Is suicide the only solution to any problem?

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Is suicide the only solution to any problem or its a run away means? a lady committed suicide in my neighbourhood leaving her two kids behind just now. Her kids are young . I don't know what to say but I m really feeling bad for her kids..They are too young..
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Posted: 10 years ago
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A lot of people I know tell me how suicide is unacceptable, come what may. Somehow, I don't feel the same way. Although, I do agree with them when they say that when you're responsible of others, chickening out is just the worst thing you can do. The lady in your neighborhood orphaned her kids. She should have gone on for her children. But even so, we don't know her reasons, if she tried to stay for her children etc. All we can now hope is that the children grow up just fine, because normal is not an option for them anymore.


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Posted: 10 years ago
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Originally posted by: samridhigoodiez

Is suicide the only solution to any problem or its a run away means?

It can never be the only solution, as theoretically the other alternative (to live) will always exist, as the person is essentially choosing between living and dying.

Is it a means to run away? I'll say yes, because when given an option between continuing or quitting, the person is choosing to quit.

I'm more intrigued by why people think suicide is wrong. There were and still are laws in some countries against suicide, and I find it strange that an individual will be denied the right over his own life.
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Posted: 10 years ago
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Originally posted by: samridhigoodiez

Is suicide the only solution to any problem or its a run away means? a lady committed suicide in my neighbourhood leaving her two kids behind just now. Her kids are young . I don't know what to say but I m really feeling bad for her kids..They are too young..

If any person is very depressed or boycotted by society or or cant able to face any problem then Sucide seems to be perfect solution of the problem .But truth is that sucide is not perfect solution of any problem. A pesons sucide affects your dear one life it makes them depressed also or due to his/her sucide his Parients,Childrens, Husband /Wife Life may become worse then hell . 😊
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This is an important topic. It is definitely a truth that suicide is not the solution to any problem. But then why people are driven to suicide? When a person finds everyone who are the closest relations are mean and unloving and cruel to her, she will definitely find herself totally pained. How many people let her talk freely, be with her, console her and comfort her. Most of the persons will give sermons and advice to her and when they sermonize she will only be more pained. An important God's law is, everyone has care, compassion, gentleness, tenderness and understanding within him/her and they have to develop these qualities within them and radiate these qualities to others. The lady in the neighborhood surely had no one to care for her and no one who was compassionate, gentle, tender and understanding to her. And so she took this extreme step.

All said and done, why people say suicide is wrong. That lady definitely could have made made the choice of fighting out in the life having faith in God. While people in the World could be cruel to others, God is not so. In fact God is willing to help everyone who called for help. Madame Curie and Abraham Lincoln also made suicide attempts. What would have happened if they had committed suicide when they believed suicide was the only solution for the hostile ways of the World? This lady also had the same potential as these persons. While I may not be able to prevent anyone's suicide, I will try to make someone happy everyday by being kind, gentle and tender to someone. If everyone understands this simple point, there will be no suicide.
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Maha2US, in every post of yours you keep repeating that people should be tender, gentle, loving , compassionate , caring and understanding but the problem is that most people find that they cannot be that. Any solution for that?
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Zorro, It is true many people don't develop the qualities of being caring, compassionate, gentle and tender and understanding. If anyone likes to develop these qualities, the only way is that person has to be interested in developing these qualities. Unfortunately many people don't have this type of interest. Myself or yourself or God can't force anyone to develop these qualities. Only the willingness of the person counts. We can see what is the result also because of this type of situation. There are suicides, murders, robberies and other crimes. And the Earth has become such that there is a lot of environmental imbalance.
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Originally posted by: maha2us

Zorro, It is true many people don't develop the qualities of being caring, compassionate, gentle and tender and understanding. If anyone likes to develop these qualities, the only way is that person has to be interested in developing these qualities. Unfortunately many people don't have this type of interest. Myself or yourself or God can't force anyone to develop these qualities. Only the willingness of the person counts. We can see what is the result also because of this type of situation. There are suicides, murders, robberies and other crimes. And the Earth has become such that there is a lot of environmental imbalance.

