two timing or real love - Page 8

Originally posted by: zorrro

Raises the question why a person would want to cheat in the first place? Is it knowingly or unknowingly? Is it the people themselves or the situation that is responsible?

Is it really such a calamity that it is often made out to be?

Originally posted by: -bLEu98-

I think I answered it. It is because the romantic ties are far less liberating that they ought to be. Because they are after all 'ties'. With the concept of fidelity and loyalty gone, there won't be any cheating either. And getting attracted to more than one is nothing new or extraordinary. It is normal and the sooner we accept it instead of treating our spouses as personal properties, the lesser the pain of being 'cheated on'. What you define as 'cheating' also needs to considered here. I've seen in some relationships, the persons involved would deem merely thinking of another person as 'cheating' or maybe exchanging text messages. What defines 'cheating'? If you are talking about establishing physical relationships, it is only an expression, the thought occurs in the mind first. Whether one chooses to express it or not becomes the defining condition of 'cheating'. In that case, more than spousal love, the one who may be infidel is merely responding to the societal tie by which he/she is bound to the spouse, by responding or not responding to his or her desires.

I hope I could answer you.

Originally posted by: -bLEu98-

@^^^

Cool... 😛 Sorry it sounds intricate. xD

Some of what you said percolated into me but the rest needs ruminating over I promise to think it over .

Originally posted by: zorrro

Is it possible for a person to be in love with two people at the same time?

If not then why do people cheat? Why not simply leave one for the other?

Would like to know what you think about it and especially what Loveprofusion has to say 😆

Originally posted by: zorrro

I wonder why this member- Hankspitball got banned. ❓

Originally posted by: -Aarya-

Live and let live; love and let love 😉

Originally posted by: -bLEu98-

I think I answered it. It is because the romantic ties are far less liberating that they ought to be. Because they are after all 'ties'.

Makes sense. "Ties", "bonds"--- cannot be liberating"hmmm.

With the concept of fidelity and loyalty gone, there won't be any cheating either.

We had some discussion on the "loyalty" part in the earlier pages. Would like to know how fidelity differs.

And getting attracted to more than one is nothing new or extraordinary. It is normal and the sooner we accept it instead of treating our spouses as personal properties, the lesser the pain of being 'cheated on'.

Exactly what I ve been saying all along. Summerbhai and King Anu are you reading? 😆 People have different qualities that we may admire. Should that mean that feeling attracted amounts to cheating!

What you define as 'cheating' also needs to considered here. I've seen in some relationships, the persons involved would deem merely thinking of another person as 'cheating' or maybe exchanging text messages.

I second that. I remember being shocked to read a discussion on a previous thread where some members questioned fidelity on similar lines. How does a person imprison the mind?

What defines 'cheating'? If you are talking about establishing physical relationships, it is only an expression, the thought occurs in the mind first. Whether one chooses to express it or not becomes the defining condition of 'cheating'. In that case, more than spousal love, the one who may be infidel is merely responding to the societal tie by which he/she is bound to the spouse, by responding or not responding to his or her desires.

Agreed. All the same if the person inspite of his or her thoughts chose not to indulge whether due to concern, care, principles, fairness, societal pressure"it should be appreciated. We may not have control over our thoughts but surely we can control our actions. Stronger the thoughts more difficult it would be to check actions. Therefore I would disagree with some sentiments expressed elsewhere that a one off physical indescretion is better than contd mental obsession . It does not sound possible.

I hope I could answer you.

Originally posted by: zorrro

Is it possible for a person to be in love with two people at the same time?

If not then why do people cheat? Why not simply leave one for the other?

Would like to know what you think about it and especially what Loveprofusion has to say 😆