Romantically Involved Cousins - Page 3

harrydeo, my friend, i mean no offence i see that u joined this forum in nov but yet have only 18 posts as yet. and all but one are only regarding this cousin marriage thingy...what is u'r agenda if i may ask? are u trying to propogate/preach cousin marriages? 😕

Originally posted by: winnie_pooh

harrydeo, my friend, i mean no offence i see that u joined this forum in nov but yet have only 18 posts as yet. and all but one are only regarding this cousin marriage thingy...what is u'r agenda if i may ask? are u trying to propogate/preach cousin marriages? 😕

Hi winnie_pooh
What type of question is this. If you dont like it , dont participate in conversation. We have a rule in this forum No personal attack.

I talk on topic which interests me. You talk on which you want. Thats it. It is a debate manson. If you wanna debate you are welcome here. May be I learn something from you and you from me. Come share your opinion. We will talk

This is not the way to answer on any forum. Debate on topic.

I have seen sucides, I have seen suffering couples. I have seen those loving couples who want to share their feeling with open world but cant do it and yet made the best lovers in this world

That is the reason why started to find the things about this whole topic. and I found some really interesting things which I want to share with the community. I walso want to check the response. How it goes. Also I want to see the topics from both sides. Thats why I'm here.



You might have noticed this is one of the highest interest (or read) topic.

riiite...
Is it safe to come out.....? 😕 lol...
My view is that first cousins (fathers brothers kids, etc) are taboo. You are brought up as sister/brother and that relationship is not to be played around with. I'm sorry if this offends anyone, but this is the way i feel.

i do know of 3 couples who have married in their family. One couple are first cousins, the second third and the 3rd couple are i think 4th/5th generation. All the children are "special". And i mean that in the nicest way possible. the saddest part is that these couples continued having kids, between the 3 couples there r 8 kids. (2 and 3,3 respectively) and all are handicapped, physically or mentally or both. what type of people break up families to satisfy their own desires then knowingly do this to their children. I know the chances of their kids being special were not 100%, but the fact remains that after all the couples had 1 child each, seeing that the kids are handicapped, they continued - hoping that something would change. i understand that this hope is natural, however now those kids greater family(grandparents, uncles, aunts,etc) shun them and their parents have become bitter - all due to their selfish desires. Having said this, i understand that this is possibly a once in a million possibility (rather thrice in a million)... however, this proves to me that one needs to consider everything and when elders and family take a decision one cannot go against them because you feel you are right. The father of one of these kids actually committed suicide, leaving behnd a devastated wife and 2 adorable kids... after going against his family who initaiaaly warned him against it, he was too weak to follow thro with his so-called open-minded and mature decision. Well, this is a rather morbid story, and this is not the deciding factor in my arguement - i think it is simply wrong and immoral. not simply because of the consequences, but because a sister/brother relationship is sacred and should remain so.
If this is what kissing cousins leads to, i'd rather marry a stranger!!!

Originally posted by: DivyaD

riiite...
Is it safe to come out.....? 😕 lol...
My view is that first cousins (fathers brothers kids, etc) are taboo. You are brought up as sister/brother and that relationship is not to be played around with. I'm sorry if this offends anyone, but this is the way i feel.

i do know of 3 couples who have married in their family. One couple are first cousins, the second third and the 3rd couple are i think 4th/5th generation. All the children are "special". And i mean that in the nicest way possible. the saddest part is that these couples continued having kids, between the 3 couples there r 8 kids. (2 and 3,3 respectively) and all are handicapped, physically or mentally or both. what type of people break up families to satisfy their own desires then knowingly do this to their children. I know the chances of their kids being special were not 100%, but the fact remains that after all the couples had 1 child each, seeing that the kids are handicapped, they continued - hoping that something would change. i understand that this hope is natural, however now those kids greater family(grandparents, uncles, aunts,etc) shun them and their parents have become bitter - all due to their selfish desires. Having said this, i understand that this is possibly a once in a million possibility (rather thrice in a million)... however, this proves to me that one needs to consider everything and when elders and family take a decision one cannot go against them because you feel you are right. The father of one of these kids actually committed suicide, leaving behnd a devastated wife and 2 adorable kids... after going against his family who initaiaaly warned him against it, he was too weak to follow thro with his so-called open-minded and mature decision. Well, this is a rather morbid story, and this is not the deciding factor in my arguement - i think it is simply wrong and immoral. not simply because of the consequences, but because a sister/brother relationship is sacred and should remain so.
If this is what kissing cousins leads to, i'd rather marry a stranger!!!

