Originally posted by: guess_gallery
1) Can a friendship made in forum can last long?
Friendship is entirely dependent on the persons in the relationship. Be it on forum, be it in real life, be it in school/ college/ office, if the two parties to the relationship decide to make it work, it will last and last for however long they want it to last or however long they nurture it.
Forum is different from real life in only this respect that on the forum, we dont see thier face , we dont touch their hands, we dont hug them personally, which we do in real life. But dont we do those things virtually? When a forum friend is sad, dont we cry, when a friend is upset, dont we hug them on IM or forum? Are those fake? If the intentions behind it is fake, then they are fake, but where the intention behind it is very genuine, and you mean every thing you write, you mean every hug you send on IM or forum, then it is as genuine as real.
I have some wonderful friends on the forum, who are not just virtual friends. They are a part of my life, they are an integral part of my existence. No day begins or ends without talking to them, or speaking to them on phone/ chat/ forum. I am far more close to some of my forum friends than I am to some real life ones too.... and their being a virtual friend has made no difference to my feelings.
2) I have seen many in forum they will count some one so closely so friendly, but again may be with some misconception they will not even take there name in friendship list, why??? Was it not a true friendship?
Is this only in virtual relationship or do these things happen in real life as well. How many times in college did we hear from a third friend that xyz said something about you, that hurt you, in the rush of emotions, you go and fight with that person and break it off. Do we stop to think that the other friend may not have said that at all. Why do we distinguish between different friends or shoud I say why are there different categories of friends. Some friends, you will believe anything you hear about them, but there are some friends, which, whatever happens, you trust so much that you know they will never back stab you. This trust is common both in virtual and in real life. For me, forum friendship, today, is as good as a real life friendship, because of my friends, who made that extra effort to break the barrier of the internet.
3) Quite recently in forum an argument occurred in particular section. They were good friends but in one case there views were not matching and they left the friendship.. why???? Is friendship so easy to break and move on???
Any friendship, as I said above, is entirely upto the set of friends. In this very forum itself, there is one person whose views have always been dimetrically opposite mine. We have always stood on opposite side of the fences when it came to issues, we have fought bitterly, we have had our share of heart aches, but that has always been only on issue related and it has not and hopefully will never affect our friendship. But yes, there have also been friends who have fought on forum or other related issues and have allowed the friendship to wither away. The issue was trivial, but the ego of the two friends or whatever it is which stood in the way of friendship was so big that the issue got sidelined and the friendship suffered. At the end of the day, it is upto us to decide the fate of our friendships.
I don't know how others treat this forum but I personally feel if I have some problem and if I tell them they are ready to help me however they can. Even he/she is in Canada, USA, UK or even Norway… they are always there.
Friendship not only in forum but an over all look..
Relation of love
4) So, why a simple misunderstanding breaks a relation love? Can we feel ego comes in?
Yes. More often than not, it is the bruised ego which speaks than a bruised heart. Man is far more resilent when it comes to matters of heart and less resilent on matters of ego.
5) Relation of wife and husband, (I don't want to include the topic extra martial affair coz that is not the only thing a relation breaks) so excluding that thing why they get separate. when trust is there for so long time may be they are married for 4-5 years so the 5 year trust is simply broken in a minute and they first thing comes in mind is ok that's it we cant be together now,why?
It is the lack of will to fight for something you believe in. It is lack of conviction and belief. If the man or woman was good enough to trust and marry five years back, how have the circumstances changed during the period, that you suddenly find a lack of trust. When you get married without conviction or for reasons besides trust and love and the need and desire to get married, it was never a relation based on trust, so the question on trust breaking is really incidental. Man/ Woman finds it a convenient excuse to blame failing relationships on lack of trust, when the real answers lie elsewhere. The real answers prick their concience and possibly thats why they will always be pushed under the carpet and the "Trust" is given full importance.
Some one from forum said me few words which I cant forget…."In a relation many problems can come but it should not effect the amt of love for each other. Unless trust is broken other things should not at all matter. Views may differ but it cannot be a reason for relation break up…"
Beautiful words 👏 particularly the words made bigger font. I endorse the view whole heartedly.
Need your views…
can treat text in purple as questions...
Cheers,
Ahmed
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