying it was funny?? or "Rishta kagaz ka " and that's it 😭 😉 😉

QT 😆😆 DI

I agree you Subha di!!Here bahut sare NRI uncles and Aunties don't agree these fact.Let us enlighten them😆

Originally posted by: kabhi_21

Now... this is the only forum where such debate can come 😆

In South Asian countries, normally
1. The person with age gap of 15-20 yrs and above becomes Uncle - Aunty
2. The person with Age gap of 3-15 years become Da, di or Ji
3. Regarding the Bhaji vendor, or a shopkeeper, normally we call bhaiyaa, bai, di, aunty because we dont know the name... or we join this to their name if we know the name, tht is because of the society we are living in.....

If u call someone by name here, it means u r very good friends.... while in US u call someone with name instantly while meeting and people dont take u to be close friends only because u call each other by name....

It becomes difficult to approach ladies with name directly considering that most of the area in India or south asia is not westernised to that level....

For my example.... one of my childhood friends, when she went to the same college as me in 11th std and I approached her, she fearingly made me bola hua brother that year rakhi 😆 so its the mindset of the society and fear of society that makes this relations

I agree with you Abhijit Bhai😆!! Everything is in mindset.But do take care that Amrita does'nt call you Bhai.

Originally posted by: TallyHo

I think it is just an Indian tradition not addressing strangers and elders by their name...

I think it is a sweet tradition...however it would be sweeter if the universal and borrowed from English terms " Aunty and "uncle" were replaced by more Indian and traditional forms of address...
" bhai", "bhabhi" "didi" " akka" etc etc...

Dr Ashuji!!

Well said!!!

Originally posted by: mythili_Kiran

I agree with you Abhijit Bhai😆!! Everything is in mindset.But do take care that Amrita does'nt call you Bhai.

😆 no.... Amrita mujhe kabhi bhai nahi banayegi😉

Waise jis ladki ke bareme mene baat ki uspar cruch wagaira nahi tha mera so i did nt object becoming bhai😆

but why u calling me bhai.... IF society allows calling by names😉

Originally posted by: kabhi_21

😆 no.... Amrita mujhe kabhi bhai nahi banayegi😉

Waise jis ladki ke bareme mene baat ki uspar cruch wagaira nahi tha mera so i did nt object becoming bhai😆

but why u calling me bhai.... IF society allows calling by names😉

In my school I was Educational Minister and so I used to read the pledge everyday and all used to repeat the words after me.

Do you remember the pledge

"India is my country.All Indians are my brothers and sisters..."

Old habits diehard.

Originally posted by: mythili_Kiran

In my school I was Educational Minister and so I used to read the pledge everyday and all used to repeat the words after me.

Do you remember the pledge

"India is my country.All Indians are my brothers and sisters..."

Old habits diehard.

😆

they do surely😆.... but we had the marathi version of the same.... which we used to say at teh start of day in schools😃

Every pledge has its own modifications and I never beleive in pledges.

Now Moderator Aunty or Dr Uncle will ban me for spamming

LOL Mythili,
This is slightly off-topic, bu yet about the addressing issue.

In spring of 2003, I was visiting India, while US was getting ready to attack Iraq. I used to watch local news (which happened to be Hindi)
The news anchor said "Choonki UN kaa yeh maan-naa hai, ke Abhee bhee Saddam SAAB se baatein karke masla paayaa jaa sakta hai, Bush SAAB apna nirnay le chuke hai, lagta hai ke war (not yudhh 😉 ) hokar rahegee"

I was shocked with the use of SAAB. I think that one term is also used in a lose manner. I immediately wondered whether about 9/11, the news read.. "BinLadin Saab 🤢🤢 ne... blah blah.. "

Why are all the above mentioned 3 people, each with a questionable behaviour the news-anchor's BOSSES? 😆 😆. Some people don't deserve a certain respect because of their deeds. Why the unnecessary display of it? 😕

subha

Originally posted by: mythili_Kiran

Now Moderator Aunty or Dr Uncle will ban me for spamming

mythili? 😳

Originally posted by: kabhi_21

😆

they do surely😆.... but we had the marathi version of the same.... which we used to say at teh start of day in schools😃

Smart boys in my class made an amendment to that by saying
"All Indians are my brothers and HIS sisters"- pointing at someone else

😉

Luckily, Abhi Kulkarni, the marathi version says "Saare Bhaarateeya Maaze Bandhav aahet." did it say bhagini also?? I forgot! I think it was easier on men!😆, else amrita rao and kissy-ash would become ur sisters.. 😉

subhagya