Any good reason why a person would be interested in wanting to develop these qualities?
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Looks like suicides are happening due to a variety of reasons in India:
(Reuters) - Pinki Chauhan, a straight-A physics and maths student, arrived at her university campus in India shortly after breakfast, poured petrol over her wispy frame and lit a match.The 19-year-old ran screaming across the college grounds in Gurgaon, near the capital New Delhi, before falling to her knees in flames outside the principal's office. She died a few days later.

Her brother, Arun, said the incident a couple of months ago came after Pinki had been upset after receiving zero marks in an exam, and had been arguing with teachers for her paper to be re-marked.

But Pinki's problems ran much deeper. Highly ambitious, she was anxious she wouldn't fulfill her dreams. At the same time she'd been under pressure from some family members to follow a more traditional route - to marry and settle down.

"She didn't know what else to do," Arun said. "She put a lot of pressure on herself."

Pinki's story is emblematic of problems confronting India's young, in a society impatient for progress and yet underprepared for the challenges that inevitably accompany modernity.

Cultural issues, discrimination, parental pressure and competition for highly paid jobs are combining to create a suicide epidemic among young Indians. Compounding the problem is a system that barely recognizes mental health issues.

India has the world's highest suicide rate among 15 to 29 year olds, ahead of next-placed North Korea, according to a September report by the World Health Organization. For the first time, suicide is the leading cause of death among young Indian women, overtaking deaths during childbirth, the WHO says.In most parts of the world suicides tend to occur among the most disadvantaged groups, but in India they are happening among better educated young adults living in the most prosperous regions. In south India, where literacy rates and incomes are highest in the country, suicide rates are 10 times higher than in northern states, according to a study published in The Lancet medical journal in 2012. "Aspirations are at a much higher level and society around them is not always keeping pace, so the disappointment is much greater," said Vikram Patel, a professor at the London School of Hygiene and Tropical Medicine, who carried out the research.

MENTAL HEALTH NEGLECT As India's policymakers strive to put the country on a path to modernity, something akin to China's transformation of the past two decades, the young are feeling the pressure. In particular, young females.

Unlike the rest of the world where younger men are more likely to take their lives than women, in India the opposite is the case. Experts put this down to women's low status in society.

Compounding the issue, little help is at hand for those suffering from mental illness. In India, the condition often goes undiagnozed or untreated, and until a couple of months ago the country did not have national mental health policy. Spending on mental health accounts for 0.06 percent of the government's health budget, the lowest level in the world after Zimbabwe. For most Indians with mental illnesses "there is literally no care available", Harsh Vardan, then-health minister, said in October announcing plans to build more mental hospitals and train more psychiatrists.In January, the health ministry launched a nationwide program to provide community support for adolescents suffering from mental illness.

TRAPPEDIn the run-up to Chauhan's suicide, conflict had been building on different fronts. Exam pressure weighed heavily on her mind. There were disputes with her parents. She felt trapped between the competing ideals of old India and new.She lived in a village on the edge of Gurgaon where the timeless India of wheat fields and cattle-drawn carts abuts the frantically rising apartment towers of the budding middle class.

Chauhan didn't want to get married as a teenager, the path for most women in her village. In many families, once a woman gets married there is little chance for education and her primary job is to serve her husband's family.

"She had been arguing with her parents, who wanted her to get married, but she was ambitious, she wanted to prove herself and achieve her dreams," said her brother, Arun. When she scored zero on a physics paper she was crushed, fearing it would blemish her job chances. Chauhan along with other students pleaded with their teachers for the papers to be reassessed. Her university, Government Girls College, declined comment when contacted by Reuters, saying the case was under police investigation.

A teacher at the college, who asked not to be identified, said there was a mismatch between student's expectations and what they were capable of. "We find many students get a shock when they come here because they have been doing well in school and then they don't get good marks (here)."

Another teacher said that while the college provided counseling to students, the high student-to-teacher ratio meant some people missed the safety net. Pinki appeared to fall into that category.

Tragically, the college later said that what had pushed her to fatally strike a match was the result of an error. Pinki had in fact passed the exam, and was one of the best students performing in her class.

(Writing by Andrew MacAskill; Editing by John Chalmers and Jeremy Laurence)

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