It is very sad to hear that this happened to these families. However, there have been three or four cousin marriages in my family and the kids were perfectly normal.

I think in general people take a risk in having kids. It depends on how strong the parents are in accepting disabled kids.

As mentioned very earlier there are medical risks are associated even with nonrelated couples.

According to A New York Times Article (April 4, 2002)

In the general population, the risk that a child will be born with a serious problem like spina bifida or cystic fibrosis is 3 percent to 4 percent.

to that background risk, first cousins must add another 1.7 to 2.8 percentage points.

That is too, when you have some genetical issue already going in the family. (means some kind of bad genes in family).

Please see following URL for complete article:-
http://query.nytimes.com/gst/fullpage.html?res=9C06EFDC1E3AF 937A35757C0A9649C8B63&sec=health&pagewanted=all

I know numerous of Cousin couples having very qute and healthy childrens.

DivyaD it was really sad to hear your story. i think each individual have their way to make decisions. I personally don't like going against parents and marrying someone you love. Parents are my first priority no matter how much I love the opposite person and I would never marry my lover if my parents or his parents don't approve.

I think this was the similar case. This was more of a going against parents and having love marriage issue. And it was definetly sad to see the father give up his life. Who said parenting was easy? huh!

Harrydoe..i would say if parents are ok with such relashion one should not care about society, but if parents are not ok they should take step back. Though i still find this whole topic disgusting, but it is just my way belief!

I agree with Soumya !! Its your own life eventually you can choose to kiss who ever you wish !! Its a free society !!

Also i do believe if you think you are right you should not bother justifying your actions !!

Lastly i too think if 2 cousins want to marry who are we to stop them !! But i will continue thinking its perverted . But then thats just me !!

Originally posted by: winnie_pooh

harrydeo, my friend, i mean no offence i see that u joined this forum in nov but yet have only 18 posts as yet. and all but one are only regarding this cousin marriage thingy...what is u'r agenda if i may ask? are u trying to propogate/preach cousin marriages? 😕

good question winnie. i would like to ask you the same. you seem to have started two threads both on the same subjects, and dont participate in any other debates. and this is not a most widely read thread as you claim. in your first thread whoever wrote in, have not changed their views in this thread either. talking on a subject that interests you is fine too. but is this the only subject that you are interested in? honestly like winnie has asked -it makes me wonder too - is there an agenda or something?

Originally posted by: jasunap

good question winnie. i would like to ask you the same. you seem to have started two threads both on the same subjects, and dont participate in any other debates. and this is not a most widely read thread as you claim. in your first thread whoever wrote in, have not changed their views in this thread either. talking on a subject that interests you is fine too. but is this the only subject that you are interested in? honestly like winnie has asked -it makes me wonder too - is there an agenda or something?

Yar this is debate. People on this forum talk about maliika sherwat to Fair and Lovely. We even talk on topics like bollywood movies going bold or cheap.

I'm not saying that above topics are not good. They are also great.

But I wanted to see a community response over this subject. Mostly not so talked subject. However if you guys are felling offended by these posts, I'm sorry for that.

It is like just another topic. If you think of it like an agenda tell me what it can be.

It is like one simple thing participate in it or leave it.

I'm very sorry for any one who is offended by this post. And if moderator believes that this is really very bad topic started here I would like to request him to remove this topic.

Hope this will make jasunap and winnie happy. Open for moderator decison.

Hey guys this topic is quite o.k !!! Its given some life to DM after a while . Usually the more controversial the topic ........more the responses !!

Even if there is an agenda .........One can have an agenda .There is no rule on this forum against one !!

harrydeo you've certainly given very compelling arguments !! Not that its changed any ones mind it seems from the previous post of yours !!

But good going !! Good topic !! Only as a Dev team member i request you plz don't start a fight !!