Online v/s Offline Friendship

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sillage.

@sillage.

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Posted: 10 years ago

#21

Originally posted by: zorrro

Agree totally with this and I think this needs to be explored further.
The perils of anonymity is self evident. There are many examples of people who were duped on account of false Identity. I am more interested in knowing how or why anonymity can be advantageous and whether that is denied in a real life friendship.
Not all online friendship remain anonymous. People often share a lot of true information and get to know each other quite well, perhaps better than you get to know each other in real life. Besides, online friendship does not have to remain restricted to the virtual life as they can talk or meet in real life.

Anonymity allows the person to behave in any way he/she wants to without any fear of being judged,though true friends in real life too don't judge you but again true friends are very rare and scarce.So virtual friendship is preferable in this light.

Anonymity being denied in a real life friendship depends purely on the nature of people sharing it.It just may not be about identities here but about your innermost feelings and thoughts.In that way it can be very well denied which is mostly not the case in virtual friendship as you have to write mostly in this case describing your thoughts as only then one will be able to connect with the other person.

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@QuietlyLoud

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Posted: 10 years ago

#22

Well, it depends on what one mean by and expect from friendship.

If you are looking for someone to spend some spare time with and have fun,social networks are a good place to be.

But if you're looking for a kind of friend whom you can call at 3 am without having a second thought,then I'd say you're at a wrong place.That kind of friendship can't be built over the internet IMO unless you and your friend decide to meet in real life and take your relationship to another level.

Anyone can pretend to be anything over the internet.One could be a guy pretending to be a girl or vice versa and no one would ever know.Another thing is that people often tend to present a more likable version of themselves online,sometimes miles apart from their real selves.This is both the good and the bad side of online friendships.You could be anyone you want to be, which is impossible in real life.It gives them a certain amount of satisfaction,I think.But by doing so,you're deceiving the person at the other end.Who knows,they too might be doing the same with you so at the end of the day,two online friends who have never met in real life is actually being friends with this polished versions of themselves not the people they are in real life.Then there are people who are completely honest over the internet but you can never guarantee that from the other end unless you know them personally.This is the main downside of online friendships.Honesty is lacking.

Social networks are very helpful to keep in touch with the real life friends who are far apart.It keeps such friendships alive.At the same time, one could meet his virtual friend personally to built a more trustworthy relation.A good balance between the real and virtual world works the best in my opinion.

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@QuietlyLoud

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Posted: 10 years ago

#23

This topic reminded me of this 😆

[YOUTUBE]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A7pSpEuCs2s[/YOUTUBE]

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sillage.

@sillage.

Voyager

Posted: 10 years ago

#24

Originally posted by: QuietlyLoud
This topic reminded me of this 😆
[YOUTUBE]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A7pSpEuCs2s[/YOUTUBE]

Hehe..this was funny.😆

But I talked in rather narrow sense that is not cheesy stuff about love and attraction but sorely about friendship.

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sillage.

@sillage.

Voyager

Posted: 10 years ago

#25

Originally posted by: QuietlyLoud
Well, it depends on what one mean by and expect from friendship.
If you are looking for someone to spend some spare time with and have fun,social networks are a good place to be.
But if you're looking for a kind of friend whom you can call at 3 am without having a second thought,then I'd say you're at a wrong place.That kind of friendship can't be built over the internet IMO unless you and your friend decide to meet in real life and take your relationship to another level.

Anyone can pretend to be anything over the internet.One could be a guy pretending to be a girl or vice versa and no one would ever know.Another thing is that people often tend to present a more likable version of themselves online,sometimes miles apart from their real selves.This is both the good and the bad side of online friendships.You could be anyone you want to be, which is impossible in real life.It gives them a certain amount of satisfaction,I think.But by doing so,you're deceiving the person at the other end.Who knows,they too might be doing the same with you so at the end of the day,two online friends who have never met in real life is actually being friends with this polished versions of themselves not the people they are in real life.Then there are people who are completely honest over the internet but you can never guarantee that from the other end unless you know them personally.This is the main downside of online friendships.Honesty is lacking.

Social networks are very helpful to keep in touch with the real life friends who are far apart.It keeps such friendships alive.At the same time, one could meet his virtual friend personally to built a more trustworthy relation.A good balance between the real and virtual world works the best in my opinion.

Well put and a bit different from POV's shared here.

This gives me idea to edit my post for a debate b/w real friendship v/s virtual friendship.

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prtn

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Posted: 10 years ago

#26

It's a signal ...your post...today I was wondering whether the ppl I spoke to for three yrs in a show based forum would continue to interact now that our common interest in the show s over...I dont know the answer still but I've always believed in airtels tagline

Har ek friend zaroorI hota hain...Every friend has his her importance

So it doesn't matter if these online friends ive made fizzle out in future , for now for the past they understand and I understand their need to connect over something which I didn't find in my offline real friends ...not that they care for me less,they care for my interests less

So if it's me as a person maybe offline friends r the best as I can trust that they r wat I understand them to be

if its me and my interests in a show, in art in anything else maybe online friends are fine toobcoz my interest in them s limited perhaps to the interest and not the person...so wat if its a guy talking like a girl...as long as I get to discuss stuff which I want to...but yes this wud work only if we know our expectations clearly

I've never replied to a post in this place though ive read posts but this came at the right time for me...

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MsfairyCindreLa

@MsfairyCindreLa

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Posted: 10 years ago

#27

Well yes.. I believe in both.i met a friend in forum but she got bzy with her studies and wanted to leave IF. So she asked for my Email ID and we talked a lot thru mails. Afta somedays she completely became inactive in IF. I was sad, bcoz somehow I feel connected to her, we share the same thoughts not only about serails bug also about other life issues, and she had the same prob as mine, but thn later she texted me on TALK , and we are still "FRIENDS" and we chat on hangouts.

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Apoorva

@Sugar_Hugs

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Posted: 10 years ago

#28

Well whether ofline or online a friendship depends on how things take place between u and ur friends. Things should work out normally and should not be forced by anyone on anyone. I have many friends on IF or somewhere else but what I think that before tagging it as friendship the bond you share should be really tight and not just dependant n the virtual world.

And sometimes in life we come across such friends who are bound to us for life and it doesn't matter how they come in your life online and ofline but we are just glad that they are a part of our lives.

So concluding it I would like to say is online or offline doesn't really matter..What matters is ur friendship.

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373577

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Posted: 10 years ago

#29

Some of you have mentioned that you moved on from IF to email or chats but are they not all a part of virtual or online friendship?

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sillage.

@sillage.

Voyager

Posted: 10 years ago

#30

Originally posted by: zorrro
Some of you have mentioned that you moved on from IF to email or chats but are they not all a part of virtual or online friendship?

Ya it still is a part of Online Friendship but more personalized.

Don't we talk to real friends more through mails and various chats than one to one directly on phone.