Originally posted by: Beyond_the_Veil
@ Rehan: It may not be possible to reform Islam in the right direction, but "Muslims" can always pick and choose what they want to follow. The thing is, the Bible is meant to be unchangeable too - but how many Christians actually follow the Leviticus and throws stones at people who disrespects their parents? If I am not wrong, slavery and pedophilia are condoned in the Bible too.
You are right - Muslims who would not follow the basic tenets of Islam may not be true Muslims - they may not even be proper Muslims in the proper definition of the world. Yet, there's nothing wrong with them labeling themselves as Muslims as a cultural identity. I mean the basic principle of Christianity revolves around Jesus being the savior of mankind - yet, I have come across "Christians" who don't believe in the Bible, consider Jesus fictional and even questions the existence of God. By all meaningful purpose of the word, they are not Christians, but they still regard themselves as such and I see no problem with that honestly.
"Muslims" can also follow a similar route.
As for marital rape - I don't know. I think it is criminalized in my country though. Here's a pretty good article on it by a Muslim scholar: http://www.suhaibwebb.com/relationships/marriage-family/spouse/question-regarding-marital-rape/
I hope it is criminalized in every country soon enough.
The difference between Christianity and Islam is that Christian texts were never considered to be authored by God in person - rather they were 'inspired' by God's word, or so is the belief, and written by men. Its a well known fact that Bible, as we know it today, was compiled three centuries after Christ in the Council of Nicea. Consequently it didn't hurt Christians much to accept Biblical laws as a fallible and temporal documents. Whereas Quran is supposed to be the verbatim word of God that is applicable for all time and thus its impossible for a Muslim to amend it while still calling himself a Muslim...Secondly, the kernel of Christianity is merely faith in Jesus Christ, while that of Islam is absolute submission and obedience to Allah and Muhammad. In fact Muslims are very proud that while Jews and Christians have gone astray in the way of unbelief, Muslims alone remain true to the word of God to the letter.
Your country Bangladesh is no more an Islamic state than India is. Bengalis, just like Indian Muslims, had never accepted Islamic culture wholeheartedly; though recently there seems to be a rise in Islamism among both these communities. And Bangladesh doesn't follow an Islamic law - it follows the English Law (same as India's, with little modifications) - the Indian Penal Code 1860, under which domestic rape is a crime.
Thirdly, the link you provided offers very weak defense to its claims..It doesn't cite any injunction from Quran that explicitly prohibits marital rape. It merely says that husband is not suppose to harm his wife, provide for her food and clothing and take care of her the way shepherd takes care of his cattle..In fact it accepts that its obligatory for a wife to "respond to his husband's request for intimacy, such that he would not need to bring a complaint against her". What is that supposed to mean? Clearly, the wife doesn't have much choice there. And if using force is indeed forbidden, then how would the author reconcile it with husband's right to beat his wife in case he "fears disobedience" (4.34)?
Already in 3rd world countries there is a tendency to deny any such phenomenon called marital/spousal rape..Take India for example - according to a study an astonishing 87% of Indian women have faced spousal rape at one point or other. Yet only a fraction of it is reported and most of the time the police refuses to lodge a FIR because they can't fathom how a wife can possibly accuse her own legally married husband of 'rape'! Surely, the wife is characterless! Even the well-educated judges advise women to take back their complaints and 'learn to adjust a little' because it will destroy "Indian family system" if we are to prosecute every husband for every little excess..That's why I am as ruthless in my criticism of India's hypocritical culture and fake values as I am of Islam..Now imagine if this is endorsed by religion and sanctioned by the Creator of the Universe Himself, which woman would dare to complain?
Yes, you may call a person Moderate Muslim or Liberal Muslim or Agnostic Muslim or Atheist Muslim or Gay Muslim etc, but I am not quite in favour of this. Because I feel this so called moderation provides a tacit cover to extremists who follow their book to the letter. Also you must understand that most Muslims - be it liberal, moderate or orthodox - fear Allah and punishment of Hell beyond everything else. So its easier for the fundamentalist Mullahs and Imams to guilt trip the heterodox Muslims of ignoring Allah's commandments with the threat of hell and judgement day. Most of them would revert back to orthodoxy, or at least not oppose it, once they are convinced that doing so would help them to win Allah's favor and secure a place in Heaven - something that Muslims greed above any thing in this world. That is why its safer to try and eradicate Islam rather than reform or reinterpret it..