Why Parents stay only with sons!! - Page 3

Originally posted by: pretty_kuri

What if they see damaad ji buying balloons and ice creams for gals,fir kya hoga,kingy?😛

BTW,I heard desis quite like good looking,educated bachelor desi damaad's,you also FIT the criteria,kisi ne kuch kaha?😛😆

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It'd be better if parents don't pay any mind to what people say,and there are few who don't even drink or eat in their daughter's house😕

Originally posted by: tannipartner

Its actually mindset and also at time sense of freedom that exists at a sons house apparantly, which is HOuse and daughter's house which is her house..

For example, until recently i had 3 grandparents, my mother's parents and my grandma on my dad's side. She lives with us, always has been. All the three are terribly strong people and freedom loving. My nana and nani they rarely stayed overnight. But then again we live considerably closer to the other house.

since 2010, failing health of my grandpa and also my grandma forced my ma to take care of her 3 children at the same time. So she has to shuttle between this house and that house. It was not easy as she was not getting any younger and had 3 major operations done to her. And no matter how many millions of time we would tell them to come stay here, they will not shut shop and come here and stay. The maximum they stayed was for 7 days. Nah who will worship the murats at house and so on issues. And my gramp always said, no way i ma staying all the time in my daughters house and been taken care of by my son in law. After he passed away, my grandma came and stayed with us for about a month after all the ceremonies were over, mostly coz of the companionship from my dadi maa. and then she promptly ran back to her house rather stay with daughter.

my bua literally begs my dadi to go stay with her for long periods of time. My dadi will not budge. she would stay here at our house, do puja, chatter with ma. Sometimes these things give rise to unpleasant situations like talks dadi favouring my father or financially. and even cousin rivalry about which one is more loved by the grandparents.

Financially none of the 3 oldies needed and need a dime from my dad to sustain, all had their respective jobs and enjoy pension now. But neither did my nana come and stay with us long term, nor does my naani, and my dadi will not live this house and stay with my bua for long terms.

And what do our modern papa and maa have to say in all it. Me and my sister are both working people who have their own comfortable independant life in two different cities, we are not even married. But they already have said they will never come and stay with us now permanently and will never ever do it once we get married. Because we will be paraya dhan.

To hell with modern education and bringing up your daughters, educating them as emancipated human beings without any discrimination for them being females.

Originally posted by: -varun-

Hey..im a guy and honestly your topic brought a smile to my face. 😊😊 aww i so understand your plights but nothing can be done! These traditions are very logical and time immemorial !

Originally posted by: Savage

Parents live with their sons because their daughters live with their husbands, and mostly the house is anymore theirs to share with anyone as the housemaid's. 🐷 That's disquieting. Otherwise, if the girls are unmarried or have sensible in-laws, her parents might as well live with her if they have mutual cooperation.

Originally posted by: rogna

It's a tradition passed down from one generation to another generation from the distance past. I don't think such a tradition that has been so deep embedded in part of the culture can so easily change.

Originally posted by: -Xaffron-

If you're talking w.r.t. the Indian culture, then I suppose this trend would only change on an individual basis. On a larger scale, however, this practice is prevalent and will continue prevailing. Unfortunately, this trend is deep-rooted in our society; way beyond the comprehension of an ordinary person.

Some of the major contributors to this social practice:

1. It's highly demeaning for a guy to live with his father-in-law. It's looked down upon.
2. It's highly uncivil for a woman to live with her parents after marriage.
3. The daughter-in-law is perceived as the Laxmi of the house, and is, therefore, responsible for bringing in good fortune to the family.

Those are the major reasons why girls dread living with their parents after marriage.