Is it worth it to commit suicide because ^ doesn't love you?

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Posted: 12 years ago

I read the story of Gia Allemand last night. Her boyfriend said "I don't love you anymore" on the same day of her suicide. It reminded a bit of Jiah Khan (which was of course different) but there were some similarities in both stories. It happens to men too. Some commit suicide because they are in a unhappy relationship or their gf leaves them for another person.

Have you considered doing something silly for the opposite sex? In retrospect what are your thoughts about it now? Would you do it again if you had to? What are your thoughts on these decisions?

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Summer3

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Posted: 12 years ago

"It is better to have loved and lost rather than never at all."

Some persons are just too emo so they feel too deeply. Problem with love and attachment is that when a certain person we love is gone it feels as if there is a vacuum in our lives. With a little time and effort this feeling of sorrow with go away.

Often it is said that the heart refuses to listen to the mind.

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Posted: 12 years ago

I dont know how suicide and death can be of any worth for any reason let alone love. Today she is no more and her boyfriend must be looking for another girlfriend. I dont know for whom she gave her life. Someone told me that person was son of Aditya Pancholi.

Getting over love seems to be a difficult situation. I can understand that. However giving your life over it or over anything else is not worth it. You dont live for yoursel only. There are other people who die with you as well. We need to live for them.

Note: I am excluding people who die for noble causes like protecting lives of others.

@ Summer: I disagree with "It is better to have loved and lost rather than never at all."

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Posted: 12 years ago

I was twelve when I considered self harm for the opposite sex. In retrospect, I am quite sure today that there never existed a bigger idiot. Then again, I was really only a baby and it taught me things I value now. But the point still remains that actual love cannot cause self harm. If you love them, you tell em. And it'd be a happy accident if they love you back. But if they don't, I don't see why that's a reason to kill yourself. If I love them but they don't love me, I'd let them be and ideally, they should do the same.

And about unhappy relationships, it's better to do ourselves a favor and not be in such relationships, hoping we'd be loved back someday and be used like a doormat. Because you cannot extract love outta someone for you. If they don't reciprocate when 'that's how much you love em', they probably never will.

It is not worth it, to answer your question. In fact, nothing is.

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Posted: 12 years ago

Suicide is multi-factorial. There isn't just one reason people can point at for committing suicide. One can never understand others' mental capacity and what they might have gone through in life to have taken a decision of ending their lives. And hopefully no one ever has to go through what they went through in order to understand the ultimate dilemma of life.

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Kya.Bolta.Tu

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Posted: 12 years ago

Originally posted by: digitalcamera
Have you considered doing something silly for the opposite sex? In retrospect what are your thoughts about it now? Would you do it again if you had to? What are your thoughts on these decisions?

There was a time when I was so madly infatuated with someone that was almost on the verge of depression,but that was long back.Now I am more stronger than before and tbh have learnt a lot from it.But no it was never so bad that I had a thought of ending my life,but yeah once was so much under pressure that thought of actually quitting,but yeah got back my senses.

Being in such a position that you actually start thinking of ending life I think is a matter of a moment,that one moment if you see some hope you can come out of it or it may get worse from there,really depends on circumstances.

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Posted: 12 years ago

So lets say I lose all hope and have no possible way of achieving my love ever again. I'm completely down in a ditch and I surely can't get out, I should still not commit suicide. Why? As humans our purpose isn't entirely to find happiness, love, or some other form of overjoyed feeling that makes us feel of another world. While we experience these feelings we also experience hate, jealousy, melancholy and other forms of negative thoughts.

These feelings will all come and go but some might not be able to take such negative emotions and insist on suicide but if one does feel that way, I hope they know the purpose of life it to keep moving forward because once you end your life you'll never be able to experience the beautiful things in life. It's really not worth it. 😳

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Kankshita

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Posted: 12 years ago

I put up some admirable thoughts up there, didn't I? 🤡 But here's what I have learnt in two short days about wanting to kill yourself. You never do it for people. You don't consider it because someone doesn't love you. You only consider it when you're lagging behind and you lack the conviction to keep going. That's why what other people find petty issues end up killing people. They also assume that they love others more than their own selves. What do I know? Suicides happen in moments of weakness. But everybody generally weak tries to imagine themselves doing it.

I'm trying to be stronger.

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Posted: 12 years ago

Originally posted by: jatisahu
Ask yourself - Do you feel so worthless without that person that you should die? If the answer is yes then why would that person say yes to such a worthless person?

I agree. But when we bring the actual person into the question, doesn't it mean we're too weak to examine our problems on our own? Why do we need to understand what we're facing with respect to them?

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Posted: 12 years ago

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There is no need for suicide if you are healthy.

Everything is possible with health so long as we put our mind to it.

Too much greed results in disappointments and greater loss. Best is to be balanced.

At times we are overwhelmed with problems and hopefully we can ride the storm by being patient.

Problems of the heart are minor incidents or setbacks upon the total map of our journey. There is always plenty of love everywhere to carry us through.

Once we become too old and bedridden, and a burden to society, it may be best to perhaps make an early exit. We often will have to wait for our turn and finish the last bit of karma.