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Posted: 19 years ago
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This is a new topic which I am introducing for a debate, its going to be very challenging one and has a very very very very secret hidden topic and highly critical one which challenges arises many questions. My explanation might be very disgusting or vague or mixed or emotional but its a question which no egoistic man can answer. It does not mean a man should not have ego but it challenges a controlled behaviour of a man which only few mens have.

It can be answered only with truth and answers with ego and manhood problems cannot lead it anywhere.

So here it goes..

Hello Everyone,

I am Madhura. I work in a Senior position in a company. I am married and have a kid.

I have to tell people and make them understand about certain things.

It is about the affairs, extra-marital relationships and divorces happening all over.

Not sure if this is the right way to start but looking into all the super stars of our bollywood industries who create a lot of impact on our kids, their lifestyles and their thoughts. They have more responsibility than just a career and their own family life, its like they are setting an example for the generations to come. Just the same way our parents set an example for us so do they.

When Azharuddin and Amir Khan left their wives for another womens of their fantasy, this created a lot of disturbance on the audience.

I want to speak for all the cheatings, extra-marital affairs and divorces.

When a boy or a girl cheats, the signs are very clear, so the innocent people being cheated need to awaken and break up and not to accept the relationship inspite of that. I want to tell them that PLEASE GUYS LEARN TO SAY 'NO', HAVE 'PATIENCE', YOU WILL CERTAINLY FIND SOMEONE REALLY WORTH OF IN THE NEAR FUTURE, YOU JUST NEED TO WORK HARD FOR YOUR CAREER AND WAIT. DONOT SUBMIT YOURSELF OR LET ANY RUTHLESS PERSON TO HURT YOUR FEELINGS. (i got a bit emotional here)

Extra-marital affairs and divorces happen due to these reasons:

GOOD HUSBANDS generally cheat wives or get divorced because:

-they need to have fun for sometime
-frustration of work or too much pressure
-nagging wife
-ugly wife or bored with or does not love her
-fantasy of achieving other womens
-wants to satisfy his ego
-wife not listening to him
-wife is being stubborn
-not being able to fulfill her wishes
-wife is more successful than him
-when he purposely wants to hurt his wife due to some reason
-not married to the girl of his choice
-attracted to other womens with lot of varieties outside
-because he is a man he craves and capable of doing that
-while some mens are just prone to it

GOOD WIVES cheat husband or get divorced because they want to continue with their career, to ignore their husbands extra-marital affair, they are not physically satisfied by their husband or some womens are just prone to it

NOW LETS SWITCH THE THOUGHTS OF THE GOOD WIVES AND GOOD HUSBANDS FOR SOMETIME AND SEE WHAT HAPPENS IF, A WOMAN DOES SOMETHING A MAN DO AND A MAN DOES SOMETHING A WOMAN CAN DO.

Let husbands have the extra-marital affair because their wives are cheating on them, because their wives cannot physically satisfy them, else because husband want to continue with working late and wife being lonely AND cannot accept it.

Let the wives have the extra-marital affair because:
-they need to have fun for sometime
-frustration of household work and nasty kids
-nagging husband due to his work frustration
-ugly husband and no physical satisfaction
-fantasy of achieving other good looking mens
-want to satisfy her ego because her husband is always
watching Beyonce
-husband being stubborn about everything and not listening to her
-not being able to cook properly
-husband being consistent in his career got successful and she
left her job for him when they got married so now she is completely dependent on him and so not competitive and earning as compared to other single womens to which her husband is getting attracted to
-when she purposely wants to hurt her husband due to some reason
-not married to the husband of her choice
-attracted to other mens with lot of varieties outside
-because he is a longing woman who craves physical satisfaction and capable of doing that
-while some womens are just prone to it

Did mens really realize what will happen if their wives start doing all the things which they have been doing.

My question is what will people say:

1) If, Amir Khan's wife left him and her kids and got married to another man

2) If, Azharuddin's wife left him and his kids and got married to Dino Morea

3) If, Jaya Bhaduri had an affair with Vinod Mehra will Amitabh Bacchan will accept her back.

MY QUESTION IS WHY INDIAN MAN CANNOT ACCEPT HIS WIFE HAVING AN EXTRA MARITAL AFFAIR?

IF A MARRIED MAN CAN LOVE ANOTHER WOMAN THEN WHY CANT A MARRIED WOMAN LOVE ANOTHER MAN?

WHY DO INDIAN MENS THINK ONLY THIS WAY THAT SINCE HE IS A MAN HE CAN GO TO OTHER WOMAN BUT HIS WIFE SHOULD NOT, WHY THIS ANIMAL TREATMENT, EVEN A WOMAN IS A HUMAN BEING, SHE HAS FEELING TOO, SHE ALSO GETS HURT, THEN WHY THIS MAN AND WOMAN THING.

MY QUESTION IS WHY DOES A MARRIED MAN DOES NOT STICK TO HIS WORDS AND WHY HE COMMITS FOR MARRIAGE WHEN HE IS NOT STRONG ENOUGH TO SUSTAIN THE MARRIAGE?

Please post this message because i need to know what people think. I am looking for an answer which is free from ego and free from bond of manhood. The same manhood and orthodox thought which said that a woman should live a sad life of lonliness after her husband dies, she has to shave her head and become 'vidhva' or become 'sati' by burning herself in the fire.

Why people cannot see this silent fire of 'sati' in another form of affairs and divorce which is eating the womens from inside and this is certainly going to burst out one day.


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Posted: 19 years ago
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wow that was long. hmmm. You have posed some good questions . Lets see what our male debators have to say.
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Posted: 19 years ago
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intersting...very interesting

yup wanna hear wat the males have to say...solidsnake ji, abhijit ji, iron ji..and other male debators...where r u
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Posted: 19 years ago
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i don't think its just the man, but the society that decides that it is acceptable if a man cheats, its not his fault, itz always something wrong with his wife that drives him to it... but if a woman cheats the society decides tht it is not ok, n that the husband shld not accept it, n the woman shld be punished all her life for it
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Posted: 19 years ago
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Great!!!! Extra martial affairs from the men's point of view👏👏👏 Fabulous job Madhura ji😃

Come on all the men... answer the exam questions! (probably we women will give the marks!!)
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Posted: 19 years ago
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hm, i dont have time right now to answer all of ur questions but i just wanted to say great topic
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Posted: 19 years ago
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Whats sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander 😉 . If a man has an affair a wife has to be entitled to have two...is what I believe 😃
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Posted: 19 years ago
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I am still a bechalor, so should I comment? 😉 😆
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Posted: 19 years ago
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Originally posted by: SolidSnake

I am still a bechalor, so should I comment? 😉 😆



Yes plz. U will be married some day.
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Posted: 19 years ago
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Originally posted by: Iron

Shaddi woh ladoo hai jo kha ker bhi pachtayye aoor na kha ker bhi pachtayye

Issiliye Bheedu, agar pachtanna hi hai to kha ker hi pachtayyo...😆

Aapko itna sab kaise pata? Aap halwaai hain kya?😆

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