Practicality vs Reality

Lets look at the issue of "practicality and reality" in context of modern Bollywood. I had the misfortune of watching the movie "Student of the Year".

It is about school kids (see a sample of a "school kid" below) and a competition in school i.e. student of the year. Typical love triangle between a modern girl (similar to kareena from kabhi khushi), a rich dude (dhawan) and of course a poor kid (don't know the name) who is hard working and talented and there to win it all. Add to it a billionaire environment, a suppressed lady (mom in this case), resorts as homes, school that looks like a 5 star hotel, prada, versace, ferrari, gucci, and other expensive stuff. Since this is Karan Johar add a gay character as well and there you go a modern Bollywood movie is there.

I have two issues

1) Now if I stretch my imagination a little (lets say US to India in terms of distance) then I can see everyone as school going children and participating in "prom" and all that. Fine ok. However can someone tell me how the heck this uncle ended up as a school going kid?

2) My feeling is that this uncle is portrayal of Karan Johar himself. In the end uncle loses it and gives a lecture to principal on how he is wrong (similar to Shahrukh and Bachan scene in Mohabbatein) in holding such competitions where there is dance and all that. Uncle argues that its unfair since "kids" like him cannot get a dance partner/date and therefore cannot win. What happened was that uncle, instead of a girl, got another school going boy as a date (a bearded one, see below) and therefore the issue.

Originally posted by: .Baazigar.

@Anu we will get these type of thrash fantasy served by bollywood. Imagine people celebrate when these type of movies earn 100 crores without thinking 300 looted from their own pocket. Recently i saw a movie the band's visit , what a brilliant movie . Realistic , down to earth, a movie that portray ordinary human character who see themselves as human only. May be our bollywood is miles away from these kind of movies . When there is a easy way of manufacture animosity among people this movie is simply brilliant one that shows realistic side of human. Till we gulp down these kind of thrash unrealistic thrash SOTY , these people will waste crores on them serve drugs like moon walking serials and wonderland movies .

http://www.utvworldmovies.com/schedule/

The Band's Visit

Originally posted by: shalini1323

Some debatable points :

1) Is it better to be practical and lead a "safe" life or is it better to be a little bit of a dreamer and take a bit of risks ?
Much better to be a risk taker but only within some limits. No point in taking a risk just to go bungee jumping for no reason. There is a difference between thrills and risks. Real risks are about challenging ourselves and getting out of that comfort zone to try a lesser taken path.

2) Do we make lives complicated by wondering over "what could have been" instead of fixing whatever that's in our hands right now ?
Absolutely. We need to focus on whatever is in front of us at the moment and just enjoy life. You can't continuously live in regret. Life changes every second and even every millisecond so we lose big time when we waste the precious moments on what could have been.

3) Why do people form regrets - is it because they are too coward to take a risk ? Or is it because they did not do what they want to in their lives because the time wasn't right ?
Regrets are all about hindsight. They say hindsight is 20-20 because we always have a better solution and better ideas after the fact. We also sometimes end up waiting for too long, so sometimes it's best not to think about when the time is right.

4) Who decides when the time is right, anyway? Our age/parents/spouse etc ?
In this day and age it has become very fashionable to make our own independent choices. Independence is good but it's not just our lives. Our loved ones are always a factor. When I was younger I did not want to get married even though my parents really wanted me to. Then I had a child and even that was not planned by my husband and I. But now I am happy. At 32, I am glad I already had my kid and she is 4 and I can spend time running behind her, with the sleepless nights stage behind us. Either way I think we all end up in different situations than we dreamt of but that's the beauty of life. You learn to appreciate those changes and sudden turns and you learn a lot about yourself in the process.

Do share some experiences too ! 😳

Originally posted by: shalini1323

Just read an interesting article this morning :

http://spotlightxoxo.wordpress.com/2013/02/10/the-bridge-between-the-ideal-life-and-your-life/

Some debatable points :

1) Is it better to be practical and lead a "safe" life or is it better to be a little bit of a dreamer and take a bit of risks ?

Choose "safe" life if you are ready for some epic amount of boredom.

2) Do we make lives complicated by wondering over "what could have been" instead of fixing whatever that's in our hands right now ?

Sometimes, yes.

Sometimes it is better to sit and wonder "what could have been" instead of regretting that action later on.

3) Why do people form regrets - is it because they are too coward to take a risk ? Or is it because they did not do what they want to in their lives because the time wasn't right ?

Who knows...

4) Who decides when the time is right, anyway? Our age/parents/spouse etc ?

Why does anyone have to decide for you? Look, everyone has their own set of troubles to worry about. You are the best judge, having gone through all the experiences yourself.. so do what you feel like. You can take advice (its good to learn from others mistakes) but it has to be your choice since you are the one who is going to live with it.

Do share some experiences too ! 😳