In laws

okay are you girls crying now? lol. some of you have rebelled

You have asked good questions and they all deserve to be answered. You ask, 'What if a girl does not want to live with her in-laws and and what if she does not want to adjust to a new family?' Definitely any girl can ask these questions to herself. But why is she expecting the society to let her be in a certain way. The society is full of fear and the number of persons who follow their heart and be loving are not many. Yet God has endowed with every human being the capability to be a loving person and the capability to be a caring, compassionate, tender, gentle and understanding person. And the first person to whom you have to be loving, compassionate, gentle, tender and understanding is yourself and not any other person. You have every right to give importance to the pain within you. Remember you are your best friend and not your in-laws. Did the society encourage Jhansi Rani to be who she was? How did she become that? She followed her heart and gave importance to the pain within her. God has given special talents to everyone - both men and women. But it is the duty of each person to follow his or her talent. Can you read the life history of J.K.Rowling?

if you really don't want to stay with your in-laws, it is quite acceptable point. But just rebelling or crying or creating a scene doesn't help. You have to take responsibility to show that you are a woman of substance who can be like Jhansi Rani, Madame Curie or J.K.Rowling. As on today, I definitely know that my parents and my siblings are selfish people. But just lamenting this repeatedly and expecting them to change won't help me. But if I become courageous and take responsibility for myself and do the needful to follow my heart and value my talents, it helps me and I can become a renowned person or a man of substance.

our society is diff when it comes to men. and not living with ur in lazs doesnt mean u are selfish

I think living with others whether they are "in laws" or "out laws" require a lot of sacrifice, adjustment and accomodation; especially for a girl.

It definitely is "Imprisonment"... Good Luck to the ladies.😭

Funny thing is that if a Guy were to live in the girls home, it will not be so bad generally as men are less fastidious.😆

One of my friend's wife looked after her mother in law as they all stayed under one roof, the father in law having passed away many years ago.

She really looked after the MIL so well eventhough the MIL was sick, had diabetes and other ailments.

To such women I truly salute and have the greatest respect !👍🏼

Atleast here, I am not defaulted into choosing his parents. In fact, a lot of the times it is the woman's parents who help out.

Plus, you don't have to live with them. Ideally, one would like to have personal space as well as give the elderly couple some space too.

The best option is to be cordial but not in each other's business.

It is only when difficult decisions such as palliative care come into play that moving in will be an option.

What I am trying to say is, the culture here is different. People make their own life decisions and the society seems to be okay with it.

If it weren't my choice, I don't know what I'd do. Not marry someone who would make me compromise I suppose.